Libra & Aries

Just curious, all the Libra & Aries relationship info online is so negative. Anyone have any positive Libra/Aries experiences? This is the first Libra I have been involved with, and it seems like our differences are complimentary and we have enough similarties at the same time. We both like freedom, going out, music, good food, sex, wine, traveling, and we work hard and play hard. I help him make decisions, and he tones down my impulsivity a bit (or at least makes me think about it for a second!) What drives Libra men nuts about Aries women? His ex is also an Aries who I know but we are very different people, she's emotionally unstable & per him would always get mad at him for trivial things. He has a Libra sun and Leo moon, me Aries for both. It's only been a few months so who knows, seems doomed from what I have read online! (though I wouldn't base my decision on that anyway.) My only complaints thus far are that he asks tons of probing questions (part of the evaluating process I guess, kinda understand because I have a wild personal personality but am pretty conservative at work which confuses him), seems overly fixated on my appearence (not a big issue but sometimes the compliments are a little much, I'm hot but not a supermodel), and he's a little insecure despite the fact that I try to build him up(feel bad for him because he makes me feel good about myself & I should be doing the same for him). Or are these the issues people have run into? From what I've read theirs much worse to come!

The way you described your relationship is pretty much sounds like the best potential outcome with Libra/Aries. Expecially that you help him be more decisive and he helps you be a little less impulsive. The way you described that sounds to me like you appreciate that about each other and that is common with Libra/Aries but there is the potential there that the same quality can make you feel like the other is hindering those characteristics about you. The fact that you look at it like a bennifit is the biggest step a working and happy Libra/Aries combination....and it paves the way for both of you to open up and really enjoy the qualities of each others signs. One of my best friends is an Aries and we are the same way. Becuase of our friendship, and our rubbing off on each other so to speak he is a bit more contemplative and cerebral when it comes to the things he wants/needs and I am allow myself to react and act based off of initial reaction. When were together were a force to be reconed with in that if we want to do something, we will go do it....

Thanks for your insight, Nic. It's not that Aries ppl necessarily think being impulsive and making quick decisions is the best way to go about doing things, we just act by instincts. It never really occurred to me to stop and think about it, which I am learning from him, interesting to contemplate. Though its just easier for both of us if I pick out restaurants unless we plan it very very early in the day! lol

lol@planning very very early in the day!! Oh how so true LOL

Learned that rather quickly as it starts with, "should we eat out or cook something?" Then, "well what would we cook vs. go out to eat?" Very cute though, but a girl gets hungry! I've read your earlier posts, how's your situation going? (Good I hope!)

Maybe Libras have a knack for gravitating towards intense personalities.

what made you think I'm intense? Haha, but I've read your other posts & your nuts.

LOL...I've learnt not to let them make decisions at all...its torture watching it unfold...I'd rather watch paint dry LOL....things are ok thank you - friends is good but for now I am keeping myself busy and if LIbra calls, wants to catch up and Im free? all good, if not? I am no longer cancelling pre-arranged things. Only as recently as last night he has pre-arranged (OMG this is the first time ever in almost 9 months) a night with me a week in advance!! OMG, OMG, OMG lol. He said "I have some making up to you and Im sorry for taking you for granted"...pfffttt, we will see....time has no meaning to this man but at least he can man up and apologise.

Probing questions? yeah I get the same...I mentioned it a few weeks ago on the board...the questions run quite deep at times too with an intense stare and he KNOWS I turn to jelly when he does that coz its damned sexy too!! It seems yours is as inquisitive as mine is.

the compliments?? building him up is a great start - they love the attention, trust me!! Being a Leo it wouldn't hurt mine to it from time to time but when he does?? its like whoah!!!

Anyway, as you've only been seeing him for a few months, you have a lot to learn...rollercoaster ride comes to mind but its all good, as long as he is emotionally available unlike mine.

Good luck and keep posting!!

Libras are that bad?

Differences should be complimentry.

There's much worse that could come considering that you are NOT tempermentally 'sanguine' in a manner in which an Air sign can be tempermentally sanguine like Gemini don't know how to feel Libra. He's obsessive and insecure about himself and he obsesses about your appearence? He'll probe you until you get p#*#ed off and what will you show him in return? Some Aries heavy handedness? Cool.

LOL

His questions don't piss me off, just makes me feel uncomfortable after awhile because theirs so many of them and he is obviosly judging me whereas I like him for who he is(though I understand he is trying to make a more informed decision but that is the difference between our natures & one area where the thinking thru thing is very hard). He hasn't done anything to justify being mean to him, Aries only attacks in the defense not the offense. He also doesn't have a lot of relationship experience and is younger than me plus his ex was nuts (I know her) so I can see why he's asking questions! Not really a huge issue, was just picking a few things that bother me slightly to see if other people have had the same experience and what direction it went in. Either way he is a good Mr. Right Now so if it doesn't work in the end I think I could still learn a lot from him but we shall see, just wanted to see if their are common Aries/Libra probs that I could avoid because he is very sweet and the last thing I want to do is hurt him.

