Libra Maa/Gemini Gal (Cosmic Storm/Resenont Storm)

Hi All, I am new to this site. My v.v sweet 4.5mth relationship ended with my beautiful Libra Boy a week ago, we had gotten pretty close I thought. Never a cross word never a bad vibe but nothing but common ground & understanding. His excuse for leaving me is that I deserve better (I have a good job, building a new house etc & he is a little poor at the moment & is at cross roads career wise. I have not contacted him although hard, but plan to text him in a couple of wks all light & fluffy to say hey. Please any advise of re-kindling what we had? All Libras, has he gone for good? I swear I have dropped 3 dress sizes & been through boxes & boxes of tissues...I am so lost & so sad.

Librans have a way of making everything about them, you would think if you have your Sh*t together he would be proud to be with you, but NO, he wants to make it all about him because they have a jealous streak and this is how it comes out, passive aggression and sulking and disapearing, if it wasn't that then he would be playing up by going out drinking with his friends, or telling you he'll phone you and just not doing it. I've spent 17 years with a Libran so I know what they are like. My second relationship with a Libran too. They are so nice in the beginning, then their ways surface, they are like moody children. The only way to keep them balanced is by being a bitch to them, you have to let them know that you are in charge and won't take their sh*t (firmly, but no drama or shouting) they have to know that you are just fine without them. Otherwise you will be under their spell and your life will be hell. A Libran will always back out of a relationship at the beginning once they think they have git you, and many say it is to step back and evaluate the relationship, but I say there is a certain amount of manipulation in it too.

If you chase him, he has you where he wants you, you also loose points for being easy. Much batter to find out where he is going to be one day and casually turn up there with a friend and be genuinely nice when you see him and tell him you'll call him for a catch up.

You see, the very best way to hold on to a Libran is if they feel they are losing you. And whilst most say that Librans like things 50/50 and balanced, this is also not true, in love the Libran has to feel like they love you a little more for it to work sort of 55/45. they need to feel like they are chasing your love a little so they don't get bored.

You are a Gemini, this should come so easy to you. I am also a Gemini, and I firmly believe there is no man on this earth that deserves what I have to offer once I finally open up, if they are not surrendered enough first. Don't just give your heart and soul to anyone,take your ego out of it and make sure they are worth it. A man who genuinely cares will make his woman feel like a princess.

What a shocker. Sounds like typical Libran male M.O. tbh.

When it starts, it's, "WOO THIS IS AWESOME."

A few months later, it's "lolz changed my mind." Cue all sorts of nonsense and lies to not look like the bad guy. Been through it twice. It's annoying, really. It's asinine to drag someone's emotions through their constant indecisiveness.

Thank you guys for your advice/comments. I don't fall too easily BUT when I do it is a fault of mine to be overly attentive & way too giving (and come across as smothering I guess). It is in my psyche to be like this because any other way seems to go against my true self. I know it was only a short time but with the affairs of the heart, it doesn't seem to matter. If there is anything to add I would truly love to hear it 🙂 Thanks a bunch

Awe! I would??ve suggested you let him know you chose him for a reason. I would??ve then asked him what his definition of —better?? means. To me this is not chasing him, you are grown and you sound like your emotions are getting the best of you, he left the window wide open and if I were you I??d have some questions and I??d get my damn answers. AND THEN, I would go through the motions and cry and get over him. But you cant truly get over someone until you at least attempt to get some answers, because if you truly liked him I imagine you have some very big ones that cross your mind everytime you think of him. When you contact him, I think it's a good idea to be light as a feather and don't be all mushy and emotional. Just firmly ask him what his definition of —better?? means? Ask him what is it about himself that made him feel he wasn't good enough? Let him talk. And when he does, be like —Okay, well for the record I chose you for a reason. I knew what I was committing to when I made you my man. And if you??re going to walk away from that then you are right, I do deserve better. Take care.?? And you have to MEAN what you say. Believe it in your heart, that you don't deserve a man that will walk out just because he feels insecure. Children run when they get scared. Men face their fears. So get your answers, and then let him run.

Posted by Sugarfoot
I agree with Geminisparkle about not chasing him. But, for different reasons.

If he felt strongly enough that he wasn't good enough to be with you to break off a good relationship, then you should just trust his decision. A man who doesn't feel good about his station in life (especially in comparison to yours) won't treat you well anyway.

I'd chalk it up to a lesson learned and move on. It's only 4.5 mos anyway.

If it was his decision, chances are he won't return.

This. They tend to be rather fickle when it comes to sticking around long term (their ideal of love and all that bs), but if they don't have it together to begin with, it just leads to issues.

So in a nutshell no chance of him returning at all? Do these guys ever beat themselves up a little for handling these situations the way that they do & let pride get in their way if there is any chance of returning? I am the type to forgive easily make amends & get on with it. I have never been involved with a Libra.

Yes Sugarfoot, I was a little over accommodating in this way. Stepping back with a little perspective I can now see this & if given another chance I would change this.

I wouldn't count on it, because if and when they DO return, it's not for genuine reasons.

It is all so good to hear other's perspectives, time will tell I guess. With him I have never chased him & won't. I will still let him know that I care by sending him a message at some point. But nothing more than that. I am loyal (contrary to what many believe in Geminis)in love & friendship & he & I were friends before dating. I hope we can still be that again one day soon. He has never been anything but good to me despite this turn of events & despite his insecurities. I do love him truly, madly, deeply but more importantly respect his space thoughts & feelings 🙂Thanks to all x

bitch his ass around a little
i feel like that works well with libra

😉 I think I will - good advice x