Libra and revenge?

As I was saying in another thread:

I have another libran friends, who's been courting me for years now. He started courting me when he still have a girlfriend and I was young. He's a few years older. It was a subtle way of courtship, so I can never tell him he's cheating, but he spends a lot of time at my home and sends me flowers? I didn't talk to him that much during that time...but is it not the same? it's a form of cheating. He also told me he is very happy when he is around me, and tells my brothers and friends how much he likes to be around me.

7 years went on, in my mind he is a cheater, so I told myself never to like him, but over the years and 2 more girlfriends, he's still there, I've travelled and we've not seen each other for a long time, when he's learned I am comin home he left his gf. He's there all the time, all occasion, as he is close with my brothers and now my parents too. he's become a family friend. I know he likes me but he's never direct about it, just always present. He tells my brothers and friends about his love for me but not me. maybe because I don't really talk to him, i'm just being friendly and not really serious around him. Sometimes I ignore him, and over the years have done so many things that could have hurt him...actually i've ignored him so many times..hurt him, and at some point when my friend told me he cried because I hurt him with my actions. I thought he will stop pursuing me, but he's back after a few day.

He is a libra with venus in scorpio so I see where his persistence is coming from. I couldn't possibly say he love's me cause he doesn't really know me inside and I am always mean to him..I don't know maybe I am blind.

HERE'S MY QUESTION: lol sorry that was long

Do librans like revenge? If I give him a chance to date me, or something and he gets me? do you think he will let me pay for the pain i've cause him over the years? If he gets me, he migt just drop me like that. —

or do you think he really likes me? ahhh

With Libra you have to be careful. Are we really in love or too stubborn to let go and we hang on to our heart (WITH OUR HEAD) and it's on principle? Because thinking about you is a happy place for him. Whether he's really in love remains to be seen BUT almost certainly he does not realise this right now and while he is still holding on to his 'feelings' and does not have you.

Once he has you and the relationship takes off is when HE can assess (it happens automatically) his true feelings about you. Now it's just a stubborn thought that he is not allowing to let go off because he does not know what to replace it with. Don't know if it makes any sense but try to understand.

But no revenge. And when we feel we've done wrong we apologise.

aha... so gems get scared pretty fast when they make someone suffer. no wonder my gem keeps still stay anonymous... What she messaged me yday

" VGem has some characters, she's been seen by thelibran in a weird way, she likes thelibran, but she doesnt want him to know that she is VGem or something....but want his frienship,,, I dont wanna fuck it up"...

ah yes, Libra, you rule the head too...to think in the long run, it's shallow..he's probably just being stubborn.

thelibran, we don't make someone suffer intentionally, at least for me..I don't. Scared, maybe that's what you call it, but gems are skeptical by nature, so I question things first.

Your's is another story, you gem is young and probably doesn't know what she really wants, you need to whip here and shake some sense into her..haha. You need to educate her and as much as possible I think huh, that with gems, it's best to be friends first..until they realize they love you, because they are afraid of commitment,at least most.

Gem girls are unreasonable scared. But then gem is considered as that 8 year old little girl right. Will be scared. 😛

Revenge no. If we don't react when it's happening then we let it go. It might stew inside but taking it out later isn't "fair". Sometimes a little manipulation is fair game. I mean...if someone doesn't realize that they are being a jerk or hurtful and should without having to have it spelled out for them then they are fair game. But it is more of a sly, subtle maneuvering that either goes over the persons head for the entertainment in irony or enough so that it can't really be called out without the other person looking like a hypocrit.

That is a bit more info than I think you would have to worry about. Vengful? No. Hold accountable? Yes.

nic,that is something..yes you are right.

nope maybe revenge not, hard to imagine just being skeptical. But maybe he has some stubborn bone, he doesn't realy love me but that is whats on his mind so he's so bent n getting me. ..ahh don't know...

While I'm not very vengeful, I hold grudges to the end of my life 😢

And there are indeed people I wouldn't give a second chance.

Karma is justice enough for me, and in my case... justice is sooooooo sweeeeeet!