is it possible to fall for online?

is it possible for u to fall in love or like with someone online? w/o meeting them first if it seem impossible because of distance?

Every person who think falling in love over the net is stupid is just making a fool out of themselves. I started seeing them with a bit of sympathy these days after getting more and more case studies.

Getting to like a person happens inside ones brain. You get only limited inputs during communication compared to meeting a person in real life. If you experiment, you can realize your brain can really get interested in someone with those limited set of inputs and doesn't really need all those facial gestures and presence all the time. And people do speak more frankly over the net than in real life. There is always a certain amount of lies and psychological factors we face when meeting people in real life. So we get deceived less over the net.

But where's the looking into someone's eyes, or reading their body language? and everything that comes into play when you're getting to know someone. All the fun in meeting someone is taken away when you two just sit in front of the computer typing...
sure you can learn things about the person but I personally think it's the face to face and all the things that come with the interacting with someone that make meeting people exciting!

(( But where's the looking into someone's eyes, or reading their body language? )) some people are good in hiding it and we always get the wrong idea about their character. Appearances can be deceiving. And our brain miscalculates so much when we get fake body languages and gestures.

No one has mentioned yet that you can't be led astray by the very things that are absent. Like eye contact and body language. I think because of this it is a good way to meet a potential mate but to actually find out and fall in love with the person properly you have to spend time with them in person. Like a filter. A lot of what you decide about someones potential comes from the way they present themselves, including speak. That does still come through online in text. Also, I think more people put more effort in to communicating more thuroughly because all you have are written words to do it with.

You like the person for what they have told you about themselves. You have no idea what their true character is just what they believe or hope about themselves.

* On one side talking to a person online you can for the most part get to know then for themselves

You get to know what they want to reveal. Nothing else.

* People are never what they seem online or off/

true.

* some people are good in hiding it and we always get the wrong idea about their character. Appearances can be deceiving. And our brain miscalculates so much when we get fake body languages and gestures.

It is impossible to truly fake body language. It is intuitive and automatic.

good points Nic

I just posted a big long rambly on online relationships on the When the Spell is Broken thread.