Help plz :( Aries-Libra break up....

Well, I just broke up with my bf who is an Aries on Saturday before i due to fly to visit him in 5 days. We were having a long distance relationship for the past few months. Things were really great between us, we argued and fought sometimes but always tried to compromise and maintained our relationship as much as possible. The distance and insecurity were big troubles in our relationship tho.

Last Saturday, He happened to know that i got a msg from a guy friends inviting to a birthday party and he easily got pissed off after that (he is a very jealous guy) and led us to a big fight about the distance and trust issues which he came up with the conclusion for us to break up... I was really hurt and trying to ask him to give us one more chance as i was going to be there with him in 5 days but he insisted that we would rather be over and became very nasty and aggressive to me to end our relationship. I somehow still believe that this is not the real him who I always love, The guy who was totally sweet and thoughtful in many respects of life would do such a thing. I understand that the issue that got on his nerve at the moment about his new job in the new airline (he is a pilot) that he is going to be grounded for training for 6 months and thats gonna be tough for our relationship but im willing to wait as we plan to get engaged next year on September. I believe that he thinks its the best that we ended up before this training will take place and we both would be in more pain.... I think that was the actual reason for him to do this to me but i still dont understand why he has to end us up in a nasty way? I have never hurt him ever and our relationship was based on love and respect before.

Anyway, Today morning, I came online and saw him on MSN but i didnt start any conversation as i always did after we broke up then about 10 mins later, He sent me a msg on MSN asking if i cancel the ticket that i booked to see him yet. I didnt response to his msg. He then sent me another msg if im ignoring him? I still didnt response and he just said that he guess so and he is going to bed coz he is just back from flying to India and see ya. he sounded more calm and less aggressive than 2 days ago after we broke up that he was just being totally cold and distant to me. Im very confused now what he is trying to do? If he wants me back again or something? I would be happy to go back coz i really do love him but i dont want it to be too easy for him. Help me plz? 😢

Libran Girly

It sounds like he regretted his actions and was checking with you if your ticket was still there, for you to come out.

If you really want him back then make up now, and complain about him and how he behaved afterwards. Men are men.

It sounds like a one-off that he regretted, too.

Libra

(((libran_girly))

I am sorry to hear you are going through a break-up. It suxs.

I would just let him know that you haven't/have cancelled the ticket. I think he is regretting it as well. It isn't good to break-up when you are angry.

But you need to ask yourself if you want to deal with this sort of jealousy for the rest of your life. I am not sure how it is your fault that a man invited you to a party. That is pretty unfair. I know you are upset, but put it in the back of your mind and think about it from time to time.

Thank you so much for ur kind inputs and little sparrow for the hug!! Yes, I think the break up thing can really put us Libra down. I feel like my other half part of soul is missing now. I am not used to with the feeling that I have no one to think of when i get up in the morning... I feel totally empty. But im recovering and will be ready to rise again soon in a week or so! (i guess that is my Leo rising trait)

well, to update the story. He contacted me back again asking for the same quesiton. So i told him that im going to cancel the tickets tonight. But its not true as im going still... to surprise him at the door. I have to do this because he insisted that he didnt want me to come anymore this weekend and he thought it would be harder for us to finish this. But I hate this stupid breaking up thing on the phone or internet chat. I want to talk it over and make it clear in person more. I want him to tell me when he looks in my eyes that he doesnt want me anymore and that will help me get it off my chest to be able to walk away and never look back at it again!

He was trying to apologise for the nasty things he has done and said to me before that he was angry... (typical Aries) I said its alright and I already forget about it. Then, he asked if i already forget about him too? I didnt answer the question and said that I never regretted that I did love you before. He then asked me and not anymore? I dont know what kind of game he is trying to play. He doesnt say he wants me back tho...

