Confused about Libra friend that wants to be more

I have only recently gotten into astrology after my disaster relationship of 7 years with my Taurus ex, but I wont get into the background there. I met my libra friend in December of last year. We immediately hit it off, he went in HARD. I mean he came at me with all his might and as soon as I would return the attention, he'd go quiet. Now, Im normally fairly independent and I am perfectly fine with spells of silence and distance. In fact, I have been told by my family and friends that I do this whenever Im occupied in my head which now that Im older I can tell its about to happen or if its happening. So his bouts of silence did no harm to me. We discussed taking things very slowly and being friends, getting to know as much as we could about each other, etc. Which, perfect because Its been a long time since I dated and Im getting back into the whole "getting to know someone" thing again.

I would offer to hang out platonicly, because how else do you get to know each other outside of texting? He'd decline and say he wasnt ready, which I know for a fact he is insecure and I make him nervous. He's extremely shy, I know his family and we have mutual friends. I'd say okay, its fine, but the very next weekend he'd be frustrated that I didnt offer to hang out again. Which, my natural state is live and let live...I dont push. He does this for EVERYTHING however. Ive been reading about libras and their indecisiveness, so in a way I expect this....which is why I come up with things to do. We' have hung out quite a few times since, but he still seems unsure. He recently went quiet for a few weeks, texting me maybe once or twice a week. I know he was going through things so I didn't bug him or push him. After I didnt message him for 4 days, I woke up to a text he sent at 6am basically saying he's sorry he's been distant and if I didnt want to be friends with him anymore, he'd understand, but he still wants me around. I dont know what I did for him to think I'd not be friends with him anymore....do Libras want you to reach out more to them than they do you? My best friend is also a libra but she's a girl. Im just trying to understand where his head is at? Friends dont have to text every day...so Im wondering why after a few days, he'd think I was upset with him? Again, Im new to dating all over again, or if its me thats not showing enough interest........any help with libra men would be appreciated.

Girl he sounds like a hot mess! It seems like his feelings vacillate and he's concluded that he wants a friendship? I would take up his offer be friendly, but I would keep your options open.

Why do you ask him why he thought you weren't friends and turn reassure him it wasn't the case.

Basically just say to him what you've written. Misunderstandings are easily made between two people. The only solution is to communicate your point of view and understand theirs.

He sounds like a cancer. Ugh.

Posted by Shrewdsharp
Girl he sounds like a hot mess! It seems like his feelings vacillate and he's concluded that he wants a friendship? I would take up his offer be friendly, but I would keep your options open.

For sure!! Truthfully I'm not completely into dating at this time, I'm still relearning myself as a woman. However we hit it off so well, even as friends that his uncertainty confuses me more than anything. I don't want to chase him off by demanding an answer as to what he wants....the whole balancing thing....but I also don't want to hurt him if I should be doing more.

Posted by jeane
Why do you ask him why he thought you weren't friends and turn reassure him it wasn't the case.

Basically just say to him what you've written. Misunderstandings are easily made between two people. The only solution is to communicate your point of view and understand theirs.

I did actually, and he had a lot of hesitation in his voice. It's like he doesn't even know why he reacted that way. Now that I think about it, it was at that moment I became confused. I thought the whole time we were just friends but when I asked him why he'd think I'd be upset about his distance, he said that he knows he's been distant and he couldn't stop thinking about it throughout all he was dealing with....but he might've wanted to say more. I can understand if he's nervous, I've lost a few friends who couldn't understand my natural distance thing I do

Posted by boxcarmirnta
He sounds like a cancer. Ugh.

Lol the first libra I dealt with was in college, he got 2 girlfriends on me while we were dating, I've never dealt with a cancer before but this is new to me even a second time