I'm in love with a libra and I need serious advice!

I've been dating a libra woman for about 6 months now, I'm a Capricorn by the way, it's been the most bumpy relationship I've had in a while, ive had my fair share of mess ups, never cheated but I was caught flirting on Twitter with a girl, and she gives me a hard time about talking to this girl we work with that she doesn't like, but I'm always dedicated to changing any and everything that she dislikes, or at least trying to change, so I can make this work, she's had her fair share of mess ups too, more so the way she reacts when she gets angry with me, like telling me she doesn't want to be with me or telling me she's going out to talk to another man then proceeds to ignore me all night, but we've tried our hardest these past months to get past all of this and trust and love each other because we really wanna be together (we've even tried recently giving each other a "break" or "space"......... never works) but we continue to argue about almost everything, I mean the good outweighs the bad but we still disagree quite often, this last situation kind of seems to be a breaking point, we argued about something beyond petty, that being her best friends relationship, I was simply stating my opinion on it and she didn't agree with my opinion so we sorta went back and forth, I didn't think much of it, I'll admit I was a bit annoyed, but I wasn't upset, she on the other hand was PISSED, she said not so much because of my opinion towards her friends relationship but because she felt I was being rude to her during the argument, her conclusion to the argument was that she can't do this anymore, and she never wants to speak to me again, she then talked to one of my friends and told her that she's done with me, and she's "going out tonight and she might hook up with guys", that was Friday, it's now Monday, I still haven't heard from her, she told my friend she was over it, and that she would reach out to me but she just wasn't sure how to, but like I said, it's Monday, and I still haven't heard from her, I even saw her at work today, she said nothing to me, I don't feel like I should be the one to address her seeing as that she told me to never speak to her again, then she went out Friday night and the illusion that's left in my head is that she's going to hook up with guys. It hurts me because I feel like she tries so hard to make me insecure when it comes to her being able to replace me and mess with somebody else. I never know if she's just trying to get under my skin (as she claims) or if she's really being unfaithful.
In conclusion I'm wondering, what do I do? Do I cave in and reach out to her? Do I wait for her to reach out to me? I'd like advice from Libras as to what she can possibly be feeling? Why does she insist on getting mad and using the fact that she can go be with someone else against me?

no dice. if it is a relationship where you both take pot shots at hurting one another then nothing good can come from it.

if you hurt her when you disagree then naturally she is going to want to get her own back. it's childish and selfish and not the best way to resolve something but if neither of you can put the other's feelings before your own then you aren't really connecting. you're just two people who occupy the same space in moments of time. it's certainly not love.

is she cheating? might be. or she could be trying to get at you. either way, do you want to pursue someone you can't trust?

The relationship can work, but it takes a whooooole lot patience and compromising to make it happen.
And just like Sugarfoot mention, we are experts at mirroring...We will treat you like you treat us..hands down.
Not such a good trait, but it is what it is...and that's just one of those Libran characteristics.
Good Luck
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I can say with certainty even if deep down she loves you this will never work. I've been in a similar situation in the past. On reflection I treated the guy (who eventually became my fiancé) like shit. If you are arguing with a libra constantly then it's done.
This chat she has about "I'm done!" I've said so many times. Half the time it's said for a reaction the other half its serious - I'm out.

My advice to you is to walk away. Libra's are addictive. I can tell you it'll be tough to walk. But walk away. She'll continue to treat you like this. You'll continue to bend, try to change, try to please her. But she'll never be content. Libra's need to meet their match. Once they do they wake up big style. I lost a true love when I was very young - I didn't want to settle down so opted to end the relationship. I have no regrets but I know deep down I lost a soul mate - all because I believed the grass is greener. When I couldn't get this guy back (I tried after a year separated) I was distraught.
We learn our lessons. But it's always at a cost.
I wouldn't be so sure she hasn't "cheated". Her view would be that you "we're on a break"! And so why not go with another guy? It doesn't take much to temp us.

Sorry but I think you're worth more than this kind of a relationship. Get out whilst you can.

