@hurt-heart
18 Years
Some Libra Men are the most insensitive men I have
* This is the end of the friendship, I should have done it a long time ago..
yes. I am surprised this is still going on. I thought you had ended contact with him awhile ago.
yes. I am surprised this is still going on. I thought you had ended contact with him awhile ago.
He's a salesrep for my business, so I tried to maintain a friendship with him, thinking eventually it would become the same business relationship..But it would seem that we cannot let go of the personal part of our relationship, I tried, gave it a shot..But it is impossible, so now I,m cutting it all personal and business..
lol...told u months ago to stay away and save urself.
True, True..
I know I did..I have tried to cut contact many times but it never seems to work, he always comes back..Time to take care of myself and not worry about his feelings..
(( he always comes back..Time to take care of myself and not worry about his feelings.. ))
hurt-heart, this is so true libra always comes back - then goes again. And I don't know what is wrong with us leo- girls that we just keep allowing it.
don't be so hard on yourself... The time will come when you would have enough of him and his little "games" just won't rattle you anymore.
hurt-heart, this is so true libra always comes back - then goes again. And I don't know what is wrong with us leo- girls that we just keep allowing it.
don't be so hard on yourself... The time will come when you would have enough of him and his little "games" just won't rattle you anymore.
Libras always do come back because we don't like leaving people we care about behind.
You may have no option but to cut all ties completely. He will pop up again but there is nothing you can do about. If you are able to take the time between his popping up and come to terms with it, it might be easier for you when he does.
You may have no option but to cut all ties completely. He will pop up again but there is nothing you can do about. If you are able to take the time between his popping up and come to terms with it, it might be easier for you when he does.
Well, it would seem to me that he dosen't care about me, or he wouldn't go out of his way to hurt me..So maybe this time he won't pop back up...It seems to me that I am not the only girl going through this with him, he has another friend who he has fooled around with (says they never had sex) who is also upset with him..He tends to lead people on and then when they get mad ,he says what did I do..
He even took it as far the last time that when we got back to his house (I was suppose to stay the night and sleep in his sons room) to tell me that the house was haunted and he got it cheap because of this..He told me a big story about how a son in law strangled his mother in law in his front room and how the neighbours all hear noises coming from his house.. So i said i was leaving, which I was anyways because I was pissed off about dinner and then he says I'm only joking...and wanted me to stay..
My guess is he was trying to scare me so that I would want to sleep in his room, knowing we would probably have sex and then he could ease his guilt by saying you were suppose to sleep in my son's room and blame me because I was scared.. This is the way he works..screwed up.. But I left..
He even took it as far the last time that when we got back to his house (I was suppose to stay the night and sleep in his sons room) to tell me that the house was haunted and he got it cheap because of this..He told me a big story about how a son in law strangled his mother in law in his front room and how the neighbours all hear noises coming from his house.. So i said i was leaving, which I was anyways because I was pissed off about dinner and then he says I'm only joking...and wanted me to stay..
My guess is he was trying to scare me so that I would want to sleep in his room, knowing we would probably have sex and then he could ease his guilt by saying you were suppose to sleep in my son's room and blame me because I was scared.. This is the way he works..screwed up.. But I left..
He's only doing it (stringing you along each time) because he KNOWS you will allow it - its just a game to him and you getting upset? that's part of the attraction because he KNOWS he charm his way back.
How could you treat yourself like this? get rid of him, forget him, move on...you've read enough posts on here to understand its not going to ever be a long term thing, never going to be a r/ship, never going to be anything, kick his ass to the curb Li and find somebody who truly deserves somebody decent.
At least my Libra did the right thing in the end, he just cut all contact which was very painful as I'd like to have been friends...yes, it would seem he's starting to come back - Im not sure how I will handle that but yeah, friends would be good - I dont think I could go back to any more than that now....too much time ( even to Libras its like a day gone past LOL).
Hurt Heart, just give yourself time and you'll realise what sort of an ass he really is - remove yourself from him, dont give in to temptation or his charms, it will NEVER work for you with this man
How could you treat yourself like this? get rid of him, forget him, move on...you've read enough posts on here to understand its not going to ever be a long term thing, never going to be a r/ship, never going to be anything, kick his ass to the curb Li and find somebody who truly deserves somebody decent.
At least my Libra did the right thing in the end, he just cut all contact which was very painful as I'd like to have been friends...yes, it would seem he's starting to come back - Im not sure how I will handle that but yeah, friends would be good - I dont think I could go back to any more than that now....too much time ( even to Libras its like a day gone past LOL).
Hurt Heart, just give yourself time and you'll realise what sort of an ass he really is - remove yourself from him, dont give in to temptation or his charms, it will NEVER work for you with this man
We finally had it out and we are not going to talk anymore, he said for 6 months, I said have a good life..He said he realizes what he's been doing and that he is sorry, but he dosen't know what he wants and needs more time to figure himself out.He said he does say things to keep me there and did say things to bring me back to him when I tried to move on and started a new relationship..I told him that I have tried to be his friend only and he said that he knew this but their is too much attraction between us..The conversation went well but after we hung up I realized that he had done it again..He left the door open again by saying he needed time to figure himself out and what he wants..He did not tell me that he dosen't want to be with me but he needs time (fucking coward)..
