Confuse of my current situation with my Libra BF

I need someone's advise regarding with my situation,my Libra Boyfriend. I am in relationship of one month with my boyfriend. First 2-weeks, he is super duper sweet towards me,were even talking about future together (but i don't take it seriously). I like him a lot, we get along so much, we dine all the time in nice restaurant, watch play , watch sports together. Seems like both of us are unstoppable. After being close and intimate to one another, he offered me to leave some clothes in his place so i have stuff to use in case i sleepover. Sleeping over occurs many times, and it was great, and we both feel so connected to one another. Recently, I spend 3days staying at his place..after 2days, i noticed he is slowing down plus he is stress too from work (which he told me he have lots of prob at work). And we text each other, it took him a while before i will get his reply. So in short, i see a little strange of change in him. But when i asked him, he said nothing is wrong, and keep telling me to relax. I am a leo, and when it comes to my emotions i am very open, honest and loyal. What bothers me i say it upfront. Moreover, lastnite, i got a text from him that he wants to talk about. And of course, it bothers me and ask him about it. He told me about minimize my sleeping over and give him space. He said he feels suffocated and his not ready for it yet. So i confronted him , that itis his idea of me sleep there all the time, and leave my stuff there, he change the topic, and said let it go and dont want to talk about it. He gaves me big confusing this time about what he wants. One day, i went to his place and bring a friend of mine, she is pretty and smart andhse is aquarius as i know of. Were drinking, and i can tell something that they both connected, and i am very quite in one corner that seems like i am not existing. I can tell they both flirting each other (or maybe my possessiveness occurs only), but i am very jealous!..but after my friend leaves, he is very sweet to me and we even made love.....
Furthermore, today i contacted him and wanted to talk with him about whats bothering regarding "sleepover". I told him i rather get my stuff, and give him space. Instead he return my question and telling me that "if thats what you to do", Of course i told him, Thats not what i want to do, i love you but if your not happy with me, then let me go instead of playing with my emotions. So i ask him before i hang up the phone if his happy, he still replied "yes i am h

You sound JUST like the other Leo chick who came here like a month ago (whenever it was). SAME shit.

Back off. You're going to cling on and just make shit worse. You know moving that fast within a month was too much, and now here he is putting on the brakes and you have a problem with it?


...is it sad that after reading the first 2 lines I had a feeling she was a Leo? :/

Thanks for giving me an advise. I do really appreciate it much. I think u guys are righT that i am too clingy and taking advantage of our togetherness. I sent him a text that we both need space and i think im overreacting of his intentions of sleeping over. I dont wanna lose him, and i guess giving him space will give him a thougth if our relationship is worth to move forward. Were both matured people, and were not like teenager kind of relatiinship. His divorced and im single parent. I respect him a lot, and i dont like any confrontation, and were both the same page. If he do realy wants me, i do hope he makes way for that...i wil distance for awhile and respect him his space he wants. Infact tomorrow, we have plans of going out with my friends (aqua friend is around too as well)..so i text him today, so im sure he ia pretty smart of knowing that we wont see for awhile......do u guys think i did right of this move? I hope so.....any thoughts are welcome and thanks again.

To update..after sending him a text he replied me like " its okay baby, just relax and dont overthink everything"....i want us to respect each other....his a great person and i love him so much..

Sugarfoot said it girl!! Listen to her insight advice, as I have many libra friends I feel that I know libras pretty well and her advice is exactly what you should do, let him come to you.. let him miss you, dont be clingy or jealous, go with the flow and as a leo i totally understand that its natural for you to need constant adoration, maybe he isnt the one for you..

but just to give you some hope, my dad is a leo and my step mom is an aries and she is always calling him honey and catering to him and all the bs, he loves it. if the libra doesnt work for you, def try to find a aries man, you will be in legit heaven, you two are very compatible.

good luck with everything 🙂

Asiana, using paragraphs won't hurt...

Thank u guys for all the advise...

Posted by mysteriousTaurusif the libra doesnt work for you, def try to find a aries man, you will be in legit heaven, you two are very compatible.

