libra guy interpretation?

Hi all ! So i don't think I ever thought i'd have to post on a libra forum.So it's this guy I study with in the same university and class.He's a libra virgo cusp and more libra dominating.His venus is in scorpio.

Anywho,so we have been friends since day 1 and he has always been a great friend.He was super attentive to me and would initiate talks of his own and offer help. Then suddenly he seemed kinda off at the end of the semester(from november) and even in the begininning of the next sem(from january).Then we again got closer from April this year and he would initiate talks at times and we got closer with each passing month. Then our summer vacation started and he'd text me and we'd end up chatting till late nights sometimes. We grew even closer and developed an emotional bond of trust and honesty. Then 4 days ago we were chatting and he asked me if i have a boyfriend.Then we asked about each others crush and he said he had a tiny crush on me but then he crushed his crush. He asked me mine and I confessed that I had a crush on him too. We both were highly elated and we kept the talk going. We slept at 4 am chatting that night.The confession got us even closer and we have talked everyday since then.Our college reopened the next day and we saw each other and blushed. The thing is - he's a completely different person in the university and completely different when we chat. When we were chatting yesterday he said he wants us to become strong friends and wants to get to know me better first than directly jumping into a relationship. Some of his friends really tease us and he hasn't told anyone about our confession. It just doesn't feel like he's the same guy i chat with.He doesnt give me those vibes when we are in college at all. The only tiny thing i've observed is that if i and some other girl talk to him simultaneously,he'll pay more attention to what I am saying. But there is no special sign from him in the university. Any idea on what's going on and if he's really interested?

PS- He has never been in a relationship before and also note he said he HAD a crush on me (past tense). Another thing is he has a big social circle and he's always always surrounded by his friends.

Thanks !! 🙂

How old is he? My other half is a virgo/libra cusp. They can be incredibly difficult but once you're in their life its unlikley they will let you out unless you choose to go-also dont play games they actually will let u go if u start to play chase me to get a reaction, but he'll always be around. Incredibly patient. Hes also intelligent/chatty and very OCD. Reliable in a relationship but terrible procrastinators.

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How old is he? My other half is a virgo/libra cusp. They can be incredibly difficult but once you're in their life its unlikley they will let you out unless you choose to go-also dont play games they actually will let u go if u start to play chase me to get a reaction, but he'll always be around. Incredibly patient. Hes also intelligent/chatty and very OCD. Reliable in a relationship but terrible procrastinators.

He's 19. I know he's probably too young to emotionally mature xD

Also ,could you please tell me more about how can they be incredibly difficult? in what sense?

And also terrible procastinators? Procrostinate in what usually?

Thanks!! 🙂

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Take him at his word, imo.

The part where he says he just wants us to build a strong friendship for now inorder to get to know each other better before jumping in a relationship?

Also,does it show this guy is anyway interested in me?

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Posted by LibraLovesHim
How old is he? My other half is a virgo/libra cusp. They can be incredibly difficult but once you're in their life its unlikley they will let you out unless you choose to go-also dont play games they actually will let u go if u start to play chase me to get a reaction, but he'll always be around. Incredibly patient. Hes also intelligent/chatty and very OCD. Reliable in a relationship but terrible procrastinators.

He's 19. I know he's probably too young to emotionally mature xD

Also ,could you please tell me more about how can they be incredibly difficult? in what sense?

And also terrible procastinators? Procrostinate in what usually?

Thanks!! 🙂

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He is young so he may not be totally comparable right now. When younger mines also only ever stayed in committed relationships also btw-not a player type. Difficult in the sense what he says goes-he's dominating. Also has verbal diarrhea a little. Im a bit of a strong character so we can clash a little, I need to learn to back down. If you are more submissive you may not have as much a problem as me lol, at the same time though i'm not sure if thats whats kept his interest in me for so long. I can be very soft and feminine at times but if im pissed off I dont fear showing him another side to me to kick things back into balance.

Procrastinate in the sense will say they'll do something for you or such but will get around to it in their own time. I cant get what I want from him when I want it. He is also very generous when he wants to be-this is also a trait of theirs.

@DontWant2FitIn , he is sweet to me anyway.And very true that he doesn't take relationship lightly (even I don't).We had an honest talk yesterday and he said he has always been an introvert and is scared of heartbreaks and that's why the term relationship (bf-gf thing) scares him hell too much and especially after experiencing the dramatic emotional trauma his best friend who's my best friend's boyfriend has experienced. So he said he has always been of the opinion that his life partner should be a girl who is his best friend throughout college and then he'd make a move and take it ahead from there. So when i told him "i respect your decision.We're just friends and nothing more",he got all panicky. His face started sweating and he got feverish.He said "you dont get it.I feel something for you.It's just that I am really too scared.I can promise there won't be any other girl because you're my "the one".Why don't you see it.I have never been involved with anyone as much as I have with you and I swear on this.How many girls have I told I want to spend my lifetime with?None.Only you.I dont want to lose you as anything.I messed up bad,didnt I?". Then we decided to not label us as boyfriend-girlfriend but we know we have feelings for each other.

Today,we both were talking together and the entire class started teasing us /pairing us together. Guys and girls do talk alone all the time and nobody teases them because they can be just friends too but for us today...oh God.

I really like this guy and I'm slowly starting to fall for him. I guess he's just way too overwhelmed with these new feelings and emotions popping up alltogether.

