Libra Man: Passive aggressive, tunnel vision or fading??

I've been seeing a Libra for several months. We're close emotionally and he's very sweet, affectionate, open, when we are together. We don't communicate every day, more like every few days, He has an intense job and so do I, also I know it is hard for him to multi-task when involved with a project. In November he took a job promotion in another state. We decided to keep things going, as he would be back to our state several times a month. We we keeping touch rather regularly, then I stepped back to give him space to get situated in the new job/town. In 12 days there was no communication either way. On day 12 I texted him that I hoped all was well. I've not heard back and it's been 8 days. He''s the loner type of Libra, doesn't enjoy communication and sort of pushes people away (he says). So, is he 1. being passive aggressive because I stepped back 2. having tunnel vision with the new job, or 3. fading away. The last time we spoke he said he loved every aspect of me/us and we were planning a trip (in January) for me to come stay with him.

So, Libras, why is he doing this? And should I reach out 1 more time or give him space? I really need some solid advice/insight on this. We have remarkable chemistry together and I really care for him.

have you tried calling?

No, neither of us like talking on the phone. I know it she odd. I guess we are visual communicators.

Posted by Cblair
No, neither of us like talking on the phone. I know it she odd. I guess we are visual communicators.

i would call him to see if he is alright.

if you were a visual communicator you wouldn't be relying on a text message to gauge the state of your relationship.

or am i just spouting mad ravings?

I guess I just don't know if that's clingy or chasing and I have read a lot about Libra men just jumping ship. I don't want someone who doesn't want me, but based on our history...well, I had don't know what to think. I can't imagine why he hasn't contacted me other than that he is done for some reason. So, bottom line you think I should contact him?

Posted by Cblair
I guess I just don't know if that's clingy or chasing and I have read a lot about Libra men just jumping ship. I don't want someone who doesn't want me, but based on our history...well, I had don't know what to think. I can't imagine why he hasn't contacted me other than that he is done for some reason. So, bottom line you think I should contact him?

clingy to call the person you are in a relationship with and who hasn't spoken to you for 20 days? i think you're ok on the clingy scale.

Sent straight to vm like it's turned off. Left message. ?? What do you think?

That's kind of what it feels like to me. He does have a lot going on, and has been in therapy for many years (because of his inability to relate to others) and now he is not in therapy....not sure how hard that is.

Anyway, I will give him the benefit of the doubt until I hear otherwise. I am just so confused because of how affectionate and open he was last time we saw each other, and our last exchange was so positive.... Very weird, in my opinion.

Not so sure you'd think that if you knew all the specifics of our relationship.... 😉 but thanks.

I really want him, but I am not gonna compromise myself for some one who doesn't want me. I mean, duh.

I appreciate your insight.

This is classic "Libra dude checking out of the relationship."

I've experienced it personally along with seeing endless stories of the same thing here on the Libra forum and others irl.

Regardless of sign, "space" is what, a couple of days alone compared to the usual? But you're talking WEEKS? That's not promising no matter what way you paint it. If a guy is into you, he won't let that much time go by no matter how busy he is.

I totally agree. It's just, the situation is a lot more complicated than it seems. With out getting too detailed, there are a lot more moving pieces. But he probably is moving on. I'm just really shocked he would be so cowardly about it...is that a Libra trait? I mean, I haven't freaked on him be and don't plan on doing so now....I would just like to know what's going on. I wouldl have zero respect for him just jumping ship with no warning and no reason. Who does that to a person? He did not seem like that at all...is this typical Libra behavior??

Posted by Cblair
I totally agree. It's just, the situation is a lot more complicated than it seems. With out getting too detailed, there are a lot more moving pieces. But he probably is moving on. I'm just really shocked he would be so cowardly about it...is that a Libra trait? I mean, I haven't freaked on him be and don't plan on doing so now....I would just like to know what's going on. I wouldl have zero respect for him just jumping ship with no warning and no reason. Who does that to a person? He did not seem like that at all...is this typical Libra behavior??

Yes. Conflict is bad, m'kay? *cough* It happens all too often with the immature type of Libra.

Immature, stupid douchebags do that to others, tbh.