libra male + cancer female

this libra male i've know has liked me for quite awhile now. while i certainly do find him nice and entertaining, i just find that there's something lacking. it's like we're unable to communicate on a deeper level. whenever we talk it's always kept at the superficial level. so even though i'm ok with him, i don't see us in a sustained relationship over a long period.

how would i attempt to solve this? everytime i try to talk about something deeper he seems very detached and uninterested. i'm guessing this is the norm since air signs are supposed to be detached after all, but is there no way for us to communicate on he same wavelength?

thanks! 🙂

Cancer is one of the worst matches for a libra

lol...from what I can gather all signs are the worst match for a LIbra LMAO.

Semicharmed...I think you'd have to just deal with it being like that, the detached sort of way....from all accounts unless they are REALLY, REALLY into you, you will always get that detached thng happening.....once they are into you though? apparently another story....but again, Cancer, and all other signs are a bad match 😛

Libra's tend to be uncomfortable with expressing emotions especially the lovey type of emotions. We tend to show it in our actions...if you like this guy then chill just bit and see what happens. I thought cancer's were cautious and protective of their feelings...

Cancer Woman & Libra Man

This match is pretty much doomed from the start. You want emotion and lots of communication. Meanwhile, he is looking for someone to provide an intellectual connection. So he'll be trying to talk about the universe, when all you want to do is kiss! That will be very frustrating. Because of the many differences in your basic natures, you won't really "get" what each other is all about. It's almost impossible to establish a real connection in this match.

What starts out with a bang may, unfortunately, end with a sputter. Things are glorious in the beginning, with plenty of affection and attraction. Problem is, Cancer girl has a much different thought process than Libra boy, and that's when the trouble begins. She wants coziness and commitment, and that may scare Mr. Libra, who is more likely to act with his head rather than his heart...

oh and lol @ chatz :p

Honestly, I think you should chill out abit . Cancer can get very emotional that they even scare me too although I'm a Scorp!
Two Cancer friends of mine always start their topics with how they are feeling , then moving to some soap stories with juicy sentimental stuff that I frankly don't care but I have to politely nod my head to show that I'm interested , otherwise , they will get hurt and then there it come the flood of mood!
Sometimes, there is really nothing to look underneath yet they often try to convince themselves that there is to the degree that I want to tell them" you're so paranoid" LOL!
However, I guess I've quite a good listening skill and my eyes are "intense" enough for them to believe that I was actually paying any attention to their stories even though I'm thinking of other things such as "what should I have for today?" 😛
I don't mean that they lack sense of humour or something but they tend to look at the negative angle of life so even before things get tough, they already go on brooding and it's so hard to draw them out so I just leave them alone to deal with their turbulent emotion.
Anyway, they are just specific descriptions of Cancers I know so I'm sure you'll be different but honestly , just lighten up abit please and being "superficial" in your Cancer's dictionary can be "intellectual" in someone else's dictionary.
Good luck 🙂

Caner and Libra? Hell no!

Well the fact that you recognize the differences is actually good for the both of you. I am sure he sees them as well. The thing is though that you are going to have to maintain an awareness of those differences for things to run smoothly AND appreciate those differences. If you can't see him in a positive light or vise versa then that is going to doom the relaitonship.

Ill shed a little light on the differences. As you stated you carry a lot more emotional weight through life. You assign everything a kind of emotional depth and sometimes when there isn't even any you look for or create it. That is how you process the world around you. He doesn't. He sees things more black and white. Everything has it's own value regardless of what he or anyone else tries to assign it in this capacity. He will take things for what they are. There will be situations where he does the opposite that you do. Where you try to make things "deeper" than they naturally are he will try to make things "shalower" than they are. It is actually your respective defense mechanisms. You grab on tighter, he detatches.

So...while your looking at him in a particular situation and thinking "he doesn't get how deep this really i!" he is seeing you in a similar situation and thinking "She is making this out to be a lot more than it really is!" He is going to have a snap out of it approach to everything. You are going to have a dig deeper approach to everything.

Now....heres the real mind f u c k. In everyday mundaine situations you actually just go through them without much need to dig deeper. He on the other hand is analyzing EVERYTHING every sense takes in. In this light he is actually deeper and more "in tune" than you. Sometimes you each represent the opposite of what you are assigning each other. So....if you were to tell him he were shallow or too on the surface he would probably look at you and think you must have him confused with someone else. Same the other way around.

The bottom line is he is going to have a more logical and snap out of it perspective of everything that is heavy. Do not mistake this for him not realizing or appreciating the depth of a situation as he really really does and if you challenge him on this or confront him like he doesn't he will make it painfully clear. We choose to deal with most things on the surface because no matter the actual emotional depth of something everything is dealt with on the surface. Everything.