How do you tell people...

..things they don't want to hear or turn down someone close? Or do you prefer to let someone else do it? Do Libras avoid delivering the bad news?

Crossed my mind to ask cause right now I'm in such situation. I have to turn down a close friend (Aries) who tends to get easily offended, basically like a child. I willingly decided to take this responsibility on myself and I caught myself now holding my phone, walking around, thinking how to say it. Guess I am just over analyzing as usual -.-

I don't like doing it, not that easy for me, but usually I choose to be the one cause I am inpatient waiting for others to make up their mind and step forward.

...oh now that I am thinking, he is not that really close friend, if he were, then I would not have such a problem saying it to him.

I'm always the bringer of bad news. I got used to it now esp with family issues. In a way we're equipped to do this because we can be impersonal about it by just stating what needs to be said without being emotional and having the ability to empathize with the receiver of bad news so we can say it in a way that won't be too hurtful or offensive for them.

If they still overreact or act in a negative way, that's their right. I just let them have that time to vent and listen. If I can try to explain it, I will. If they still refuse to understand, that's not my problem anymore.

All the Libras I know have a hard time saying NO to people.

I must admit I tend to sugarcoat everything. But getting stucked in a situation forever it's not my idea of "harmony and balance". When I feel a line has been crossed or someone really needs to face the ugly truth I attack, the sooner the better. If that's not the case, I'll just start making sarcastic comments every time, but with no bitter.

If a relationship is in dead end from the start? I try to explain my reasons to the other person, why it's not working for us, and what can be done. Then I gave them the needed space, and that's it. I wont discuss the matter twice, and I won't set a scene for a simple disagreement. Just will wait for the response and keep going.

Here's a kicker- just tell the truth?

Aries may get pissy at first, but we also get over it just as fast. We'd prefer honesty over some lame ass bullshit you'd feed us in order to protect YOUR feelings because you don't want to feel bad.


And stop being a pussy about it.

Lol. "Don't be worried about their feelings..." 😐

Posted by vesperlynd83
All the Libras I know have a hard time saying NO to people.

Again, I don't have a problem saying NO, but take caution in being nasty with it UNLESS I have no other alternative. Libra's are just courteous by nature because we believe in treating people like we want to be treated, but that's not always the case and that's where the UNLESS comes in. I don't have issues checking anyone that gets out of line with me. Common courtesy is even due to a dog, so as long as you don't cross a line with me, I can tell you NO in a nice nasty way or I can tell you NO in the nastiest way possible. The choice is always yours.

Depends on how well I know the person. Career wise I've never sugarcoated things so if you ask you'll get the honest answer. In life, to perfect strangers I will give the full 100% brunt of it. To friends or someone I know somewhat, I don't sugarcoat, but I attempt to guide them to the answer that is right. One of the worst part of our sign is that fact that people love coming to us for advice. More often then not my lack of caring allows me to give out that advice, but don't come to me if you don't want to honest opinion.

Interesting... So basically, in my experience with my Libra friends and my mother being one, I see they tend to maybe sugarcoat it, but usually are the one to bring up the truth. My mother Libra Sun/Moon tends to circle around instead of shooting right in the center, that drives ME insane!

I basically always go straight open. Sometimes is easier, sometimes is tougher but the truth is inevitable...for me at least.

@Rocky You know, one of my best friend is an Aries woman. The only person I can be straight open with, she get pissed at first just as you said and then cool down fast. I'd say she seems as open and bold much more then she is, being her friend I can see when she is pretending just to please. Between the two of us - I am the one to say the bold truth when we are dealing with serious stuff. Seriously, in such situation she is the one to back off. Yes, she is usually the loud and bold one, but I had to clean up her mess so many times. Love her, but that IS the truth.

And this Aries yesterday, after I called him and told him the "ugly truth" well yeah he reacted just as I suspected. (tantrum)..... Don't make drama out of it please!!!!
Think he should be fine today 😉 I am also smelling he will thank me for being the one to call and saying it openly.

Posted by theGrinch
Depends on how well I know the person. Career wise I've never sugarcoated things so if you ask you'll get the honest answer. In life, to perfect strangers I will give the full 100% brunt of it. To friends or someone I know somewhat, I don't sugarcoat, but I attempt to guide them to the answer that is right. One of the worst part of our sign is that fact that people love coming to us for advice. More often then not my lack of caring allows me to give out that advice, but don't come to me if you don't want to honest opinion.

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Posted by Sugarfoot


Don't be afraid of Aries backlash. Don't be worried about hurting their feelings either. They say dumb shyt all the time without a care in the wold then forget about it. Your Aries will rebound sooner than you think.

Wasn't really afraid of anything and the least of Aries backlash, can't help it but perceive them like angry children that will be the cutest thing just when that "terrifying anger" goes away 🙂

I am quite accustomed to Aries anger, doesn't bother me and I have to thank my Aries friend to bring up the boldest in me. My boldness with her will always be rewarded with a flower 🙂 hehe I call her my foxy Lady

With this guy it was just the matter of the wrong timing for him to maybe be angry.

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Posted by vesperlynd83
All the Libras I know have a hard time saying NO to people.

Common courtesy is even due to a dog, so as long as you don't cross a line with me, I can tell you NO in a nice nasty way or I can tell you NO in the nastiest way possible. The choice is always yours.

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I agree with this

Posted by tiziani
I give the bad news first, then level it up with a good news ending afterwards.


That was actually something I learnt in marketing 101 class at university so nothing original.

I actually did that yesterday. I think I tend to do that, to even it up...add some balance. Not in a situation like for example break up - in such situations it is better to be straight forward - no but, no then again, no evening or could be might be etc....If you going for the kill then do it fast, precise and without to much emotions or it will only be tougher.