First Time Liking a Libra Man......Confused

Hi all, well as you see by name I am a scorpio :-) I met this Libra almost a year ago when I became a supervisor at his job. We had seen each other around at school, would always flirt, but as a supervisor I would'nt allow it further. Well Mr. Libra finally left my job to pursue his already budding career in music a couple of days ago so we hung out.

The first day we hung out he tried nothing. He sat on my couch while I sat on a chair and we talked majority of the night. He told me about his past relationship, which he says he never does. When he was leaving he simply hugged me. He then sent me a text when he got home saying, I had a great time. I really like you.

The next day, I asked him to come over again, I wasn't feeling well but I wanted to see him before he headed out on tour for the summer. He was at a friends birthday party, but asked If I would wait up for him. After hours I got upset cause he didnt show up, but he kept texting me telling me to please please don't fall asleep. He eventually came over. we laid in bed and just talked. He left early that next morning. and Kissed me on the cheek. I told him Id like to kiss him so we did. he then left NO SEX, FOR A GIRL THATS A+. He even says that majority of the time he winds up having sex.

Today, as he was leaving to head to his tour. He stopped by my place to say bye. We talked for a little bit, then when he left he went into hug me, but kissed me instead.

I just feel like he's hot and cold. Sometimes Ill text him and he wont return the texts, but when hes around me he acts like he really likes me. Is this a character trait of libras? If so how do I make sure, despite his tour he stays interested? What keeps libra men interested?

Yes it sounds like a typical libra to me ie. ignoring texts & act all in in person. I dont know you can keep his interest while on tour, I think that's up to him if he stays interested or not. Would you really wanna do that? Try to keep a guy's interest? Personally, either a guy is interested or he isnt..I'm not gonna work at keeping his interest. Just do you. Relationships, love, etc really have no secret formula for them to work..all is needed is for both parties to feel the same way about each other & want the same things ie. future together or w/e.

*i dont know how you can keep his interest

I wouldn't stress over it. He's all talk no action. I wouldn't put forth more effort in keeping him "interested" until he shows more positive signs. Hot/cold = bullshit and not worth bending over backwards for him. Let him have his summer and you do yours. If it's meant to be, he'll be back later on. Right now, all this shit is just him getting his ego stroked.

Posted by WaterCup
Yes it sounds like a typical libra to me ie. ignoring texts & act all in in person. I dont know you can keep his interest while on tour, I think that's up to him if he stays interested or not. Would you really wanna do that? Try to keep a guy's interest? Personally, either a guy is interested or he isnt..I'm not gonna work at keeping his interest. Just do you. Relationships, love, etc really have no secret formula for them to work..all is needed is for both parties to feel the same way about each other & want the same things ie. future together or w/e.

+1. Yep, typical libra man bullshit. Here today, gone tomorrow. Hot one minute, and I mean really hot like there is no one in this world but you, and cold the next minute that you feel like you never meant anything. He's just having his ego stroked, nothing more. Otherwise nothing keeps a libra away from pursuing you strongly.

Posted by aquarius09

Posted by WaterCup
Yes it sounds like a typical libra to me ie. ignoring texts & act all in in person. I dont know you can keep his interest while on tour, I think that's up to him if he stays interested or not. Would you really wanna do that? Try to keep a guy's interest? Personally, either a guy is interested or he isnt..I'm not gonna work at keeping his interest. Just do you. Relationships, love, etc really have no secret formula for them to work..all is needed is for both parties to feel the same way about each other & want the same things ie. future together or w/e.

+1. Yep, typical libra man bullshit. Here today, gone tomorrow. Hot one minute, and I mean really hot like there is no one in this world but you, and cold the next minute that you feel like you never meant anything. He's just having his ego stroked, nothing more. Otherwise nothing keeps a libra away from pursuing you strongly.

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lol, dont start. Your last line is true & that could be said for any man alive. Star signs really have nothing to do with love imho. If a man is inlove you just know & you dont need to do cartwheels to make him fall for you..it just happens. I really dont get these "what should i do, what should i do" questions. Just be you & you'll hit or miss..not the end of the world.

Posted by tiziani

Posted by WaterCup
Yes it sounds like a typical libra to me ie. ignoring texts & act all in in person. I dont know you can keep his interest while on tour, I think that's up to him if he stays interested or not. Would you really wanna do that? Try to keep a guy's interest? Personally, either a guy is interested or he isnt..I'm not gonna work at keeping his interest. Just do you. Relationships, love, etc really have no secret formula for them to work..all is needed is for both parties to feel the same way about each other & want the same things ie. future together or w/e.

I agree with this post. Hot and cold means he has feelings for you. Whether those feelings grow into something stronger is really up to you both to play by ear.

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NO. No. No. No.

With hot/cold bullshit, the guy will string you along, treat you as a second option, etc. If he truly has REAL feelings for you, he needs to show you more solid behavior. What he's showing you right now is not promising and you really should not waste time trying to "keep" his interest.

