I must confess, I do want him back

after all this complaining about Libra being so indecisive. Its driving me crazy about what I did. Libras for me are just wonderful minus that one bit, can't make up the mind. I do miss this particular Libra and part of me kicking self for letting him go. I guess thats just life. think he'll come back? I doubt it since its been a while and he hasn't contacted me. Think he's already found another shiny object of desire.

oh Leo, Leo 🙂
Here's what I think: I think we fall into the trap of seeing them as cute puppies only to be shocked by the reality after.
Jshark, can you fathom someone that does good deeds because they NEED the world to be in harmony and balance, NOT from the heart? A Virgo will keep a spotless house because they need it to be clean, not because they love you! (ok they might or might not, but do you see the paradox?)
In my multiple readings I found that the only way to keep/have enjoy life with a Libra is to become one yourself. Its a long road but its extremely interesting, painful at times. Libra is the creature of the moment that will instinctively take on the most useful and valuable things he needs. That means people, too, especially since Libra learns through relationships the way we learn stuff from books.

Go to the site I posted http://www.yogatech.com/nmb/ and read everything there is to say about Libras and their path, you'll understand them a lot better and you'll understand yourself in the process. some of the links you need to send autoreply from your mail but you do receive the text, me I dont care about gurus and their stuff but this page the most useful piece of information I found on the net in a long time 🙂
And remember, to Leo a Libra is a lot of work, and not in the way you roll off your sleeves in one day and then forget the enthusiasm the second, but the consistency of changing some behaviour patterns that are gonna help us too.

Thanks everyone!

amethyst2002-I felt so comfortable with this one too and that is whats hard with letting him go. Yes, relationship or not, whatever we had was great.

WTF- : ) I KNOW I was his shiny object at one point or another.

TasteOfChaos-thats so touching! My gut tells me that he does think of me, I just wish that he'd call as I miss our talks.

and Lisa-I'll look at the links for the emails. Lately I've been waking up to thinking of him and or have dreams of calling him. I've been holding back on calling him since he hasn't contacted me. I do think of him often.

amethyst-its been the same for me. He pulled the same friend card thing too, he hasn't called, been a month and I removed him from my FB page for some crazy reason one day and now I think that may have just done it for him, maybe, maybe not. yeah, no call from him either. we have the same friends so he'll hear about me via them but who knows. yeah, boys........

Well it's not to say that Libras are desperate individuals who can't ever let go of anyone/anything, BUT understand that some (not all) Libras do generally work/fight very hard to get back something/someone, especially if they feel the person was worth it. Libras don't mind fighting for something they really wanted. They don't mind putting down their pride & admitting that they are not done with you yet. That's why the best way to tell whether or not a Libra is done with someone is moreso measured by how much they do/don't contact you.

Hell Libras don't even see the harm in contacting old ex's or people from the past way back, so make no mistake about it, Libras aren't ones to generally let something slip out of their fingers if they can help it. If a Libra won't contact you, it's probably b/c they generally ARE done with you. And why they might be done with you is another story & something that Libra might ever know. Sure, there's always the possibility that the other person might really be at home still thinking about you all day & everyday, but then again there's no point in guessing or focusing on that b/c once again, that's something you'll probably never know, especially if he never contacts you again. Plus, Libras cannot STAND being left behind, especially when they worked so hard in the past to work things out & try to fix the problems. So if you end up breaking up with a Libra 9 times in a row, don't be surprised if they finally give up around the 10th time you thought about leaving them. Libras are indecisive even when it comes to figuring out how to approach a relationship/friendship that has ended, so if you ever encounter a Libra not contacting you at ALL, it's probably b/c their decision to do so (or lack thereof) was final.

And hey there's always the chance that some Libras might even pull the "silent treatment" but not b/c they want to, but moreso b/c they want the other person to feel the same extent of emotional isolation, withdrawl & hurt that they did. But even then, Libras still can't help slipping up every blue moon & calling/contacting that person just for the hell of it. When a Libra FINALLY makes the decision to be done with someone, that decision is usually final. They don't put all that time/energy into making a decision just to go back on it within 5 seconds..that's why it's VERY important to plead your case or be in good standing with one around the time they are in the process of making a decision

Libras are usually the ones to do all the chasing & pursuing, even if the other person was in the wrong. And that stems from a Libra's deep fear of loss/losing anything that deep down they know they couldn't live/go without. You can break up with a Libra even if you were in the wrong & yet STILL a Libra might still call you all the time to try to work things out with you; but that's only b/c they want to. Libra's actions alot of the time reflect their emotions. So if a Libra still keeps in contact with you against their pride/ego, it's b/c their love/need for you often outweighs the pride in them that tells them not to, regardless of who was technically in the wrong at the time the breakup happend. Therefore, when a Libra no longers shows any signs of trying to work things through with you or when they finally stop contacting you, it's usually b/c they have given up.