So, I called him back, of course he didn't pick up and I told him that he did it again and why can't he just close the door..I told him I loved him with all my heart but that he is a fucking jerk...And to never contact me agian
So, I called him back, of course he didn't pick up and I told him that he did it again and why can't he just close the door..I told him I loved him with all my heart but that he is a fucking jerk...And to never contact me agian
Sweetie, be good to YOU (translation=D-I-S-T-A-N-C-E).
***I know I did..I have tried to cut contact many times but it never seems to work, he always comes back***
When he comes back don't accept him. YOU CAN CUT CONTACT!!! If he calls, don't answer. Simple. If he pops up unannounced, ignore him. If you really want to cut him off just do it.
When he comes back don't accept him. YOU CAN CUT CONTACT!!! If he calls, don't answer. Simple. If he pops up unannounced, ignore him. If you really want to cut him off just do it.
and the reason she doesnt cut him off? because she thinks this way:
"If I dont answer, he'll never call again"....meaning she WANTS him to call (or she'd not answer)
"If I dont answer his text he'll think something is wrong"...no he won't...he won't care.
"If I dont respond to his email he'll think Im not interested"....BINGO!!
"If I dont answer the door he'll come back"....ummmm...maybe once or twice but he'll get the hint eventually.
Problem is, you WANT him to keep coming back or you'd not come onto this site and of course its natural that you still like/love him and want him to CHANGE but he won't, it will ALWAYS be like this each and every freaking time.
Ive thought all the above from time to time with my Libra ex but you know what? I can live VERY happily without him and yes cutting him off completely was the hardest thing Ive had to do in a very long time but after the initial 'OMG how will I cope' the hours ran into days and then weeks and finally months.
He won't cut you off because he can still get into your head and worst of all, into your heart....he's not mature enough to cut ties with you because he is SELFISH and you won't let go because you live with hope that things will get better.....
Ummmmm....they'll only get better if you turn your back and walk away.....who knows, perhaps in 6 months or a year things may turn around and he may truly find the right feelings for you but now? he's too wrapped up in his own life.....for now you mean nothing to him but a toy to play with.
Sorry but Ive been there too
"If I dont answer, he'll never call again"....meaning she WANTS him to call (or she'd not answer)
"If I dont answer his text he'll think something is wrong"...no he won't...he won't care.
"If I dont respond to his email he'll think Im not interested"....BINGO!!
"If I dont answer the door he'll come back"....ummmm...maybe once or twice but he'll get the hint eventually.
Problem is, you WANT him to keep coming back or you'd not come onto this site and of course its natural that you still like/love him and want him to CHANGE but he won't, it will ALWAYS be like this each and every freaking time.
Ive thought all the above from time to time with my Libra ex but you know what? I can live VERY happily without him and yes cutting him off completely was the hardest thing Ive had to do in a very long time but after the initial 'OMG how will I cope' the hours ran into days and then weeks and finally months.
He won't cut you off because he can still get into your head and worst of all, into your heart....he's not mature enough to cut ties with you because he is SELFISH and you won't let go because you live with hope that things will get better.....
Ummmmm....they'll only get better if you turn your back and walk away.....who knows, perhaps in 6 months or a year things may turn around and he may truly find the right feelings for you but now? he's too wrapped up in his own life.....for now you mean nothing to him but a toy to play with.
Sorry but Ive been there too
leave him alone..Its not worth the energy. you dont have to be man about it. just simply dont answer. I have learned why dwell with sum1 who does not want to dwell with you. he is immature. and you stroke his ego everytime. Why do you think hewas interested at 1st. it was somthing different about you. I bet when you guys 1st met you didnt answer every call. u were straight up with him. then u got weak. now he is in control. Man up. I just mde a post. about libra hating me. It bothered me a lil, But now I dont care I told him the truth about himself .I let him know My wrongs as well as his. now I have accepted things. his lost he does not wanna talk to me.I am going to still live.Men want women who dont want them. not women who cry over his emails and phone calls. .. MEN DONT RESPOND TO WORDS.THEY RESPOND TO NO CONTACT.THE MORE INDEPENDENT YOU ARE OF HIM THE MORE INTERESTED HE WILL BE. you depend on his coming and going u need that..I keep reading your post. and I know you love him. but if u really love him and want him let him go. please. with all due respect. you are better then this. find your worth b4 its to late. u are being sucked in. you are the prize!!!!! not him.
Dont mean to sound harsh.
Dont mean to sound harsh.
