Libra man dumped me for another man!! So hurt!!

I've lost my mind, I can't eat sleep anything. I feel so played by both of them. Sad thing I want him back so bad. My friends have all left me, and the ones left are mutual friends of both of ours. I don't understand what I did wrong, how this even happened. I want to disappear so bad, but my leeb tells me he doesn't want me to leave his life. He was so emotional we both cried once he told me. I just don't know what to do.
Me and Mike met seven years ago at work we became best friends and then we added sex/dating. Both work for the police department, even though there wasn't a title per say, we portrayed ourselves as dating to all our mutual friends. We been to Mexico, Bahamas Vegas many times. If you saw me you saw him basically. We had two best friends who happen to a married couple we always hung out with. We went to Mexico with them to celebrate the anniversary and such. All of our mutual coworkers even though they don't know it is basically either wished or wanted it to be. 2 years he moved to a new squad.. He was then under a new sgt. Phillip, I hadn't met Phillip yet when me and Mike went to Mexico for the second time in 2014 Phillip called up to my coworkers asking who I was where was I gone for that week. Was I with Mike etc. no one gave him an answer. He then proceeded to text me asking if we wanted to go to a concert I told him I would see once I got back and Would ask Mike. He said "well isn't Mike right beside you" hindsight I realize now Phillip probably manipulated me. Once Mike returned from Mexico Phillip his decided to get a cake with a picture of me and him on it with the words "congrats on your engagement" mike never told me about the cake knowing it would piss me off. Fast forward I then began to hang out with Mike and his work friends often mostly including Phillip. We would go on trips and such me and Mike always stayed in the room together. Phillip would ask questions and such were we together etc. I never confirmed or denied. Due to my lack out trust and still remembering the cake incident. I say this so you can understand why I can't believe Phillip never knew there was more than a friendship between me and Mike. Time goes on we all continue to hang out I begin to trust Phillip all while me and Mike continue to do our thing. We all became close friends. Went went to New York etc together. Here recently I began to see they spent a lot of time together and me and Mike hadn't been intimate since for a while Him Phillip and I becam

I've lost my mind, I can't eat sleep anything. I feel so played by both of them. Sad thing I want him back so bad. My friends have all left me, and the ones left are mutual friends of both of ours. I don't understand what I did wrong, how this even happened. I want to disappear so bad, but my leeb tells me he doesn't want me to leave his life. He was so emotional we both cried once he told me. I just don't know what to do.
Me and Mike met seven years ago at work we became best friends and then we added sex/dating. Both work for the police department, even though there wasn't a title per say, we portrayed ourselves as dating to all our mutual friends. We been to Mexico, Bahamas Vegas many times. If you saw me you saw him basically. We had two best friends who happen to a married couple we always hung out with. We went to Mexico with them to celebrate the anniversary and such. All of our mutual coworkers even though they don't know it is basically either wished or wanted it to be. 2 years he moved to a new squad.. He was then under a new sgt. Phillip, I hadn't met Phillip yet when me and Mike went to Mexico for the second time in 2014 Phillip called up to my coworkers asking who I was where was I gone for that week. Was I with Mike etc. no one gave him an answer. He then proceeded to text me asking if we wanted to go to a concert I told him I would see once I got back and Would ask Mike. He said "well isn't Mike right beside you" hindsight I realize now Phillip probably manipulated me. Once Mike returned from Mexico Phillip his decided to get a cake with a picture of me and him on it with the words "congrats on your engagement" mike never told me about the cake knowing it would piss me off. Fast forward I then began to hang out with Mike and his work friends often mostly including Phillip. We would go on trips and such me and Mike always stayed in the room together. Phillip would ask questions and such were we together etc. I never confirmed or denied. Due to my lack out trust and still remembering the cake incident. I say this so you can understand why I can't believe Phillip never knew there was more than a friendship between me and Mike. Time goes on we all continue to hang out I begin to trust Phillip all while me and Mike continue to do our thing. We all became close friends. Went went to New York etc together. Here recently I began to see they spent a lot of time together and me and Mike hadn't been intimate since for a while Him Phillip and I becam

Dude, this is that bitch who came here awhile back, wondering if her Libra guy was gay. One who never really put a title on things and kept her around as a cover and started seeing other guy.

Nothing has changed except everything that we told her. I don't know why she's presenting it as new info.