It's very hard for Libras to deal with the loss of something they cherished alot. They often times know how to put their pride down. They'd rather put their pride down and thus be able to KEEP what they love vs. losing what they love all in the name of protecting their egos. When Libras aren't really emotionally attached to someone/something, it can sometimes seem/appear that they can easily go from 1 to the next with no shame. BUt, it's a different story once a Libra actually invests all of themselves within a person. And b/c Libras are all about balance & can see the good in even bad things, that's another reason why a Libra might be willing to put their pride down & continue chasing after you, even if they weren't even the ones in the wrong OR even if it should be the other way around. They might regret doing so later..oh it's quite possible that later on down the road (once they get that person back) they might have a pride-attack & resent having to put in all the "work" BUT in the moment, they will fight/chase and/or do whatever it is they have to do to keep a person around if they feel it's necessary.

If this Libra stopped contacting you b/c he found someone else, sure he'll still think about you (as we all think about those in our past sometimes) BUT him thinking about you won't necessarily cause him to go back on his decision to finally be done with you. Once a Libra is done, they are done for good. It might take them a while to finally make that decision, but oh man once that decision is FINALLY made, there's usually no turning back...emotional detachment=no contact

However, if a person keeps pushing a Libra away, a Libra will often times respect that person's wishes. For example, if you tell a Libra out of anger to never call you again, they might huff & puff about it for a few seconds, BUT eventually they literally will grant you your wishes..and it's not that they WANT to stop talking to you or that they even agree with your decision to let them go, BUT they aren't ones to just keep on fighting against the tides either, especially if them doing so is only 1. Not making things any better or 2. FURTHER pissing the other person off. Remember, a Libra's goal is to try not to hurt or aggravate the person they love..so even though it might suck for them to leave you alone/stop contacting you, they'll even then still be more concerned about YOUR feelings, thus they'll literally do as you asked them to, evenif they really hate that you did.

And if you keep breaking up with this Libra, eventually he (like most other people) will eventually not see the worth to keep fighting for you & for "us." They don't mind fighting for a good cause, BUT like I said they are not desperate either. Things have to be mutual. It's one thing to break up with your Libra once or twice for VALID & understandable reasons..THAT is most likely when you'll see the side of them that will work to make sure that doesn't happen. BUT it's another thing to just keep pushing them away & pushing them to the side. Every time you leave them high & dry (and ESPECIALLY if it wasn't for a justifiable reason in THEIR heads), their amount of fight within themselves for you will decrease more & more each time, until their ability to hold on eventually gets down to Zero.

If this Libra isn't done with you yet, trust me, he'll contact you again. It may not be tomorrow or next week, BUT if he's still at all emotionally attached to you, eventually he will slip up, put his pride down & contact you, even if out of just pure "hope" that maybe "this time" you'll allow him entrance back into your life. BUT just make sure that you're not giving him the signal that you don't want him to talk to you anymore. After all, you'd be surprised..they might actually grant your wish. And if that's not really what you want, DON'T give them that impression & especially not repeatedly

You're full of knowledge about the Libra man! I saw a Libra only twice, its been a year since we have seen each other and yet he always contacts me, just to know Im still interested in him!

Krysrenee! You said it perfectly! I've been talking to my guy for almost a year...and no matter how busy he is, at some point before the end of his day he'll ALWAYS message me on msn to see how my day is going and chat with me before he leaves work! For some reason, I doubt they get tired of ones they care about easily (relationship guys).

I agree they take next to forever to make decisions, but in the meantime it says a lot when they still keep in touch with you during that process..sometimes, you may have to make the first move on neutral terms and show them you're thinking about them. they may feel hurt and not want to bother you...but if after that there's still no contact...sorry to say, but let him go.

yeah, that was a big mistake that I made by removing him from fb. I am so kicking myself for that. Some ego leo thing I think on my end that I did.