Ditto to all the other comments about leaving him alone. I was dating/engaged to a Libra man for a total of 8 years (our relationship ended 1998, and I still can't get rid of him completely, but at least now we are JUST FRIENDS - no physical relationship). I can't speak for all Libras, but I've known quite a few (male and females) and the ones I associated with:
A. Hate to be ignored
B. Wishy. Washy -- exp: one day totally in love, next day, not sure if they want to be with you.
C. Fall in love very easily; and then fall out just as quickly.
D. Don't like to seem like the "bad guy/gal"
E. Can NOT be by themselves; always seems to keep one "on the side."
F. Usually genial people, but can be very mean (the males) if they are trying to get rid of you.
My ex, was courting me HARD before he and his prior girlfriend were realy over (I didn't find this out until later). Once I found out he had just gotten out of a relationship, I told him to take some time and play the field. He told me he didn't want to because he wanted to be with me. I gave him NUMEROUS outs and he wouldn't take them.
I won't bore you with the whole 6 years of dating and 2 years of being engaged. Suffice to say, we didn't get married. He was seeing someone before I moved out of our house (surprise, surprise). He got married a year later, had 2 kids and just left his wife.
From my personal experience, it's hard for some of them to be satisfied with just one woman. To this day, we are now like brother and sister, but if I gave any indication of something else, he take me up on it. My suggestion is to move on and be with someone who will give you 100% of themselves. (Although, I'm beginning to think a lot of guys are like this, as I'm digging a Leo male now and that has it's own issues - I'll posts about that later!)
Good luck and if you get rid of him, consider it good riddance!
A. Hate to be ignored
B. Wishy. Washy -- exp: one day totally in love, next day, not sure if they want to be with you.
C. Fall in love very easily; and then fall out just as quickly.
D. Don't like to seem like the "bad guy/gal"
E. Can NOT be by themselves; always seems to keep one "on the side."
F. Usually genial people, but can be very mean (the males) if they are trying to get rid of you.
My ex, was courting me HARD before he and his prior girlfriend were realy over (I didn't find this out until later). Once I found out he had just gotten out of a relationship, I told him to take some time and play the field. He told me he didn't want to because he wanted to be with me. I gave him NUMEROUS outs and he wouldn't take them.
I won't bore you with the whole 6 years of dating and 2 years of being engaged. Suffice to say, we didn't get married. He was seeing someone before I moved out of our house (surprise, surprise). He got married a year later, had 2 kids and just left his wife.
From my personal experience, it's hard for some of them to be satisfied with just one woman. To this day, we are now like brother and sister, but if I gave any indication of something else, he take me up on it. My suggestion is to move on and be with someone who will give you 100% of themselves. (Although, I'm beginning to think a lot of guys are like this, as I'm digging a Leo male now and that has it's own issues - I'll posts about that later!)
Good luck and if you get rid of him, consider it good riddance!
get this book.... why men love B*tches. sherry argov...
Libras thrive on relationships but when in doubt or caught between choices. We do STUPID things and hurt people we truly care for. When a Libra comes back (and we do come back) it's not a game but it's also not say we are ready for commitment. My best advice, treat it as let start over and pace ourselves. Don't treat it as let pick up where we left off.
So ignore that bastard and don't do the jealously thang because Libra will attempt to even the score (scale). Keep us guessing, this will drive libra crazy not knowing. So when you dumped the information on how the relationship didn't last and it's OVER, the Libra got bored. If you had said well we are just slowing down a little, than his eyes wouldn't have left your lips.
So ignore that bastard and don't do the jealously thang because Libra will attempt to even the score (scale). Keep us guessing, this will drive libra crazy not knowing. So when you dumped the information on how the relationship didn't last and it's OVER, the Libra got bored. If you had said well we are just slowing down a little, than his eyes wouldn't have left your lips.
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Anyways me and Capricorn just broke up and me and Libra were talking on the phone and we decided to go to dinner, so I drove an hour and a half to his house, we had a couple of beer and talked for an hour or so..He asked me what happened with the other guy, so I told him, he asked me if I thought of him while I was with the other guy, and I was honest and said yes but I also said that I understood that we are just friends and I was happy with that...He even asked me if I had slept with the other guy..
So we go to dinner and sit down and there is a nice looking girl at the table behind me, he spent the whole time, and I mean the whole time through dinner staring at her over my shoulder..It was terrible how blantly obvious he was being and it made it incredibly uncomfortable and embarressed...
so, after we left i made a comment about how I thought it was rude and he said "i,m human, so now I can't look at woman.".I said if I was that girl I would have been offended and he said, "oh we were making eye contact, i'll be dating her next week".
I ended up leaving and going home, I thought it was very rude, when I go to dinner with someone and drive for an hour and a half to spend time with them, I expect their attention, it's one thing to look ,it is another to stare..
It also hurt me because he always drags my feelings out of me, as he did earlier in the evening and then turns around and uses them against me..When you ask someone about their feelings and they say they still have feelings, why would you do something that you know would hurt them ??
This is the end of the friendship, I should have done it a long time ago..Obviously I still have some feelings and it's obvious that he has no respect for me or my feelings...For anybody else dealing with a rollercaoster Libra, the shit just goes on and on and on!!!