If he continually probes or seems pushy give him a dash of that Aries flare of yours.

I have actually started dating an Aries. I am actually quite smitten. I haven't had much luck with the sign in the past, very love hate type of thing .... but this one seems different. He has a Libra moon so many that is coming into play.

We feel very, very equal.

WAY too soon to give any judgments but I am optimistic.

Heaven forbid he ask you questions in an effort to get to know you better because he is interested in you as a person.

Yay LS, good luck!!!

Yeah. 🙂

He is great. We have TONS and TONS in common. We are both suprised at how easy this is. I think it is going very, very well.

Wooo hooo!!! 🙂 Boy, am I happy to hear that.

Me too. Fingers crossed.

Actually, their is a difference between getting to know someone and asking questions to the point of interrogation. I like to get to know people too, but their are limits I set in the beginning until I feel both ppl are comfortable. If I like you I don't necessarily need to disect your soul, would rather ask some questions and feel it out.Maybe thats an Aries thing, I'm freedom loving and not super-intrusive,and he doesnt have a ton of relationship experience so I'm sure he is confused. Plus I'm his boss, which adds an interesting complexity to the situation (tho not really an issue at this point as I am leaving my job)

if you are his boss order him into the bedroom!!!! That solves everything!!! *giggles* 😛

Personally, I think people's emotional feces is their own stuff and it is very rude to roll about in it so I cannot relate to your BF's mentality at all. And I have a leo moon. ha ha ha!

Firegirl when exactly is his boyfriend. I suspect he is close to the Scorp border. I could be wrong.

Thinktank

Libra ladies also freeze up when you talk about emotions. We no like 'em. 🙂

***But don't try to speak to them about emotions, they tense up, just go with the flow.***

It is okay to talk to them about your emotions, just don't do it in a dramaic and emotional way. Be direct, but not emotional (angry, crying etc.) Smile with it, then end it with a little joke, but let them know you are serious at the same time. You have to have a nack for these things. There are way you can tell Libras whatever you want. You don't necessarily have to tip toe around them, just be ready for their honest opinion. I don't think they play games, it is their charm and kindness that makes us think things are more than what they are. My policy with them, is: What they say is what they mean regardless. If it changes they will eventually let you know.

* What they say is what they mean regardless. If it changes they will eventually let you know.

Pretty Much!

Yeah. You can tell us in a non-emotional way but I personally am not comfortable with huge displays of emotion. At. All.

Female Libras, I am not so familiar with. Male Libras, this basically applies in general... Maybe it is because I am a scorp (water sign) with a lot of air and fire in my chart. Or, maybe they all had some water in theirs. Who knows, however, this is the case in my experience.

"Yeah. You can tell us in a non-emotional way but I personally am not comfortable with huge displays of emotion. At. All."

In situations of great displays of emotion to you find your first reaction to try and comfort the other person because you feel that you have the proper control over your emotions and the greater the display of emotion the less it affects you emotionally? This is how I am. For emotion to get through to me to the point of understanding or empathy it needs to either be subtle and controlled or objectified in words. Then I can understand, and even feel. The greater the display the less it has affect on me.

I actually get embarrassed. I just think somethings should be private.

LS, his bday is Oct 12th. But interesting point because I dated a Scorpio long-term before him so I'm probably super-sensitive to people probing me to begin with. Libra is actually not my boyfriend (that I know of lol) we haven't had the talk he's insecure, doesn't have a lot of relationship experience and I sense hasn't figured me out or what he wants himself. I say that because he says stuff like "Whats your deal?" but maybe I am reading too much into it. I totally avoid the question, I just don't want to assume that is what he is referring to if he isn't and make him uncomfortable plus I have fun with him and don't want to ruin it. I think by not opening up to him though I am making him feel insecure, what do you think, that is not my intentions. I usually respond to his calls & texts fairly quickly, but last week I didn't have my phone on me and when I didn't respond right away he called me again twice and texted 3 times thinking something was wrong (I called him back within 2 hrs of his original call, nothing was wrong, I was at the gym w/ no phone) so I can tell he likes me. Wow, that sounds very Scorpio like, except that my ex would have left 10 messages and not been as pleasant when I finally spoke to him! Maybe I am just reading way too much into everything!

"Whats your deal?"

That is drilling you and invading your emotional space?!? I thought he was asking, "Show me on the dolly where the bad man touched" you type stuff.

I love asking "Who are you and What do you want?" type questions. I love hearing how people self-define and what they truly desire to do with their time here. I like how open ended it can be. It can be what do you want with me or what do you want for yourself.

You know better the context in which he is asking "What's your deal". It might just be his way of getting to know you and what you are about.

No LS, you misunderstood, I was not citing the interrogation questions. Those are very specific, followed up by question after question.

"Show me on the dolly where the bad man touched" you type stuff.
I can't imagine any Libra guy ever asking me THAT! AT least none that I have met. (or care to)

You can show me on the dolly if you like.

(Raises eyebrows creepily)

*sigh✨

Me happy.

Despite firegirl not playing with me. 🙂

LMAO