Libra Female

for about 30 mins i went back in forth in my head on how to type this because i didnt want to seem like i was trying to be a homewrecker, and i wanted it to come out clean because the thoughts on how to explain it are jumbled in my head but here it goes. i like this libra female (alot) who has a boyfriend already, we talk almost daily though and usually dont end phone conversations til 3 in the morning. truthfully idk if she likes me, i guess i honestly just want know if theres a way to take a libra female away from her boyfriend? im also a libra, and ive heard that two libras in a relationship isnt the best. the thing is though shes indian and im african american (shes said that she would date someone black), she seems to make me feel different and more open then alot of girls as if my sign changes around her. which makes me wonder is there a difference in compatibility based on ethinicty?
My natal chart: Libra sun, Sag moon, Gemini rising (i have the rest if thats important), i only know her birthdate.

That Sag moon explains why you'd want to steal her from her boyfriend.

You aren't "seeming" to be a homewrecker. You ARE trying to be a homewrecker. Don't be rude.

I get what your saying, I doubt if i'll listen though. Might just follow my feelings on this one.
...Judge away.

If you can steal her, she can be stolen...


That said, you're already on your way. I ain't gonna stay up til 3am talking to somebody I ain't interested in. I'd say wait til they are broken up before you cross any lines but charm away. They ain't married so you aren't a 'home wrecker'. And even though I said steal and stolen women aren't property (as they would be quick to point out in another situation). I wouldn't head down the road you're examining but to each his own.

Oh and I don't know that this is a libra thing, I think it is a personal thing... I can't be stolen. If I am not happy in the relationship I can leave but no one is gonna swoop in and take me. I still talk to people and am regularly accused of flirting but there's clear lines and I avoid them. If I was chatting up a friend and they tried to make a move on me it would have a negative impact on the friendship. Expressing a feeling is fine but respect her relationship even if you hope it fails.

I appreciate the feedback,
@TheUltra79 that is true im the same way, but as libra myself i feel like i know the difference between friend talks and our talks. or maybe im just that fun to talk to but (idk), but yea ive been trying to just keep my feelings out of it and just talk to her as much as possible.
@LibraSid how negative would impact for you? because i have tried fliriting with her a bit, we still talk the same amount she just ignored me when i did so i stopped. i feel like shes contemplation, but i really dont look like the best option rightnow, and i know that. her boyfriend has alot more things going for him im sure of it.

*contemplating

Posted by Theultra79

Posted by rockyroadicecream
That Sag moon explains why you'd want to steal her from her boyfriend.

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You know, that whole selfish thing. "I want what I want, and fuck everyone else. The world revolves around me and my wants!"

Posted by BlessJazz
I get what your saying, I doubt if i'll listen though. Might just follow my feelings on this one.
...Judge away.

See? Sag moon.

You're following your penis, honey. Do you seriously think that a healthy relationship is rooted on "stealing" someone else's girl? If she can stray so easily from a boyfriend, who's to say she wouldn't do it to you?

i guess... but im not following my penis. realisticly if im following anything im following the fact that i cant have her.
definitely not my penis. I agree that its probably not healthy, but what if i just continued to talk to her and shes makes the decision on her own to be with me?
about the sag thing, is that really such a big influence in my personality? ive seen a few different websites that say different things about planets in a natal chart.

I dont want her to cheat, i just feel like if we fit better together who cares what time is invested. i dont know how her and boyfriend are or how they feel. Im not going to push her to make the decision, im just going to keep being friends with her and see how it goes.

Posted by BlessJazz
i guess... but im not following my penis. realisticly if im following anything im following the fact that i cant have her.
definitely not my penis. I agree that its probably not healthy, but what if i just continued to talk to her and shes makes the decision on her own to be with me?
about the sag thing, is that really such a big influence in my personality? ive seen a few different websites that say different things about planets in a natal chart.

Then how are you sure that this crush/longing thing is legit and not just a typical Libran case of "I want what I can't have?" Say you're able to get her, who's to say you won't fizzle out 2 months in?

