I'm confused

This topic was created in the Aries forum by binzi7 on Monday, August 3, 2015 and has 24 replies.

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@binzi7
11 Years

Greetings Aries people. Libra here, coming in peace and searching for some answers.
I started seeing this guy 6 months ago. I'm 37, he is 33. We met on a dating site and we talked on the phone 2 months before actually meeting. We went on a first date, we hit it off and we started dating each other. We started texting each other daily, talk on the phone regularly and because of our opposite schedules, I work days, he works nights, we saw each other once a week over the weekend. At the time I was dating another guy, casually and I was honest and up front about it from the start. He told me he wasn't dating anyone, but he had a friend with benefits. Both of us didn't mind because we just started talking to each other. Couple of months passed and he asked me 'hey, what are we'? I said 2 people that like each other and date each other. We were not sleeping at the time. Another month passed he brought it up again. That time I said, OK I'm going to give this a try. He kind of suggested to be more serious about each other. We went on a short trip, we enjoyed each other for 3 days and finally slept after 3 months of seeing each other. I told the other guy that I can't see him anymore, he told his friend no more sleeping around, that he is in a relationship now. He introduced me to his whole family and friends.
We started spending more time together, I would spend the night or the weekends. In a mean time his 83 old dad got sick and he had no choice but to move dad in with him and take care of him. And I admire him for that.
Lately I have noticed change in he's demeanor. He is less interested to see me. He doesn't make the effort to see me when he has the chance. He is irritable and for the first time he lashed out on me for no reason. I know he is stressed with his dad, his job, he started a new job 3 weeks a go, that requires focus, learning and dedication. I get it. That's why I told him to take his time, focus and do his thing. Keep in mind that I'm not up his @ss 24/7. I have a life, friends, I run a business and I'm a doer.
I'm the type of person that if you need me, I'm here 100% But if it's something that you need to figure it out for yourself, by all means take your time and do it. He is telling me that he doesn't want to be without me. All he wants is me. I'm the one he wants to marry. He talks about our future. Us. Life. Plans. He is the one bringing all this up and at the same time deliberately goes out of his way to push me away.

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@binzi7
11 Years

We have been fighting for the past month. We haven't seen each other in 2 weeks. We are kind of going through a break up and he is not really making any effort at the present time. What is going on here? A penny for your thoughts! Thank you.

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@binzi7
11 Years

Rambunctious 76, I would like to tell you, but honestly I have no clue. I was born Oct 17, he was born April 19. I don't think it's communication issue. I think he is very depressed. He is not a typical Aries. Most Aries are vibrant, always on the go, full of action and you have to keep up with them. Not this one. He is the opposite and he is usually the one that needs to keep up with me. He is most comfortable when he is home, I feel like I'm the leader in this relationship.
Feby, I asked him point blank. His response: it's the new job, I'm very stressed and I need to concentrate. I agree, actions speak more than words do. I'm tired of the stubbornness and the words not matching his actions.

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@AriesIntrovert16
13 Years1,000+ Posts

Your synastry together is pretty nice, your Mars/Venus conjunction in Libra is pretty awesome. 🙂 are the birth years correct? You were born 1977, right?

04/19/1982 Aspect 10/17/1977 Orb/Value
Sun Trine Saturn 1.10 102
Mercury Sextile Jupiter 1.45 60
Mercury Opposition Uranus 3.12 -52
Venus Trine Uranus 2.34 54
Venus Square Neptune 0.33 -112
Mars Conjunction Venus 2.42 130
Mars Square Jupiter 2.28 -86
Jupiter Trine Jupiter 0.13 78
Jupiter Conjunction Uranus 4.43 60
Saturn Conjunction Pluto 3.36 60
Neptune Trine Saturn 1.00 52
Pluto Conjunction Sun 1.10 129
Pluto Conjunction Mercury 1.59 99
Pluto Square Mars 0.30 -98
824 -348 476

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@binzi7
11 Years

Thank you nice people. Yes, I was born 1977 at 3:05 pm. He was born 1982.
You are right! He is very passive and even when we go out, or plan what we are doing or where we are going..I'm the one to orchestrate everything. Not because I necessarily want to all the time, but because someone have to take the lead in this relationship 🙂
I just want to strangle him.... ughh... 🙂 🙂

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@binzi7
11 Years

Ariesintrovert16, obviously by now you get the hint that I'm not very educated in astrology. Damn.. I had to research what placement meant 🙂
Why do you think my chart is intense? Is it because everything is in the 8th house, (I don't know what that means ) 🙂 Care to elaborate? Thanks for your time!

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@binzi7
11 Years

Pentagram? Uh oh! And someone said murder Mars. Does that tell you guys that I might really strangle him? 🙂

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@binzi7
11 Years

Thank you for responding. I'm just tired of everything. I put my money where my mouth is and I mean what I say. I don't recognize gray areas and to me this running in circles with mixed messages is not good.