Well I think her title says it all. You can see where the story is going so it doesn't matter. To the OP; forget him. It will never be the same no matter how much you want it to be.

(links are messing with the formatting so I'm just leaving titles)

In a thread titled "Tisk tisk" which you used under a profile that you actually made with your name-

"So previously I posted under my, friend Cataleya a post but after reading so many people post I decided to join to vent too. So here goes in my previous post I was asking if my libra guy was gay. Well here goes. So I went on a trip with him and his bff (Chris). The first night, well nothing big the second night well the BFF kissed my Leeb not once but twice. I'm so hurt why didnt he just tell me. Well maybe he didnt know. The BFF then had s talk with me about how the reason girls don't come around is because he is attracted to men. Including my Leeb
My Leeb was sleep but what do I do now?"

So is his name Chris or Phillip?


"I think my best friend's Libra is gay." Under your friend's name.

"I have read and re-read and re-read this I think all day. Cataleya made me read it. My name is shelly I'm the friend she is referring to. I have read many post on here all day long actually. Im not the strong one like cataleya she is a no nonsense chick. I love hard and fell hard for Matt. He was exactly what I wanted. Cat told me a many times if a guy isn't sexing you he is either sexing another woman or man. I'm just confused on how a guy can act like this and why. I mean I've done so much for him and have always been honest with him. Out of respect for me why not just tell me. I see Cat and her guy working out even through his BS he's done but Matt idk he won't get a grip. Here is it now 1 in the morning and I'm still sitting here dazed and confused."

Now his name is Matt...

As I browse more through the "friend's" posting history, it's all about a Libra guy she's been "seeing" (her quotes, not mine), and questions about his nonchalance about their relationship, why the passion is gone,

Hell, she even references Mexico here-

""Seeing each other" lol Well you know how libra's can be, We recently went to vegas together, and when asked by someone were we married he said we were dating. I tend to believe he is into me we've been seeing each other for a while we started off as just friends for about a year. Then we went to Mexico together with his best friend and his wife to renew their vows. Well in mexico the sex was introduced. In the beginning it was me that always initiated the convo, but then I felt myself getting to clingy, so I fell back, now he does. Now I will give it to him he did contact when he got back, and we have seen each other since. I guess my thing is I didn't know if my lacking of initiating was causing him to think I wasn't interested anymore. The surprise party well it was suppose to be a surprise but he now knows. I'm not sure why he feels like he has to return the favor that puzzling to me too. He said he doesn't like to feel unfair. He is always one for he wants to do the same caliber of things I do for him, but he doesn't know how to (he has never been in a serious relationship)."

Hell, she just made another post about a Libra dude's chart, which is interesting because the Libra she spoke of prior seemed to have very similar placements...

I'm calling bs on both accounts, tbh.

^^^^^^ Lol. OP your story cut off. Are you a woman? I'm assuming you are by the username. But you should finish the story if you want more advice.

Wow.. Why are you guys laughing at her? This could very well be a real story. Many men are bisexual or gay and continue to try to pass off as straight and there are plenty of women who find themselves confused after their partner comes out of the closet.

You guys are a bunch of assholes.

Anyway OP try to focus on the fact that you couldn't have known what was going to happen and that his choices are not your fault. He probably loved you but that's the way he goes, that's the way he goes... Try not to let this effect your future relationships.

Oops didn't know it cut off.....

Here recently I began to see they spent a lot of time together and me and Mike hadn't been intimate since for a while Him Phillip and I became this little clique you can say they would surprise with gifts and such as I really began to think of phillip as a brother. Fast forward to now after some distance between us, they began to hang out more and more Phillip would ask me to go places but I declined feeling like I was a third wheel on their time, Mike began to sorta distance himself from me would at times not do things I would ask of him knowing now he was spending time with Phillip. I had my suspicions of Phillip being gay after our trip to New York. I didn't think to ask Mike because hey we were together. I had begun to express me feelings to Phillip that I felt something was off, he then told Mike that we needed to sit and talk so we went to dinner I came out and asked the question mike he then told me "he didn't know but they had been spending time together and it had been going on for a year"

Last part.......