All my friends think im crazy for still going to see him after breaking up and that he is not worth it and money i will spend on the trip. I know its crazy but my instinct tells me that i have to do this. I have already planned this for over a month and my mind has already drifted away to the day i get there to be with him... So i will take my last chance to do it and find it out myself. I have already prepared for the worst case that if he will not be welcome and happy to see me at his door and bang the door on my face. But i still believe that he wont do that. I still wish that he would be happy to see me again and when we are together, things might get smoother and we can compromise again... I will keep my fingers cross for it 😢

*** I have no one to think of when i get up in the morning

This is the worst part. Libras are defined by their relationships. We can only define self in relation to others. When our mirror is gone, it is almost like a part of us is gone. The worst part is not having someone to fret over.

*** But its not true as im going still... to surprise him at the door.

Are you sure? I don't want to bring this up, but maybe he is seeing someone else?

Yes, I agree thats the worst part of being a Libra when I have no one to dote on!!! Wheter its serious or not serious. I just want to have someone that i can think of. I wish i could be more independent and stop feeling hurt when I have to be alone at some points of my life. 😢

I know its kinda a risky thing to do so... But I believe that at this point he doesnt want to see someone seriously anymore because of his new job and training that will take the role part soon and he will be flying away in another countries the rest of the month after this week and pretty sure that he didnt see anyone before we broke up on Saturday!

There might be some casual fling I dont know but I am already preparing myself for the worst case that might happen and if someone is there.. which i dont think there will be... but if there is, I might just ask for a few minutes to talk it over... I still have a day to make a decision on this you know... I cant refund the tickets because its a low cost airline and I would feel such a waste for that money i have spent on. If anything is not working there at least i can take this trip that i get to discover the new country and collect another stamps on my passport! and visiting my good friend who lives close by to him who i will be staying with over a night there before im flying back the next day... But this is not a final decision yet... Im still thinking about it now 😢

Poor you.

I agree. I am a HUGE doter. I love doting on someone. *sighing at happy memories*

"He was trying to apologise for the nasty things he has done and said to me before that he was angry... (typical Aries) I said its alright and I already forget about it. Then, he asked if i already forget about him too? I didnt answer the question and said that I never regretted that I did love you before. He then asked me and not anymore? I dont know what kind of game he is trying to play. He doesnt say he wants me back tho..."

Based on what you write here and if he indeed is a little bit sincere as a person I don't think you have all that much to worry about. And I think that your strategy is a good one: make him wonder and have him stare in disbelief for a few days...that will get him back on his toes.

Libra

Libra, Little Sparrow,

Thank you so much for your wise advice... Its true... He is back on his knees again after I gave him a space to relax and ignored him for a 2 days. He called me up this morning, telling me that he's so sorry for the nasty things he has done and said to me and that he was just angry and still loves me... And at the moment, He is so frustrated and unknown about his future with the new company that how long he is going to be grounded and how tough it is going to be for us both during training. He admitted that he is a control freak, He loves me and wants us to work out but his situation with the new company scares him that he will lose me one day so he thought that being single might be easier to face with his situation at the moment.

I told him to stop thinking about the long future that is not coming yet becoz we both are still young (im 23 and he is 26) Tell him to go after his dream and lets just take it easy and go with the flow... where its going to lead us to. I know that Aries doesnt perform a long distance relationship that well at all... So I told him that lets just enjoy the moment that we still have and decide about our future later... I believe that if we love and care each other enough. There will always be a way.

So im still going to fly to see him this Friday and He will fly to see me next week... 🙂 I have seen many successful couples of Aries-Libra who end up in a happy marriage. Altho can tell that they have been through many things, bad and good times together alot before they can reach that step but they can still make it... I once read it from a website that when Aries and Libra meet, we represent each other's Seventh Solar sector, which has to do with public relations, marriage, contracts...

Hopefully we will be one of them one day...

Thank you so much for ur kind inputs agian 🙂

wow... thats good news finally...congrats. I know lots of Aries - Libra couples. Just works fine. Goodluck with ur trip. 🙂

This is all good. Now be sure to also practice the relaxed approach going forward. (That is where I would fail as a Libra e.g. I would still get impatient. But you sound like a wise one.)

All the best

Wonderful!

Have a great trip.