Is it a bad sign if...

My libra woman and I have been dating for two months (two WONDERFUL months), and early last week we told each other that we loved each other. She said it first in fact during our work break in the park. Well, all of a sudden this week, she has gone a bit "cold" or at least detached. We always text, write fun emails and see each other at work every day during our break but for both Monday and today all of our communication other than in person (we carpool, but don't live together) has come to a halt. I usually get 3 or 4 emails a day about what is going on with her day or about her friends or about her feelings for me, but so far this week, nothing. Not one email other than letting me know she is going to lunch with a friend. I have sent a few to her like I always do but have been given short, quick responses or no response at all. She is not extra busy at work or planning anything that I know of that would keep her from being able to chat. In fact, her boss is off this week. Even her affection for me this weekend and early this week has seemed to wane a bit.

I am guessing it might have something to do with the fact that she is content with our relationship since we have proclaimed our love for each other and are talking marriage and she is just focusing her attention on other things. I know it seems a bit premature to wonder about this, but it's HIGHLY unusual for her to not at least stay in touch throughout the day (I don't ever force her to she just always has) and want to come see me for a kiss. Is it that dreaded "Two Month Curse" that Libras seem to go through? LOL. I am just curious if any Libras in love out there have cooled down after proclaiming there love for a man. Maybe it's that the "chase" is over?

I've noticed a Two Month and a Five Month Curse with Libras lol They seem to be "pivotal points" with them.. handle it well and things get even BETTER between you!

Don't panic. She's busy/distracted or simply processing the "changes" internally for a bit. I'm sure she'd let you KNOW if there was a problem. Keep going like you were before.. worked great so far, right? Don't fix it if it ain't broken.. and don't break something just to see if you can fix it! LOL

Plan a fun night out with her soon, something to "de-stress" her 🙂

umm ... it has been so long since I have been "in love" that I really have no idea. lol!

I think I am pretty consistent. She may just need a little room. And when she's had it, she'll come running back.

Thanks Nefer and sparrow. You are both fantastic!

I am not going to panic about it. And, I actually HAVE planned a wonderful romantic getaway this weekend for us to enjoy some quiet time, socializing and beautiful scenery.

She actually told me on the drive home that she was online during part of the day finding out what types of jewelry she likes. She doesn't wear or own much jewelry.

One last question: Should I worry if she refuses to change her Facebook profile to "In a Relationship"? She is keeping it as "single". She wouldn't tell me why. I didn't ask her to change it but to me this feels like we are in a serious relationship! :-) I don't quite know what her thought process is on that. Must be a Libra socializing/flirting thing.

My Libra didn't change his "relationship status" until I asked him if there was a reason he hadn't... and it was quite a bit longer than 2.5 months in, more like 6.. aka after the Five Month Curse lol Another thing to not worry too much about - just give it time to grow and deepen.

I think it's just one of those things that don't matter all that much to them ("In A Relationship" VS "Single" on FB) and doesn't always mean they're still looking to start something with someone else, or leave their options wide open... Libras in love are very, very loyal. (Libras in LIKE are pretty darn loyal too!) They KNOW that they're in a relationship/dating, no matter what their online statuses say. Also, yes Libras flirt and socialize, and usually it's totally harmless on their part, and a lot of times they don't realize they're even flirting according to another's standards.

You must really, really be falling for this Libra girl.. so sweet. But I would caution you the same as I'd caution a woman falling fast and thinking it FEELS like a serious relationship before they're sure it is to the other person too.... Slow down, take a deep breath. Relax. Don't get in over your head and end up pushing or smothering her, Libras don't like to feel boxed in or trapped. You must be an Invitation, not a Demand.. And it's ONLY been less than 3 months. You're still in the getting to know each other and dating stage. Enjoy the process, don't rush it like it's something to get through fast, savor it - it's quite lovely with a Libra's stimulating conversations and sparkling wit. Libra is Air... and they like to mix friendship with love.. they like to be friends with their lovers, and the stronger the friendship, the stronger the love can grow.