I feel betrayed and deceived, by both of them. When he told me he said he was sorry he cried and said he didn't want to lose me in his life. He understood if I couldn't be friends with Phillip and he wouldn't hate me for me. He said Phillip doesn't replace me it's just different. When I talked to Phillip he stated he had no idea it was history there that we had been more than friends. Now come on how in the hell you didn't know that you went fishing for that in the beginning. Even if I didn't tell you, there were times when we would all be together and I'd say something like "Mike why won't give it to me, or etc" in my mind knowing we were already doing it. And Phillip would sit there and instigate it like yes Mike why wouldn't you knowing in his mind when I get out the car he is going to have Mike all to himself.

Then after Mike tells me the truth he begins to cry and cry ask me not to hate him, he knows I'm hurt and didn't meant to hurt me. He wants us to work this out that Phillip doesn't replace me he want me in his life just he is committed to him and in love. I'm the only one he told no one knows he doesn't want anyone to know. Especially cause where Its full of alpha males not to mention all of our mutual friends look at us as a couple. How do I continue a friendship knowing that mike is my best friend, and I think of Phillip great friend. I don't want to hate either of them but I'm hurt, especially when this was just cold, and I hear from Phillip the he has found the love of his life, and he can understand why I'm hurt but it's not like my and Mike were in a relationship like they are.

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Posted by Twodrinkminimum
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I don't even think this post is real.... It can't be!!!!

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Oh no it's real very real

Posted by CapricornLaurie
Wow.. Why are you guys laughing at her? This could very well be a real story. Many men are bisexual or gay and continue to try to pass off as straight and there are plenty of women who find themselves confused after their partner comes out of the closet.

You guys are a bunch of assholes.

Anyway OP try to focus on the fact that you couldn't have known what was going to happen and that his choices are not your fault. He probably loved you but that's the way he goes, that's the way he goes... Try not to let this effect your future relationships.

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Posted by DMV
I was with the Sag, Cancer moon last night and he is so friggin perfect. He reads my soul. He knew from the second he made eye contact that

1.) there was another male in the picture
2.) shit aint going good with said male

then he proceeded, que tears, to tell me how beautiful i am and how perfect i was. then he dug out a ditch. Drill Master. we later went for ice cream.

he's so perfect.

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What flavor ice-cream did you choose?...waffle cones or tub?

im sorry this happened. go get yourself checked and make sure you dont have STDs. all i can say is now you know the truth, so you need to try to move on. take your time, feel it out but move on.

Posted by CapricornLaurie
Wow.. Why are you guys laughing at her? This could very well be a real story. Many men are bisexual or gay and continue to try to pass off as straight and there are plenty of women who find themselves confused after their partner comes out of the closet.

You guys are a bunch of assholes.

Anyway OP try to focus on the fact that you couldn't have known what was going to happen and that his choices are not your fault. He probably loved you but that's the way he goes, that's the way he goes... Try not to let this effect your future relationships.

Sweetie, she's a troll.

This story got posted awhile back and the names were changed. Her dude was named "Matt" then and the guy he was messing around with also had another name.

Now it's Mark and Philip.

Her "friend" under another name also posted similar stories claiming it was her own.

People, laugh away. This bitch is trollin hard.

*Mike. Whatever names she's changed it all to.

Posted by ShellyTeacup
Oops didn't know it cut off.....

Here recently I began to see they spent a lot of time together and me and Mike hadn't been intimate since for a while Him Phillip and I became this little clique you can say they would surprise with gifts and such as I really began to think of phillip as a brother. Fast forward to now after some distance between us, they began to hang out more and more Phillip would ask me to go places but I declined feeling like I was a third wheel on their time, Mike began to sorta distance himself from me would at times not do things I would ask of him knowing now he was spending time with Phillip. I had my suspicions of Phillip being gay after our trip to New York. I didn't think to ask Mike because hey we were together. I had begun to express me feelings to Phillip that I felt something was off, he then told Mike that we needed to sit and talk so we went to dinner I came out and asked the question mike he then told me "he didn't know but they had been spending time together and it had been going on for a year"

Why are you back here, crying about the same story and changing the names of the guys?

Why is your "friend" also here asking about a similar Libra?