You DO realize the Aries guys are way different than the females. I really see that combination being a total disaster. WAY too much ego clash. :/

I perfectly understand you and him. I am Leo too and mine is Libra. Yes, Leo is possessive, jealous also. From me, I never show jealousy to him even I felt I die of jealousy when I see how many girls he has in his mess list. But better to avoiding show jealousy, at least I show a little , in a ironic way and this is what made him reply to what I asked him .
You, as Leo, took the step to fast and he realized this. Now he feel suffocated by you and I know well what I say as I am Leo too 🙂 Even you wanted everything to be so nice and to spend nice and many moments together, he feels he no have space with you there. Mine do not want me even to move in his city to be so close by him . He told me I give him too much stress and this only because I texted to him some days often only . Now things got cold because he used some words which hurt me and he god cold with me and I understood that I should give up and let him come to me with a serious purpose only . I already made things cleat with him that I don't want to be his "good friend" only all my life. And I suggest you cut any contact with him. You can keep him in messenger if you use, but ignore him. Appear offline many times. He will find you if he need you , if not, why you need someone who don't need you ? Come on, you are Leo too ! be strong ! 🙂

Your mistake is because you texted to him. I did this at beginning too ! a lot ! every time when he and me was angry for something, I took the action first and texted to him and texted to him and he replied to me exactly as yours ! Now , in fact, he is relaxed, not you ... He is happy you did this step, but you will be so unhappy when he will ignore you later and he will find other women in time, knowing that you are that good Leo woman who will always text him and forgive him ! Now you feel happy because he back to you, but the wind just starting now .... then the rain will come .... Don't do this next time when he will disappear fro you ( because he will take this act too as every Libra man) , then you cut off all the contacts with him if you need stop this games. Other way, he will always play with you like now , he will say something to you, then suddenly he will turn cold as he did now. You will lose your trust in him and this will be thing which further will driving your hopes to nothing with him.... Control your emotions a Leo ! Don't take the action to make peace again. Let him do this next time , and you stop anything when he will do any things like this again. Give him space, make yourself busy , don't hurry to move together or to come with ideas like this ! Be independent .

I also suggesting you, don't put your female friends on his table ! Libra fly quickly, no matter who is her, your friend or any other woman, if he find her more attractive than you , more perfect, he will just move on and you will lose in this way. Let time to pass ! Is too early after one month to introduce him to your female friends ! in special if they are alone , singles... What you wrote first time, he was felt good in the company of your female friend, so be careful what you do, later do not regret it ! Spend more time together , instead with your female friends together ! Libra always want to find the perfection !

Thank you again for all the input. Today is our 2nd day of not talking and not communicating. I find it weird, and sucks big time. I thought i would be happy that i have a boyfriend that i could spend time like other couoles do, but sad it happen this way. I wanted to deactivate my FB but i cant do it becoz his there on my friendslist, plus FB is my tool that i can contact my family. Now i keep posting pics of me going out partying with friends,beach with friends and im sure he can see it. I dont do that to make him jealous but i cant unfriend him either.......im so sad this whole thing happen. Infact i am deciding to end my relationship with him..so i can move on and find someone who are ready for a relationship, and not playing my emotions.....any advise welcome

I know where you are right now, but what I did in this situations, I share with you now : is simple : IGNORE HIM ! Don't add more pictures on the place where he has access to see them. Just don't take any action to make it visible that you take is special to make him jealous or any other like this. He will look at them, but then he will totally ignore all what you do and you will feel like a nothing... Don't do this mistake ! Ignore him ! do what ever you like and do not talk to him anymore. If he delete you first, let him do it ! Later he will think again and again why he did this ? how he did this ? Because Libra take wrong actions for the moment, say wrong words for the moment and they don't think when they do all this. Then they take a space and analyse all what they did and what you did. Then he will try again to reach your attention, so let him do it !
You have 2 days when you no talk to him, I have 3 weeks since I ignore him and he stay online day and night now just I say something to him or start a any conversation to can make him feel relax because I take the action first, but NO ! I do nothing, I am there only, but I am not exist ! Understand ?
I know the first days is terrible hard for a Leo woman to ignore someone and to distant, because we , Leones do not like ignore, we forgive , we like be friendly and show warmth, but you need have limits . Other way he will make you suffer hard ! Go on with your life and let him there where he is ! Let him come for you , do not do or say anything. Ignorance make him think a lot of questions about you : where are you, what are you doing, with who you are , etc... He will not resist for a long time if he likes you, believe me. Libra do this games to take space to can know other girls too, because they never can stop to you only ! You like this idea or not, but this is Libra ... They want to find the perfection ! Even you was perfect to him, in one day he may tells you that you two are not match ! This is the limit what mine touched it with his shameless arrogance ! now he I waiting for me to talk to him again . What ? Aha, let him waiting ! 🙂