You're also coming off kinda shady/"nice guy" approach. Are you friends with her because you want to be friends? Or are you only friends because you're hoping to get into her pants at some point? You will NOT win in this scenario if this is the case. I see it A LOT with guys your age- They go about it all wrong, try to manipulate a girl into a relationship, and when it doesn't work out, they end up all butthurt and bitter toward women because their shady approach didn't work.

If you want to leave it be and just be friends, cool. But asking how to steal her away says a lot about who you are as a person. You gots some growing up to do...

How about you go find someone who's available?

I really dont know if thats the case, i do care about her and ive liked her before back in high school was pretty close friends with her until i moved to the southside. i live closer now cause i moved in with one of my friends and she got in contact with me on facebook a few months ago. idk whether to defend myself about the comments you keep making that my feelings are sexual, because it seems in your eyes defending my self doesnt help my defence.
All I know is:
Ive never been so "not bored" with anyone in my life even another libra. ive been down the roads where i "libra" girls (date them leave them, comeback because i dont have to be alone). they say that ignoring us works and it does, but i dont want too, all i want to do is talk to her as much i possibly can. im not trying to pass it off as love. its just crazy that as much as we have in common were different. shes helped me thru alot, like sobering myself up, and convincing me to stay face my problems instead of leaving, and going to live a nomadic life. I agree i that i do have alot of growing up to do, but you couldnt be anymore wronger about me wanting sex from her. im 21 and honestly have had sex 4 times my entire life, all of which girls have made the move first. i dont want to push myself on her, or any other person thats just really not what i do. there are other girls that talk to me, but i just call it bothering me so i hardly reply (1 sag, 1 leo).

@Dogma, yea ive been trying to figure out how theyre relationship is. i dont want to ask though, and she doesnt say much about him at all. not saying that means she doesnt want to be with him, i just dont know.

@Theultra79 Your absolutely right, im not and ive been trying to pull myself together. Its coming together slowly, but thats better than not at all. on another note though, i did decide to not text her yesterday and today. she poked me on facebook, and just sent me a message. As a libra male i know what that means if i do it, but what about on her end?

A text message.

The comments about you wanting in her pants come from the question about how to "steal" her away. Relationships need to develop naturally. If you came in and told us about HER, the things you learned about her on all those late night talks, why she is so great, and maybe asked for general advice, the reaction may have been different... at least til we got to the part about her having a bf already. Instead your focus has been how to steal her away, it's not something that sits well with my (and obviously many others') sense of fair play/ right or wrong.

My comment about someone coming on to me being bad is because to me it shows disrespect for me, my partner, and my relationship. We're talking about 'friends' here, people who know. I can accept a lot of things but not disrespect. There's so much other stuff that would matter though. Obviously I ain't gonna get upset that someone likes me, it goes back to what I said at the beginning about apparant intentions. Be a friend first. If the relationship is bad you can tell her that as a friend. If I think someone is telling me that because they want me... it just all seems so dishonest. I don't know... its all just a game anyway and I suck at it, maybe its all these rules I have.

I saw someone say (our resident superhero iirc) that if they find out someone is taken it puts that person 'off limits', I agree. Even if I could steal someone, I wouldn't want to. Its just a bad way for it to start.

@LibraSid My bad i didnt realize yall wanted a bio, anyways like i said we've been friends for about 5 years. i know wanting to steal her isnt right, but i feel like she likes me more but shes with him because he has his shit together, and i dont just yet. everything in the second paragraph can be summed up with "Im not going to push her to make the decision, im just going to keep being friends with her and see how it goes."

Plus this is the internet, I couldnt not sound like the bad guy if i tried in this situation. so i won't.

Again... I decided to not text her yesterday and today, she sent me a text today saying "What. were not gonna talk anymore?" and she poked me on facebook. i hear what you all are saying and im not gonna push, but what does this mean?

