getting a libra guy to come back?

i'm a pisces female who had relations with a libra guy, who was a close friend of mine, about two months ago.

long story short: we hooked up and told each other we had feelings for each other but when things turned sour (outside drama) he later said that he never actually had feeling for me, but it was the lsd (his first time trying it) that changed his perception. keep in mind, this went on for about two weeks, and he had only tried it once days before...?

things have gotten awkward and we've gotten into little fights about stupid things like "who hurt who's feelings more" or "i'm not being awkward, you're being awkward".

we haven't talked for a few days. what can i do to win him back? even if it's not in a relationship sort of way? i miss my friend.

I don't know if he's hurt or not... I would just say sorry for all of the fussing and that you care about him despite all of it.

See how he responds. You can tell if someone is willing to work on things or not. Use that intuition.

Posted by libralotus
I don't know if he's hurt or not... I would just say sorry for all of the fussing and that you care about him despite all of it.

See how he responds. You can tell if someone is willing to work on things or not. Use that intuition.

he's told me multiple times that he was very hurt... crying, avoidance etc. he also told me that he felt like he needed to hurt me so i would lose the feelings i had for him? i suppose it complicated our prior relationship. i'm a pisces and don't understand this. i told him i was sorry, no response.

Pisces: "Ey, you wanna cheef?"

Libra: "OK."

The End.

Seriously though, if it got to the point in which he was purposely trying to emotionally hurt you, is it worth it?

Posted by hydroflask

Posted by libralotus
I don't know if he's hurt or not... I would just say sorry for all of the fussing and that you care about him despite all of it.

See how he responds. You can tell if someone is willing to work on things or not. Use that intuition.

he's told me multiple times that he was very hurt... crying, avoidance etc. he also told me that he felt like he needed to hurt me so i would lose the feelings i had for him? i suppose it complicated our prior relationship. i'm a pisces and don't understand this. i told him i was sorry, no response.

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I mean if there's absolutely NO effort on his part then I would just end it. It means he doesn't give a f. I say to quit communicating with him for a week and see if you get any effort from him. At that point I'd reach out one last time, apologize, tell him you care and see if he responds.

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Posted by hydroflask

Posted by libralotus
I don't know if he's hurt or not... I would just say sorry for all of the fussing and that you care about him despite all of it.

See how he responds. You can tell if someone is willing to work on things or not. Use that intuition.

he's told me multiple times that he was very hurt... crying, avoidance etc. he also told me that he felt like he needed to hurt me so i would lose the feelings i had for him? i suppose it complicated our prior relationship. i'm a pisces and don't understand this. i told him i was sorry, no response.

I mean if there's absolutely NO effort on his part then I would just end it. It means he doesn't give a f. I say to quit communicating with him for a week and see if you get any effort from him. At that point I'd reach out one last time, apologize, tell him you care and see if he responds.

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he's made efforts, perhaps not in the best way. and when we talk you can tell that it's still on the back of his mind and he's still very hurt. i feel almost like he's too hurt to think about anything else but that, so i should wait? but i got chewed out by him the last time i "disappeared" so i'm not sure how to handle it. libras?

Posted by UrsaMediocre
Pisces: "Ey, you wanna cheef?"

Libra: "OK."

The End.

Seriously though, if it got to the point in which he was purposely trying to emotionally hurt you, is it worth it?

lol, should it really be that simple? perhaps i'm over complicating things?

Posted by littlesnow
If you want something more.Dont reply to him and ignore him. If he doesn't come back, there you done with the relationship.. time to look for someone you want a relationship with. Or if he responds, you can continue



If you want to be friends, tell him. I'm sure he wont mind

I worry that he doesn't think that I can "handle" being /just/ friends with him? after everything happened, and we were "friends", things were still very tense and weird. will things ever go back to how they were?

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Posted by UrsaMediocre
Pisces: "Ey, you wanna cheef?"

Libra: "OK."

The End.

Seriously though, if it got to the point in which he was purposely trying to emotionally hurt you, is it worth it?

lol, should it really be that simple? perhaps i'm over complicating things?

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Well, it's a good start. The problem is that Libras like people chasing after them so he might not initiate if you're waiting for him to contact you back. Just ask to hang out (I can't speak for him but I'm always down to hang out w/ people & talk rather than phone & computer chatting). If he flakes on you, he's probably not ready to talk. If he shows up, keep it light at first, then gradually bring up the concerns you have but always keep the conversation in a positive light. No blame games, just a polite airing of grievances in which you both can find a mutual understanding.