Asiana, give yourself a space now too , please. Thing between you and this Libra, was happened so fast, in a way as my things was happened too with my Libra, with some differences as we were to distance, so more hard ... But Libra acting like this and they lie a lot ! Thy talk about future even from the first meeting , they inventing stories, etc, but when you arrive to know him well and to discover all the truth about him, you will see how miserable he is in fact .... In my case was happened this. I found a lot of things about him , things that he never told me about him and then he just confirmed them ashamed !
Give yourself some time now, watch some comedy ( was the best remedy for me ! ) which you likes , talk with other men/women and do not make any close relationship right now. Better if you can take a holiday somewhere alone . For me, as a Leo too, I just feel so good somewhere alone , swimming or doing something I like in this kind of situations. Is not useful to talk with friends what happened between you and him. For sure all of them will tell you " he is not worth for you , leave him, etc" All this will give you more negative energy because they all think about him he is not good, he is not worth, so think in a negative way because of the situation, and this will spread over you just negative energy ! Talk with yourself ! Look in a mirror and admire you , because you are a good girl , you deserving to be loved and appreciated ! Ignore him and if he will can do all this for you, then yes, he can back ! If not, why you need someone who don't respect and treat you well ? Life is too short to can let others treat us like this ! Give him a lesson ! and be strong ! 🙂

Hi Delia thank you for your input......I understand and know where you coming from. Yes after 2-days of not talking & not communicating, just today he text me a message that he will call me later after work. Oh well, whatever doesn't matter to me. But i wont give up for now, i still care and love him though. But i minimize contacting him that's for sure because he feel suffocated if we are always together. i will just busy myself , and don't over think of everything....

You LOVE him after a month?

Oh honey, you have problems.

Keep cool , even he call you or text to you. If he ask you how are you ? You say just "fine". If he say he miss you, you can say " I see... " be cool . It will make him want you more if he really have serious intentions. Let him come to you , but never count on him . Just count on yourself and always have ready the plan B 🙂 in case he make you angry more. Plan B means to be ready to do something what you like , or go out with someone else just to occupy your time and have fun.

after 5days him giving me mixed signals, but we did txt each other but not much, finally my libra boyfriend called me and he wanted to break up with me. Its non confrontational, infact its a good break up. I even admire him for being honest about it and he said he doing soul searching and there is no 3rd party. I told him i respect that and told him that maybe we are not a match. So after he hangs up i texted him that thanks for the good times and i said too that i have no regrets on my part. He never replied.....just not even 24hrs he texting me at work becoz im working nites, he message me hows works ans he cant sleep. So i replied him in a friendly way and very cheerful even joking him a bit too....i dont know why he initiate the break up but still want to keep in touch...i dont know what else he want. I am not expecting anything like reconciliation, im always a good sport u know. But he lets me wonder why he text me..becoz if i broke up with someone, i wont totally communicate Period!

Neah ! believe me, he no want to break up ! Mine did something more bad, but he keep me in his messenger list since one month and keep silent there, not any word say , but wait for something if he keep me there, right ? He told me I am not his match in the bed ( even we were perfect and both know this ...) but I was the one after this who said "OK, I want to see you for the last time then , and let us say good bye in a nice way" , he agreed after I said again this , but when the time was coming to meet to say that "good bye forever ", he did not came to meet me ! Since then, he kept me in his messenger and just ignored, no talk. I did this for one month too since then, but today, I cannot resit this ignorance which is not in my nature to be and I left him a message , something about his future and my encouragements for him to touch his goals. ( I know about him from a fortune-teller I know very well and she told me everything about him and his past). I did not told him from where I know this things from the message from today, I just let him think . The message was very positive and with a positive tone. I feel great after I did this, because is not in my nature to ignore someone and to keep angry or hate him. Maybe because I am Christian and my religion learnt me to forgive and forget. Or maybe because this is me , the real me. I have a good heart . I don't care if he appreciate the message or not, or if he reply or not, but I did what it was best for me , to recall my peace in my mind, to not stay angry and to eliminate the hate feeling and negative energy.
I suggest you let him for a while , give him time and you will see, what he say with what he do, is totally different 🙂 When he text to you now ( as simple friends ), try to ignore his message for 102 days , reply later to him. Make yourself busy and he will be curious what made you change and what are you doing . Is in the nature of men this. Libra acting cold many times, close his all doors and you have the feeling that he will never open again to you, but is not really like this, in fact, Libra is the single sign that never can give up at all to someone who loves them and they no want to lose you. Seeing they lose you, they will come back to normal relationship , in s short or longer time, depend of the situation. Mixed signals are normal for them. If you were asking him " why can't you sleep ? are you ok ? " his answer would be " not ok, I miss you " , this way mine answer in a similar situ

Sorry, I don't know how I typed "102 days" ... I wanted to say " for some days 🙂

He is not being honest about this break up, I can assure you 100% this after 4 years In relationship with Libra.... Libra try you in so many ways. If you know that saying " don't force them to love you, force them to leave you and who will insisting to remaining , that will be the one who loves you !" , this is the theory Libra use 🙂 because they like know all your sides before decide to be with you or not to be . This "game" can be for a long time, even for years , or maye until he get mature enough to calculate the score of this game and to be in his favour 🙂