Posted by jsharck
yeah, that was a big mistake that I made by removing him from fb. I am so kicking myself for that. Some ego leo thing I think on my end that I did.

Just send him a friend invite, I'm sure he'll accept it.

@Js..oh & trust me, he noticed that you took him off facebook. Technically, it's not that big of a deal since it's just an internet site BUT then again taking him off your FB, accompanied with other forms/expressions of rejection was probably the big blow and/or deciding factor for him. And like I said earlier, Libra men don't like to give up on what they consider worthy, BUT at the same time if they keep getting pushed away & if everything the other person does/says in regards to them has a "F off" sign attached to it, they aren't ones to stick around either, especially since the would no longer be gaining anything. Their emotions & empathy for you could easily turn into anger the MORE a person pushes them away, & ESPECIALLY if the other person is going to far extremes to get the point across to them. Yes, it should be no surprise that eventually, they'll do as you asked & as their angered heart is now telling them to do & walk away.

It's sad b/c generally, Libras are so loving & caring & sometimes might not even care a tad about a person, but yet will still go out of their way to keep up the communication/contact just so that they'll never have to worry about the other person doubting/questioning their loyalty/friendship. For some that are the complete opposite, the question is "Why give ANY energy to those who don't matter a whole lot?" And to Libras, it's like, "Well good point BUT then again, what is the harm in keeping up the contact?" To others, they don't see the point b/c there might not be any gain from doing so, but to Libras, while they also might agree that there is no specific gain, there's not necessarily any loss/disadvantage either. And even depending on the type of friendship/relationship you have with a Libra, sometimes they'll keep as many people around as possible just in case they are in major need of a Plan B, C or D just in case persay the people they actually gave a flip about left them behind. I guess it's all about perspective.

Someone like me (Aqua) would rather just spend all my energy on the people that matter ALOT to me. And if another person doesn't matter, I'll speak & be cordial in person, BUT actually calling an "associate" just as much as I would my own best friend? Naw, that's not my style . BUT hey, it works for Libras...& can even get them in trouble sometimes, especially for a new person coming into their life that might not understand their way of thinking

I think it is kind of funny that you have blown so hot and cold about this relationship. You want him. You don't want him. You want him. You don't want him. You deleted him from facebook, now you want him back. I think he is mirroring your uncertainty about the relationship. We tend to mirror our partners.

Chances are if he cares about you, he cares about you and will always wonder how you are, and welcome back your contact.

Amethyst, he might be giving you time and waiting for you to contact him.

Well it seems like this has became a game to you both. So much so that others, outside of the friendship/relationship have evne gotten involved & been granted the access to start unnecessary trouble. All of this "maybe/maybe not" stuff needs to stop. Seems like both of you (mainly you) are not making decisions based on what your heart is telling you to do. Sounds like you both make impulsive decisions, just to regret them later & THEN after it's all said & done (and usually when it's too late), THEN you both all of the sudden start taking into consideration the other person's feelings.

Point blank. If you want to contact him b/c you feel it's best, then do so. But to sit at home & let someone that you obviously love continue to assume that you DON'T, is just not a good move. And hey, I'd give him the same advice if this were him on Dxp. We all make mistakes & we all sometimes look back & wonder what the heck we were thinking. And sometimes it's normal for that "space" or silent air to remain b/w 2 people especially when pride and/or bitterness/confusion is involved. It may hurt your pride to be the one who goes 1st in initiating the contact with him again, BUT then again what's the worst that could happen that hasn't ALREADY happend? Of course it'll suck like hell if you contact him again, & he rejects you. BUT, atleast you'll finally have that clarification you've been seeking & the answers to your questions that have been lingering in the back of your mind all this time. Don't let this situation with him turn into one of those "WHAT IF" situations...Sure, you might regret contacting him/rekindling things just to end up disappointed/rejected again BUT you also might regret JUST AS MUCH finding out that all of your "assumptions" were wrong. You ALSo might regret looking back a year from now, resenting the fact that something could've been done, but yet wasn't done.

Either way, there's the potential for lose/lose AND/OR win/win here. It's just a risk that you've got to take. If this guy is that worth it to you, then put your pride down. You know he doesn't like "hate" you. Don't convince yourself that he doesn't want to have contact with you just for a means of finding a way to convince yourself why going 1st isn't worth it. Just go for it!