Posted by LibraSid

My comment about someone coming on to me being bad is because to me it shows disrespect for me, my partner, and my relationship. We're talking about 'friends' here, people who know. I can accept a lot of things but not disrespect. There's so much other stuff that would matter though. Obviously I ain't gonna get upset that someone likes me, it goes back to what I said at the beginning about apparant intentions. Be a friend first. If the relationship is bad you can tell her that as a friend. If I think someone is telling me that because they want me... it just all seems so dishonest. I don't know... its all just a game anyway and I suck at it, maybe its all these rules I have.

This. I had a friend try this approach with me. I wasn't in a relationship per se, but he'd give advice that clearly was beneficial to him, and his motives became real apparent really quick. I wasn't attracted to him initially, but after all that I REALLY wasn't attracted to him. If one is going to start off CHASING someone with utter dishonesty, that doesn't say much about the person, nevermind that it begs the question if they're going to be completely honest in the relationship either. :/

I saw someone say (our resident superhero iirc) that if they find out someone is taken it puts that person 'off limits', I agree. Even if I could steal someone, I wouldn't want to. Its just a bad way for it to start.

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I have never understood how people CAN'T do this. The second I find out that someone is taken that I may have had an initial attraction to, my mind shuts it down and it just will never entertain the idea of any sort of dating and relating.

Agreed with what was said prior though. OP, go do you and get your shit together. A relationship isn't the only thing in life. You're 21 and have a lot of time to figure yourself out. Sitting around and waiting for someone who's unavailable is such a waste of time. Be her friend, and if eventually something happens, then yay. If it doesn't, well then you didn't waste time on a lost cause.

Posted by BlessJazz
@LibraSid My bad i didnt realize yall wanted a bio, anyways like i said we've been friends for about 5 years. i know wanting to steal her isnt right, but i feel like she likes me more but shes with him because he has his shit together, and i dont just yet. everything in the second paragraph can be summed up with "Im not going to push her to make the decision, im just going to keep being friends with her and see how it goes."

Plus this is the internet, I couldnt not sound like the bad guy if i tried in this situation. so i won't.

Again... I decided to not text her yesterday and today, she sent me a text today saying "What. were not gonna talk anymore?" and she poked me on facebook. i hear what you all are saying and im not gonna push, but what does this mean?

Nothing.

She's just noticed that you haven't initiated contact the last few days so she's teasing you about not contacting her.

Oh, alright.

I let it go... This:
"Then how are you sure that this crush/longing thing is legit and not just a typical Libran case of "I want what I can't have?" Say you're able to get her, who's to say you won't fizzle out 2 months in?"

Not saying im sure thats what it is, but i dont want to chance it and end up hurting her.

You say she's Indian...how long has she been living in America? Is she American Indian persa...born and bred? Indians have very strict upbringings and ideas.

Her boyfriend, did she choose him herself or was he an arranged partner? These are questions that can be important to learn. I know many Indians that were born and live in NZ and they still live by their parents rules of arranged marriages. Their parents have a great influence over their lives. A friend was dating an Indian boy for 3 years, he would sleep with her but go home int he middle of the night and in those 3 years she never once met any of his family. He was born in NZ but couldn't/wouldn't bring this shame to his family even when he had to finally make the choice!

Other than that as a Libra, if I like you I'll flirt and enjoy phone conversations even until 3 in the morning because I just couldn't bring myself to end the call, I'd rather you did. I bet you talk a lot about her...we love when you talk about us and tell us how wonderful we are 😉 Our favourite topic is when someone else puts us up on that pedestal...because mostly our fine qualities are either overlooked or not appreciated. And yes if you fail to text or call and remind us that we are captivating, I'm going to give you a jolt to remember and I won't let you go that easily either!!

* Getting a kick out of this thread *. Jazz you are getting some good advice here. and the Libra girl is flirting back so it's probably putting you're head in a whirlwind. Just be friends and take it slow, and let her come to you if she does you will have a cleaner conscience. If she does'nt , take Rocky's advice 😉