I appreciate all of y'all's comments, I'm just not checking back in, but in response to sugarfoot:

My best friend reached out to her and kind of talked some sense into her, I guess explaining my side of everything, and she finally ended up texting me telling me she loves and misses me, we talked that night and thoroughly explained ourselves and our feelings and agreed that this is something we'd still like to pursue. BUT, it's been a couple of days, and things have been going good, her birthday was yesterday, I surprised her with edible arrangements and balloons at her job, she seemed really happy and loving and what not, but despite all of that there's still a bit of aloofness, I'm kinda concerned I guess because I keep thinking about where we used to be, and how she'd act towards me before things started going wrong, and it's obviously different from now, I mean she still makes an effort, but it'll be little things that she does differently now, I'm wondering is it because we're just in this odd space where we have to work towards really loving and more importantly trusting each other again? Or is she possibly losing feelings for me? My mind always think the worst so I'm leaving more towards maybe this isn't what she wants, but then she'll do and say things that confirms that she does still love and care for me, as a libra, if you were to lose feelings and start thinking that the relationship you're in isn't what you want, would you end it? Or do as I've read Libras do, "stay in it to protect your significant others feelings"?


And for bellelibra:
I totally understand what you're saying, I go back and forth with myself often as to whether I should just end things and walk away and deal with the hurt and frustration and all of that now, or just try to stick it out and hope things get better, the Capricorn in me pushes me to stick it out, because the good times are sooooo good, but what is it that makes Libras so hard to please? I mean, even if we got along better, compromised more, argued less, you still think it just wouldn't work?

capwiththean: I've no idea why we are so hard to please. We are so flighty at times its unreal. I have lost lots of great opportunities to be with great guys but I always seem to get bored or distracted and then it's game over. If I were you I would seriously give this one up. Try to throw yourself into work, college, or whatever. Don't try to find another girl - the point I'm trying to get you to is that you yourself are able to have a life without her - then see if maybe she can also take some time out and come back to you. I don't go back - I only ever move forward... but trust me, she will be analysing absolutely everything and if she sees you moving forward with your life (I mean at least 6 months - which I know sounds horrendously long) then she may wake up and realise that she has treated you pretty badly and that she needs to make a decision if she really wants you guys to be together.
Don't stick it out. Libra's do that to. So both of you will be compromising all the time - whats the point in that?

You said the good out weighs the bad, I don't think that's true if you two are apparently arguing over everything. You two don't seem to agree on much. Looks like you and your libra are straight up not compatible with one another. Who wants to be in a relationship where you argue everyday? It looks like this ship has sailed, you need to move on and invest time and energy on women who ARE compatible for YOU.
It doesn't matter how much you love her, you need to put yourself first, and realize that arguing every single day is bad for your mental and physical health = stress.

Ditch the b**tch, you'll be better without her trust me.

I am a Libra woman married to a Capricorn man for 8 years, I am grateful he waited for me patiently to get it together. Despite being brutally boring, his devotion, faithfulness, and commitment to the relationship has taught me what true love really is. I couldn't imagine my life without my Capricorn. I would encourage you to listen to your heart. On our first date he said I am going to marry you. I thought he was a nut! But true to his word he did exactly that. Initially I put my Cap with Leo moon and Libra rising through a lot of testing. I was terrified of true solid consistent love, I tried and tried and tried his patience, but my lover did not move once inch. Eventually I got rid of the others, and put it lock down. I feel so safe in his loving arms.. and everyday gets sweeter than the day before.

Posted by busyeyes88
It's obviously not working OP and why put yourself thought such mess?! Your Libra sounds childish and immature.. Flighty! In fact practically typical libra behaviour... Pure manipulation... I suggest you walk away or play her at her own game see if she likes that!!!!!! The biggest game players....

What is up with you and Libras LOL? Good morning everybody. It's still morning in my neck of the woods. Wish I had a strong sativa in fact... LOL LOL. Yes we are flighty, and we can be very childish and immature like everybody else, however my Capricorn's love was so stable and solid it gradually matured me, and stabilized me. I should tell him how much I love him but I figure it's best to show him. I was showing him with cooking but since both of us starting gaining weight I think it best to show him another way.


OP how do Capricorn men like to be shown love?

Posted by Sugarfoot
If I were you I'd let her contact you first since she flew off the handle and told you never to speak to her again. She said something she didn't mean but she needs to understand the importance of her words. You also have to show her that you won't be walked over.

