In love with my Libra confidant,

So just to give you guys some brief history, he and I have know each other for 5 years now give or take. We met thru a mutual friend that neither of us communicates with now. At the time we dated I was single and he was on a break from his longtime girlfriend. We got into an argue envy because I wouldn't let him meet my mother and we stopped talking for a while. When we reconnected he was back with the gf. I tell him everything and vice versa, we are extremely close and honest with each other. So we remained friends until last summer when he and I started to drink and all of the hidden emotions came to light. I knew we loved each other but it just felt different saying it at the time. He still has the same girlfriend (who hates me) and I have a boyfriend (who hates him) but I can't shake the feeling that I'm watching my soulmate pass me by. He's questioned me recently about our "gray area" because I try to avoid all conversations about our true feelings because I am scared. I want to know has anyone else experienced this? I think about him all day & I've most recently started writing poems about him, which I haven't done since high school. Please help, I had a dream that I was getting married and he came in plain clothes to my wedding screaming no.

Dude.... Go for it.

Bottling your true emotions up is not healthy. Besides, will you ever truly be happy if you are left wondering what could have been—

If you give it a run, you will definately know the answer; good or bad. That us a hella better than forever wonder.

Wise words NYT, exactly what I was thinking. If you don't talk through this properly you could end up with nothing. The grass always does look greener on the other side. You have to make sure you are both on the same page and also be fair to your partners. If you do go ahead, keep in mind that approaching and talking with them can change things for either one of you.

Posted by utopian
Go with your gut hon, you know what you want 🙂

Thank you, I'm just super nervous! I don't know how to start the conversation and its so weird because I talk with him about literally everything.

Posted by tallsagittarius70
Dude.... Go for it.

Bottling your true emotions up is not healthy. Besides, will you ever truly be happy if you are left wondering what could have been—

If you give it a run, you will definately know the answer; good or bad. That us a hella better than forever wonder.

This is very true...I feel like I am complete when we are around each other no matter how hard I try to cast out these feelings.

Posted by notyourtype
Wait, so you're aware of your feelings for one another, yet, you're both in committed relationships??

I think you both need to sit down and discuss what it is you both want, so that you could either break if off with your respective partners and get together, or perhaps stop seeing each other altogether. Otherwise, it's very unfair to your significant others.

Yes, I know we had conversation about being with a person because the situation is comfortable vs. being with someone who you know will keep everything exciting. I didn't know what to say after and that's when he brought up the "grey area". I try to ignore the topic because I don't want to disrespect my relationship but this feeling won't go away.

Posted by sweethearts
Wise words NYT, exactly what I was thinking. If you don't talk through this properly you could end up with nothing. The grass always does look greener on the other side. You have to make sure you are both on the same page and also be fair to your partners. If you do go ahead, keep in mind that approaching and talking with them can change things for either one of you.

Yes, I have thought about the situation from all angles but right now all of this is just a thought.

Posted by tiziani
I've seen this happen before where two people are weak (for lack of a better word) in front of one another, but it's ok because they haven't actually been in a relationship with one another yet. They think possibly that might fill the growing void. Then they finally jump into a relationship, and hate each other for their weaknesses that they know have always been there - but just never needed to put a voice to yet.

It's not easy and to sum it up, you two have gone down a road where you'll make it very difficult to trust one another whichever option you choose. So probably best to start looking at it as honestly as possible on a realistic level and be honest with everyone involved, for your own sake's.

Yea, I thought about how this can affect our friendship but we have been through a lot worse as friends. I'm just very guarded when it comes to expressing my feelings and that's what I am struggling with. I trust him because we talk about literally everything and he has been there for some of my extreme medical emergencies and list goes on and on. I don't know if I should bring the topic up being as though I have changed the subject whenever he has talked about anything involving US.

Posted by notyourtype
Wait, so you're aware of your feelings for one another, yet, you're both in committed relationships??

I think you both need to sit down and discuss what it is you both want, so that you could either break if off with your respective partners and get together, or perhaps stop seeing each other altogether. Otherwise, it's very unfair to your significant others.

This.

Fucking numbnuts above all "LOL GO AFTER HIM."

WHEN THEY'RE BOTH IN RELATIONSHIPS.

Fucking retards. Get some morals.

Aw shyt I simply cant stand when people are in relationships and cry wolf ESPECIALLY if no one is married yet. All yall have to do is come to a decision that you want to be with one another, and dump who yall with and keep it moving. The two people on the outside will respect you both more in the end for your honestly rather than stringing them along knowing you want someone else. I know I would. Do them a favor and them find someone else don't be selfish. Geesh

and for the record him being Libra has nothing to do with it.