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@DontWant2FitIn , he is sweet to me anyway.And very true that he doesn't take relationship lightly (even I don't).We had an honest talk yesterday and he said he has always been an introvert and is scared of heartbreaks and that's why the term relationship (bf-gf thing) scares him hell too much and especially after experiencing the dramatic emotional trauma his best friend who's my best friend's boyfriend has experienced. So he said he has always been of the opinion that his life partner should be a girl who is his best friend throughout college and then he'd make a move and take it ahead from there. So when i told him "i respect your decision.We're just friends and nothing more",he got all panicky. His face started sweating and he got feverish.He said "you dont get it.I feel something for you.It's just that I am really too scared.I can promise there won't be any other girl because you're my "the one".Why don't you see it.I have never been involved with anyone as much as I have with you and I swear on this.How many girls have I told I want to spend my lifetime with?None.Only you.I dont want to lose you as anything.I messed up bad,didnt I?". Then we decided to not label us as boyfriend-girlfriend but we know we have feelings for each other.

Today,we both were talking together and the entire class started teasing us /pairing us together. Guys and girls do talk alone all the time and nobody teases them because they can be just friends too but for us today...oh God.

I really like this guy and I'm slowly starting to fall for him. I guess he's just way too overwhelmed with these new feelings and emotions popping up alltogether.

There you have it this man gave you his heart on a silver platter. Stay consistent with him and he will be loyal to you. Keep going at his pace and you will reap the rewards. I am so happy for you so keep me posted. The libra I am dating has those placements and he will test from time to time but my venus in cap can see right through him just like he can see right through you. When they fall it is written all over them mind body and soul.

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No he hasnt given me his heart yet. Today his friends literally pounced on him asking whats going on between us so he told them he likes me and has those little feelings above normal friendship but doesnt want to get into the typical bf-gf relationship now since he's not ready.He said he wants to take things slow and steady instead of rushing in.

Is it a bad sign? A red flag or something?

I'm a libra with my Venus in Scorpio...but a female so...there's a difference.

But anyway...

If he's saying he wants to take things slow and steady, why is that a bad sign? I don't understand people who rush into a relationship. I want to be with my best friend, someone who truly gets me. I want to get to know you and for you to get to know me. It takes a long time for me to commit so labels are not something I do well with when someone is trying to force that decision on me. But I don't take commitment lightly, once I make a decision, I make it pretty clear. Before I committed to my current boyfriend, I needed to see the type of person he was and how he was going to treat me. He's a Sag though so maybe that has something to do with him wanting to move fast. Lol Eventually he had to realize, I didn't operate that way and he became patient with me. Continue to live your life though, don't wait around. Just be yourself and things could work out.

Let the guy get to know you more and see where it goes. 😉

@DontWant2FitIn,no no no. I am not sulking that we aren't in a relationship now. It's just that some say its a bad sign when a guy says he wants to take it slow.

Okay,I am probably naive and immature for asking this but what does it mean when a guy says he's nervous around you?

He said "you know I am a happy and easy going guy with everyone but around you,oh,you make me feel so self conscious,sometimes excited and most of the times nervous"

When i asked him how nervous ,he said "Nervous as in when you and *my friend's name* cornered me in our class room so that i could talk to you when no one was there ,well,i swear my heart would have bursted anytime soon and when she tried to close the door,oh man.I honestly never thought a girl I liked would like me back.But sometimes when I think of us for a 3rd perspective i feel as I am being a horrible guy and leading you on and that you deserve someone better."Someone who is willing to get in a relationship.

Is this good?

put no stock in what he says. if he meant it, you would see action. he likes the feeling. in love with love and all that stuff.

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Okay,I am probably naive and immature for asking this but what does it mean when a guy says he's nervous around you?

He said "you know I am a happy and easy going guy with everyone but around you,oh,you make me feel so self conscious,sometimes excited and most of the times nervous"

When i asked him how nervous ,he said "Nervous as in when you and *my friend's name* cornered me in our class room so that i could talk to you when no one was there ,well,i swear my heart would have bursted anytime soon and when she tried to close the door,oh man.I honestly never thought a girl I liked would like me back.But sometimes when I think of us for a 3rd perspective i feel as I am being a horrible guy and leading you on and that you deserve someone better."Someone who is willing to get in a relationship.

Is this good?

That last line is not good. Don't get involved with someone who says you deserve someone better that is coming from a place of insecurity. He will be a headache to you.

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Oh dear,EXTREME insecurity. He has said it many times that he feels like a loser and a coward when he feels he's unable to manup to get in a relationship with me. Yesterday when i directly asked face to face "Do you really like me?" he got serious and he said "of course" and then he said "I know it's extremely horrible that a guys like a girl,wants her but isn't feeling courageous enough to get in a relationship but at the same time he doesnt want to lose her." He said he's mainly scared because

1.He has never ever been in a relationship before or felt such feelings for a girl before.It's his first time so he's clearly overwhelmed at the changes he's experiencing in his heart

2. He's damn scared about the term 'relationship' because we have 3 yrs of college and he's scared since we don't know where will we end up after college and since both of take a relationship very seriously a breakup will be devastating.

3.His best friend and my best friend have been in a relationship for 6 months now and their relationship has had extreme rocky phases.They have brokenup so many times and he gets to see how depressed he gets during their fights. So he keeps taking their example and says "you see how they have been Thats what happens when you directly jump in a relationship.It doesn't last.That's why i want us to be the best of friends,get to know each other more and then get in a relationshp.We'll be solid then.