DO NOT, by all means, use this flawed logic as a way to keep yourself tied up by this one flaky guy. Tour? What, is he a musician? Regardless, I doubt you will be on the forefront of his mind, given all the stellar examples of flaky bs he's shown so far.

Do yourself a huge favor and just keep doing you. Like I said, he'll come back around if he's truly interested. Don't you dare put your life on hold for this guy. You'll just end up in heartache.

Tiz, you need to remember one very important thing- you are not a female dating. Remember that. You are NOT a female dating. You are male. You think differently. You do not have estrogen working against you.

The last thing you need to be doing is giving a fixed sign some promise in bullshit behavior that generally is known to be something not to get sucked into. We're all telling her not to bother, that he's looking for ego stroking, and you're over here, "OH HE HAS FEELINGS." Guess what most women would zero in on in all these comments? "OH HE LIKES ME!!" And cue her hanging on to a snippet of nothing, which was oh so obvious from the beginning. It happens all the damned time.

Hopefully the OP will figure things out and do what's best for her, but I think you're doing a major disservice in the advice department by perpetuating false hope here. I am not the only one that's noticed this from you in your advice, either. The Libran male perspective is appreciated, but encouraging obvious dating no-nos when it's a very different playing field for women, is not.

Posted by tiziani


No one said anything about putting their life on hold for his feelings until you brought it up.

Posted by Scorpheartbreak24


If so how do I make sure, despite his tour he stays interested? What keeps libra men interested?

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Just knowing how women tend to function, WHAT do you think would possibly happen here based on this response?

Common sense. Use it. If you want to live in lala land, by all means do so. But sucking others into your airy mindset is not cool.

Posted by tiziani
Fact is WaterCup said it better than anyone IMO. And this is coming from the opinion of a Libra male.

but I'm still without a man... of any sign *sobs* Oops I forgot to add... & I dont care. On a serious note thou... relationships imho are not something you go around searching for opinions/answers from other people when you're the one involved in the said relationship. I found out that most people give advice based on their own (bad) experiences, so its biased most of the time & has nothing to do with your own unique situation. Just fumble along & if you make a mistake or w/e, its yours & its okay..you learn. I hate to be told what to do & how to live my life & i cant tell people what to do..they should do whatever the hell they want since its their lives n not mine. Do you, do you & do you, thats all.

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by aquarius09

Posted by WaterCup
Yes it sounds like a typical libra to me ie. ignoring texts & act all in in person. I dont know you can keep his interest while on tour, I think that's up to him if he stays interested or not. Would you really wanna do that? Try to keep a guy's interest? Personally, either a guy is interested or he isnt..I'm not gonna work at keeping his interest. Just do you. Relationships, love, etc really have no secret formula for them to work..all is needed is for both parties to feel the same way about each other & want the same things ie. future together or w/e.

+1. Yep, typical libra man bullshit. Here today, gone tomorrow. Hot one minute, and I mean really hot like there is no one in this world but you, and cold the next minute that you feel like you never meant anything. He's just having his ego stroked, nothing more. Otherwise nothing keeps a libra away from pursuing you strongly.

lol, dont start. Your last line is true & that could be said for any man alive. Star signs really have nothing to do with love imho. If a man is inlove you just know & you dont need to do cartwheels to make him fall for you..it just happens. I really dont get these "what should i do, what should i do" questions. Just be you & you'll hit or miss..not the end of the world.

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Precisely! Not a sign thing, it's an level of interest thing. Either he's into you or he's not. If you're guessing his behaviour or wanting advice on what you need to do to attract the man to you, then he's just not that into you. Also, WC, I don't get these "what to do" OPS. I read them as cries from a desperate woman. WtF would you want to act any different from the way you usually are to attract some dude. That's just pure desperation.

You either like me for the way I am or you can go kill yourself. LOL. Knowing men, they just go play games with the next chick that entertains their mind games.

Sheesh I did'nt mean to spark a debate lol! all your opinions are valued. I am not really desperate for a guy in my life so I just let it be for now. But I do agree with a solid proposal til then im smooth sailing

Watercup "

but I'm still without a man... of any sign *sobs* Oops I forgot to add... & I dont care. On a serious note thou... relationships imho are not something you go around searching for opinions/answers from other people when you're the one involved in the said relationship. I found out that most people give advice based on their own (bad) experiences, so its biased most of the time & has nothing to do with your own unique situation. Just fumble along & if you make a mistake or w/e, its yours & its okay..you learn. I hate to be told what to do & how to live my life & i cant tell people what to do..they should do whatever the hell they want since its their lives n not mine. Do you, do you & do you, thats all."

YOU ARE VERY RIGHT ! We are here to hear opinions, but not to do as we hear , just to learn something from other's experiences ... Your thinking is similar with mine . I always do what I feel , but if is not working what I feel and do, then I consider other advice too from a similar situation .