Interesting how you've avoided responding in your other thread where I pointed all this out, but you're only commenting in this one. Do I need to provide links to the users here? Nothing is more shitty than wasting advice and time on some troll bitch on the internet seeking attention.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
As I browse more through the "friend's" posting history, it's all about a Libra guy she's been "seeing" (her quotes, not mine), and questions about his nonchalance about their relationship, why the passion is gone,

Hell, she even references Mexico here-

""Seeing each other" lol Well you know how libra's can be, We recently went to vegas together, and when asked by someone were we married he said we were dating. I tend to believe he is into me we've been seeing each other for a while we started off as just friends for about a year. Then we went to Mexico together with his best friend and his wife to renew their vows. Well in mexico the sex was introduced. In the beginning it was me that always initiated the convo, but then I felt myself getting to clingy, so I fell back, now he does. Now I will give it to him he did contact when he got back, and we have seen each other since. I guess my thing is I didn't know if my lacking of initiating was causing him to think I wasn't interested anymore. The surprise party well it was suppose to be a surprise but he now knows. I'm not sure why he feels like he has to return the favor that puzzling to me too. He said he doesn't like to feel unfair. He is always one for he wants to do the same caliber of things I do for him, but he doesn't know how to (he has never been in a serious relationship)."

Hell, she just made another post about a Libra dude's chart, which is interesting because the Libra she spoke of prior seemed to have very similar placements...

I'm calling bs on both accounts, tbh.

your so cute and smart ya think.

Im not sure what a troll is but I'm sure it's not me. I didnt and have not ever disrespected you so why me. This is a embarrassing thing nothing to play with. But to you, you just look for ways to put another person down. It doesn't matter the names, We all came for advice regardless, instead of knocking a person down how about you help them. And if you got a problem with me and what I post simply dont fucking comment. Have a great day.

Posted by Sugarfoot
^^^ 😆

Sorry Shelly but you wrote about this same scenario a long time ago on here. Everyone told you that it sounded pretty obvious that he was bisexual or gay and not really interested in you any more. I believe you said he hadn't been intimate with you in 2 years or something like that. I mean damn. I guess you were bound and determined to play it through til the end. So here you are. Thanks for the update.

The real question is why do you even still want this guy. 1) He doesn't want you and hasn't acted like he wants you in a VERY long time, 2) He doesn't have the common decency to be direct and honest with you so you could cut your losses and move on 3) He's being a coward. He's been using you to cover up his relationship with Phillip and maybe his sexual orientation too so your co-workers won't know. His character is so morally bankrupt. I don't get the attraction. The fact that you still want him after all this is just pure desperation. You should be disgusted by him and his new flame. Neither one of them treated you as real friends or with any respect at all.

now this i can respect and thnak you for it much respect

Posted by gemguyaz34
Well I think her title says it all. You can see where the story is going so it doesn't matter. To the OP; forget him. It will never be the same no matter how much you want it to be.

thank you so much

libraqueen is right. He may have been bisexual all along. They keep many secrets and most of the time I think it's because they really have a hard time making up their mind. Meet one with a Scorpio moon and it's even more interesting. And it is right on, they get wrapped up so much in their own little world that they can and will take you for granted and won't even realize it. I've had to tip the scales many times to get them to see things from my point of view which I DO NOT enjoy doing, but sometimes it's the only way when they get the stubborn streak going.

Posted by ShellyTeacup


your so cute and smart ya think.

Im not sure what a troll is but I'm sure it's not me. I didnt and have not ever disrespected you so why me. This is a embarrassing thing nothing to play with. But to you, you just look for ways to put another person down. It doesn't matter the names, We all came for advice regardless, instead of knocking a person down how about you help them. And if you got a problem with me and what I post simply dont fucking comment. Have a great day.

Sweetheart, how can anyone want to help someone who's been caught lying or blurring the truth since the last time you came here? You basically repeated the SAME story but changed the names. What are you trying to accomplish here? Nothing has changed, the answers are the same, and of the both names you've been associated with, they have the same stories as well.

First, it was your friend "speaking" for you. Then you posted under that name. Then you made your own account. You're the fool who stuck around for 2 years with all this nonsense and continued to seek validation for being this guy's cover up.

What I find strange is that your "friend" was also posting crap, in the same timeline that you speak of, of a Libra dude SHE was interested in.

You have been caught with some weird fuck consistencies and all you see is someone being "mean? You have problems. Serious ones. Do you suffer from multiple personality disorder? Is that why you cannot grasp that your lies have been ousted and you continue to act like nothing is wrong? Dahell?

You shouldn't be embarrassed that your desperate ass decided to stay with a gay dude despite all the red flags. You should be embarrassed that you blatantly ignore something that's so obvious here and act like nothing is wrong. Denial isn't just a river in Egypt.

It just gets really old seeing chicks like you creating post after post, seeking attention and validation. It's a total waste of time.