I doubt that she's actually cheating because she said to you "hey I'm bout to go out and cheat on you now!"Lol. I don't know her, but most cheaters are a lil more on the DL than that.

You guys need to have a srs conversation and see if you can start on a clean slate.

YUP!

Posted by LIb4Life
The relationship can work, but it takes a whooooole lot patience and compromising to make it happen.
And just like Sugarfoot mention, we are experts at mirroring...We will treat you like you treat us..hands down.
Not such a good trait, but it is what it is...and that's just one of those Libran characteristics.
Good Luck
🙂

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Yes it took a lot of patience and compromising to make it work. Thank God my Cap did not give up on me, like everybody else did. 🙂

I'm a libra and i dated a cap for about 6 months. We were best friends and really connected. It ended up badly though, because towards the end, we fought consistently about pointless shit that didnt matter. I dont know if this a libra thing or not, but when i dont want to be with someone anymore i almost subconsiously make them break up with me by being so difficult. In my honest opinion, when i start flirting with other guys/ making my boyfriend jealous, i just want to be done. That's just my personal expirience though. I can totally work out but from what happened to me, we were way better off friends. Mostly because we didnt understand eachother emotionally.

Posted by Capwiththean
I appreciate all of y'all's comments, I'm just not checking back in, but in response to sugarfoot:

My best friend reached out to her and kind of talked some sense into her, I guess explaining my side of everything, and she finally ended up texting me telling me she loves and misses me, we talked that night and thoroughly explained ourselves and our feelings and agreed that this is something we'd still like to pursue. BUT, it's been a couple of days, and things have been going good, her birthday was yesterday, I surprised her with edible arrangements and balloons at her job, she seemed really happy and loving and what not, but despite all of that there's still a bit of aloofness, I'm kinda concerned I guess because I keep thinking about where we used to be, and how she'd act towards me before things started going wrong, and it's obviously different from now, I mean she still makes an effort, but it'll be little things that she does differently now, I'm wondering is it because we're just in this odd space where we have to work towards really loving and more importantly trusting each other again? Or is she possibly losing feelings for me? My mind always think the worst so I'm leaving more towards maybe this isn't what she wants, but then she'll do and say things that confirms that she does still love and care for me, as a libra, if you were to lose feelings and start thinking that the relationship you're in isn't what you want, would you end it? Or do as I've read Libras do, "stay in it to protect your significant others feelings"?


And for bellelibra:
I totally understand what you're saying, I go back and forth with myself often as to whether I should just end things and walk away and deal with the hurt and frustration and all of that now, or just try to stick it out and hope things get better, the Capricorn in me pushes me to stick it out, because the good times are sooooo good, but what is it that makes Libras so hard to please? I mean, even if we got along better, compromised more, argued less, you still think it just wouldn't work?

Hmm... Are you sure that's what she wanted for her birthday? We are very grateful people but we value sentimental gifts more than anything. For example, if someone noticed I chewed a specific type of gum and purchased me a gigantic box of said gum would mean a lot to me because it shows that you care and you're really paying attention to me. Gifts don't necessarily have to be expensive (although we love luxury) but they must be meaningful for them to really resonate with us.

It sounds like she's attempting to balance everything out; she's assessing whether you bring as much as she does to the table or not. It also sounds as though she has some maturing to do because immature Libras will fight and argue to force a common ground instead of analyzing a situation be

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It sounds like she's attempting to balance everything out; she's assessing whether you bring as much as she does to the table or not. It also sounds as though she has some maturing to do because immature Libras will fight and argue to force a common ground instead of analyzing a situation before feelings are involved to determine whether or not feelings should be involved.

Flirting with someone else is a big fat no-no because naturally, for as beautiful and popular that we tend to be, we are also severely insecure. You opened up a floodgate of doubt when you literally had her eating out of the palm of your hand. Your words are now tainted so your actions must make up for it and if you got her a generic birthday gift instead of something meaningful, she's reeeeeally analyzing why she's stressing herself out to be with you.

Still, it can be saved if you're willing to put in an incredible amount of effort. You really have to over-love her at this point and that tends to get exhausting. She will get accustomed to your acts of over-love and you will be drained from giving. The arguments start back up (because we are fucking insatiable) and it will once and for all be over. I would honestly save your time and energy, end things, learn from this, and do better with your next relationship.