I'm back... Need advise...

Hi all,

I posted several months ago about a relationship/friendship that I have with a Libra male. Well, I can say that we are still close friends... BUT I still haven't snagged him yet... or maybe I have. NEED some advice!!

Anyway, I took a lot of you guys advice about backing off and pretty much doing me. I got in school and started to focus my time on more positive things to take my focus off of him. Well, during this process... he ended up having to move in with me.

Now, he stays in my other bedroom. We don't sleep together (no sex), but now we live together. (It's been about 5 months or so)

Lately I've noticed that when we have disagreements, he's starting to express his emotions more. He's NEVER done that before. Normally he holds his feelings in. Personally, I think I've gotten in his heart and he doesn't know how to accept it.
I think it's because he's younger than me and he's never experienced a woman like myself before. I think he's overwhelmed.

It's funny because I used to get soooo frustrated trying to understand him... but I think I'm starting to get it. He tells me that he doesn't want to put a title on what we have, he doesn't feel that we should. He says he feels more like we should just let it come together naturally. (Is this a Libra thing?) He's also indicated that everybody knows who I am. He says he tells them that I'm his "girl" or "homegirl" and they all know that they have to respect me. (referring to his other female friends/associates)

I kind of feel like he knows that he wants to be with me, but because he has a few loose ends, he wants to make sure that he can give 100% when he does decide to commit.

We constantly go through the PULL BACK process, but each time it seems as though we get closer.

Because I'm a Pisces, I do get emotional... but he has made me tougher. Trust me. He always would say that he's making me tough. I've had outbursts, that he hates... but he has such patience with me. He'll actually sit down and talk it out.

My insight might be blurred because I'm involved in this. I need a little insight from you guys on this. Does this sound like he MIGHT be coming around? Or what??

Let me know what you think.

Thanks in advance...

Hey P4, I went back and read your blog from February about this guy. It still sounds like he has you on a shelf and might even could be taking advantage of the situation (you letting him live with you)?

If there's no intimacy involved with your living situation, then you're pretty much only roommates. What are the disagreements about? Relationship stuff or financial stuff?

In your post from February, you mentioned that you've known him for a year, so at this point that would be almost a year and half now - that's enough time for a man to figure out what title to give you. In my experience, they do like to let things happen "naturally", but it doesn't take 18 months (unless they are the 'other' kind of Libra that QS talks about).

What exactly are you holding out for, P4 and have you told him how you feel?

Are you dating while he lives with you?

I would treat this as a roommate situation only...he's not ready to give you anything and why work for the treasure when he can bury it
and dig it up later, while your being the good girl and waiting he wants to live his life and do his thing but he's not dumb, he know a good thing when he has it, so it seems he's trying to appease you to keep his living arrangement intact but yet he still has the door open to other relationships.

yeah. he needs to find another place to dwell in...

I been in your situation before, honey if I could be so blunt...dump his ass on his head and live your life, he's not going to see it your way...you want more and he doesn't RIGHT NOW...tell him to come back when he has his shit together...don't play second to his play pen of female/loose ends...its not that complicated, a man thats ready for a woman such as yourself would have no problem cleaning his act up but this guy has some play in him...

I guess I'm just being patient. He does know how I feel.

tiki,
I feel you. Yes, I am dating. You are right. Thanks for the input. I do need to cut the strings.

I will email you P4S...

Nothing is happening. Libras have close relationships with friends and it looks like that all you are to him, his girl/homegirl. If he wanted you to be his woman or girlfriend. That is what you would be. He clearly doesn't.