Honestly, when I asked him, that's what he said.. that he "hadn't really thought it mattered cuz everyone knows we're together"... so I then sent him a Facebook Relationship Status Confirmation request... "Click YES to confirm that you are indeed In A Relationship with So-And-So." .. which he didn't notice (or respond to, obviously) for 6 days. 6 days is interminably long time when you're waiting for something. It's not that they're ashamed of your relationship or hiding it - sometimes they just don't realize it's important to you, and they just don't SEE it until it bites them on the nose! lol And he was LIVING with me by then. So one afternoon, I asked him, "Have you looked at your Facebook requests lately?" He answered, "Uhhh.. no.. why? Is there a reason I should?" I just said, "Yes, there's something there that really means a lot to me." He looked and literally lol'ed, teased me, "Oh.. I take it THIS is what you were waiting for me to see, huh? Hmmm what to do, what to do?" Then he clicked yes and came over to me to kiss and nuzzle me and say, "We've been together for months... I didn't know it was that important to you, what it says online." I just sighed happily and said, "It WAS important to me, yes. Thank you."

Incidentally, we broke up for a VERY short time (days) last February (we're crap at "breaking up" lol) and *I* stripped out the Relationship Status during that time because HE wouldn't. We haven't put it back up yet.. and oddly enough, it doesn't matter as much to me anymore. He's right - everyone knows we're together, and most of all WE KNOW. He's been hinting though... that my Status is still just blank. Not Single, but Not In A Relationship, and certainly not linked to HIS FB account. But I'm a Show Me The Money girl... don't give me hints. If you want it linked, send a request. If you want it changed, ASK me.

Oh God.. his Libra is rubbing off on me!! :O

Posted by Nefer
So one afternoon, I asked him, "Have you looked at your Facebook requests lately?" He answered, "Uhhh.. no.. why? Is there a reason I should?" I just said, "Yes, there's something there that really means a lot to me." He looked and literally lol'ed, teased me, "Oh.. I take it THIS is what you were waiting for me to see, huh? Hmmm what to do, what to do?" Then he clicked yes and came over to me to kiss and nuzzle me and say, "We've been together for months... I didn't know it was that important to you, what it says online." I just sighed happily and said, "It WAS important to me, yes. Thank you."

HAHA, that is totally what my Libra would say too I bet. Same sarcastic humorous comment. Always teasing then being sweet. That was an awesome response Nefer and it makes perfect sense. I also really love what you said about Libras wanting to be friends with their lovers. As a Taurus I can sometimes be a bit too methodical, practical and routine. She loves to go out with her friends once or twice a week and just hang out and socialize. She usually asks if I want to go and sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. I notice that when I do go, she is usually VERY affectionate with me after we get back and are alone. Almost like it was important for her that I was there with her and now she wants to get physical and romantic with me. However, If we spend too much time alone together at my house or hers, she will usually end up falling asleep earlier. Also, I notice that the next night, she needs/wants to be alone or spend little time together, UNLESS it's with her friends or at some event. Routine is not something she likes at all. Thanks to these forums I have learned to keep things interesting and exciting just enough, on a week to week basis. Not always easy for a set in his ways Taurus of 40 but I enjoy travelling and exploring new things so that helps a lot.

As a taurus I am someone who when I'm in love will put my woman on a pedestal. She is my #1. For Libras, while their lover is very important, they can at times seem no more important than the stranger they just met in a restaurant who they are now talking to for the past 20 minutes while I sit in awe. It's so amazing to see the Libra work in a social setting. While I admire it, because of my nature, it can be hard to understand sometimes. 🙂

* She wouldn't tell me why.

Did you ask why it wasn't changed? After a certain amount of time, it would bother me. I like the "I'm in a relationship" but I don't like to say with who. Partly, cause I feel like I am peeing on their leg, yelling "MINE! MINE! MINE!". But maybe I am weird.

Who knows? Maybe the next guy will be so great, I will be tattooing a "Property of the Little Sparrow" on him. One can dream. .... sorry? what was the question? lol

I think it's normal for libras to withdraw a bit. It's part of trying to find balance. A typical libra will go through social and asocial phases, as well as emotional and emotionally distant phases. No biggie.

as for facebook... I can't guess her reason, but I do know I'd be worried that if I changed it, I might end up having to change it back sooner than later. And that's depressing. And who wants to be the girl who always changes her status... Most libras care about their reputations a lot. How bad would it look if she dumped you a week after announcing that she was with you? Or worse, how bad would SHE look if you dumped her.

how I am with a guy I like has less to do with my feeings and more to do with his, and how secure I feel that he's genuine and will stick around. In general, a libra either is into you or isn't. Yours is clearly into you.

it's mostly bad to push libras, but if you nudge gently instead, she'll probably be happy that you care.