libra!

hello there... met my libra male friend again this week after a lot of months of only being in touch by internet and phone... it was great and he was really nice. always calling me baby and sweetheart and stuff and was very touchy feely somehow... anyway, what i was gonna ask you guys is: during the conversation, in that we tried to catch up a bit, he asked me if i was having a man in my life etc.. that question i kinda answered quite a bit vague (mostly because i was surprised to get to hear a question like that from him at that moment... ) ..and in the end said, that i was having no time for that etc. his response to that was, that i should make time for it whenor if the right one came along..

is this just a friendly concern about my well being or happiness next to all my busy working day by day or did he actually wanted to show some kind of interest in me by asking that? :-)

god he was hot!!! he made my day, it was really great to see him again and i wish he felt the same way about it, but i dunno... always hard to tell.. esp because i am really a quiet person as well most of the time we meet and far too shy to actually really show my interest in him. and he often is heard to read as well..

any thoughts?

If I know anything about Libra males which I don't 😉 my one cent will be as follows...

''in that we tried to catch up a bit, he asked me if i was having a man in my life etc..''

Libras keep private matters private and won't ask you such a personal question if they're not thinking in the lines of hooking up...

''his response to that was, that i should make time for it whenor if the right one came along..''

he may be wanting you to give him the go ahead or just looking out for you as a friend...this was the opening for you to ask him back about someone in his life 🙂 Libras tend to throw you a line - if you're vague, they just pull back - they tend to need decisiveness for even the smallest things...

Yes Libs are hard to read and always friendly - I would in your shoes attempt not to give/feel more than I'm getting back...

I obviously don't know the history to the story - just being nosy 😉

Yes I'd have agreed with you there, however, after 8 months of my Libra disappearing (we needed to separate for many reasons) the first thing he asked was "so have you gotten yourself married yet"...I mean firstly after 8 months, I dont think so LOL, but yeah i got the humour....I returned the question (not that I wanted to hear the answer) and he said "I havent been available since you and I split)....WTF?

I thought perhaps it was him sniffing around to see if we could pick up where we left off from but then I didnt hear from him for 2 weeks and so I decided to write to him and tell him that I couldn't do the online friend thing and that although I still loved him very much, it was just too hard......that was 7 weeks ago, haven't heard anything back...doubt I will.

You just never know these guys - they pop back up in your life at the most insane time...MONTHS later like no time has passed and then start sniffing but you never really know if they actually want more or whether they're just being nosey.

The only thing I really agree with though? is "I would in your shoes attempt not to give/feel more than Im getting back"....DONT go getting all caught up in this coz it could go on for months/years.

If they want you? they will make no hesitation in getting you (whether days/weeks/months/years have passed).....once they've made their mind up (again, this could take a lifetime), they'll come and get you and nothing will stand in their way and you wont have to wonder.

Should you wait? not on your life coz wrinkles and grey hair might set in first LOL

yes it was the same guy, who wanted us to try and hook up for COFFEE when he's around... so thats what we did, even though we both were very busy during the week...
yeah thinking about it now, i guess, it might have been an opening line for me to ask him about having a girl in his life... but i didn't... maybe i should have... but his question on that came in surprisingly when we just had been talking about business before, so i simply forgot haha... when he asked me if i had a man in my life, i just said... "not really".. so then he went on saying... "so there are a couple of men then".. and i said "yeah 5 in 3 days"... but i was laughing when saying so... joking about it... and he gave me a really shocked face saying "wow... thats tough" or something.. but i said.. nah just joking.. "i don't have time for that" he knows i am a really hard worker . so in the end we both laughed about it... and then he came back saying i should make time for it.and asking if i was only thinking about work.
it was a very personal question. but we've been friends for 6 years now... being in touch all the time.. and talking by internet and texts every week... brief messages..so yeah we have some kind of a really strange friendship going on.. sometimes i dont know if we're friends at all, as when being busy, he gets really distant.. but then again... he's talking to me like we've known each other for a lifetime.

anyway, i guess, he doesnt know what i want from him and same goes for me...

but i guess i might have given him some negative signals too... coz i didnt ask him back on the girlfriend thing... i didnt really respond to his touching me thing... and i was really hard to read that night too... letting him be the one to keep the coversation going... that might have been misunderstood by him... even though i guess, i was just too shy or too scared to really make myself clear about it... i was sitting there wanting to touch, but i didnt dare in a way... the only thing that for sure he should have seen, were my eyes shining... as they normally do when being around him.. everyone tells me, that i am shining through my eyes... whenever i am happy.. and whenever there are talks about him... so yeah..

as for the "not feel/give more than getting back"... yes i know.... though there is something i feel about him, but i don't really know what it is myself... and for the giving... well he has been doing all the work that day... so i guess we're more or less equal there.

you know the thing is... he is a tall and very!! gorgeous man .. someone thats shining... with a huge aura and everyone would notice when he enters a room...and acting always nice and friendly with anyone, but very confident around people... but we've somehow gotten over that thing years ago already ... when we hang out, he is really relaxed.. not pretending anything or being anyone that he isnt... he's just the way he is... really relaxed and open.. telling me about his thoughts, his fears and his future plans... so keeping private things private ... doesnt really exist anyway... coz we'd always talk about private stuff.. mixed with the other stuff... but normally we don't talk about his or my love life haha.. thats what i do with my best female friends... but yeah maybe he was just curious or wanting to hear my opinion on something that he was going through with a girl in his life and thatswhy put it on the table... but it was not to be in the end, as i didnt ask him back haha.. anyway..

''but normally we don't talk about his or my love life haha..''

That's what happened with a Lib - we fancied each other a lot and had 5 years of friendship with no talk of love life...

now one of my best friend is male lib and we talk about love life all the time - Lib will help you analyse anything.

If he didn't want something, I don't think he would ask - just my 2nd cent - they sometimes move at an indecisive rate which means SSSSLLLOOOOOOWWW...you have nothing to lose if you ask...you find out where you stand - friends or more - I still stand by you not projecting more than you get back though...

good luck

yeah been out with other gyus of course... nah feeling for him a long time already... esp in the last 12 months... but he ain't here... ain't around.. too far away...

hey there... well a bit more than a week has passed since the meeting and i guess, cappywench somehow was right in the end... i didn't hear anything from him in a whole week.. he would not even response to my email message... feels like he didnt have such a good time at the meeting then.. the only thing he did, was poke me at facebook exactly 1 week after the meeting... that was really all i heard from him in the last 10 days!

awesome!

guess he doesn't like talking to me anymore then.... haha... wonder what i have done wrong...

:-)

anyway, thanks for the feedback, given above ...