Libra man pulled back

Im a Cap woman who attempted a friendship/companionship with a Libra man that I knew from high school. We recently reconnected through Facebook. We hung out for a while and it was going great. I told him that I wanted to take it slow and he agreed. He and his kids mother did not get along well and I felt like that would be an issue later. He really loves his kids but after a disagreement over money she stopped letting him see them. I noticed that he stopped calling as much no texting and no cute memes. Me being a Capricorn woman I am straightforward and if it's over I would prefer you to tell me. So I asked and he said he was focused on the situation with the mother of his kids and that's where his mind is at. The thing is...we talk about everything when we are together so I didn't understand why he stopped. I told him how I felt about the lack of communication between us and he assured me that he was still interested but his actions prove otherwise. He'll like my post but won't call or text me...it's weird to me. Im just going to fall all the way back.

Every time I post like this on here at the end I realize that im not asking a question, im venting. Any constructive comments from Libras or the people who deal with them is welcomed.

Posted by topes
Hes emotionally invested. I am going thru a very similar situation as he is. Emotional consistency is going to be very difficult at this stage from him thanks to a lack of straightforwardedness in his life right now.

Hardly at all weird. Are Capricorns human? :/

Yes we are, more than people think. I have abandonment issues that I talk about openly because of a few things (my father being killed when I was 17 and my childs father putting me and my son out after 13 years for a younger woman). The first time Libra kinda disappeared I asked that he tell me when he needs time alone so that I wont assume the worst. People think Im colder than I really am because im not clingy and appear to be detached but im more sensitive than I let on.

Posted by dolluxe
Libras tend to deal with issues alone so we pull back not only from love interests but also friends and sometimes even family.

He's going through a tough time and if you do care about him you would understand.

I told him that I understand that people deal with their issues in their own way. I just wanted to make him feel better. Sometimes being around someone that makes u laugh and smile helps the pain. Now im thinking we are just not compatible because I dont like being shut out. I won't feel the same when you decide to come back...that's just me! Thanks!

I guess all Libras of course are different; I pull back even when I am in love. Usually it's to get my head straight. I attribute it to being air - wind blows to the left, blows to the right.

I really haven't talked to him in a week but he continues to like my post on fb. So I posted a meme that said "people are always too busy but have time for social media" something like that. So he commented "it's in the in between times". So I said it takes the same amount of time to drop a text. He then texted me good night and that he was tired and going to bed. I told him that he didn't have to get off fb because of me. I also told him that I think he doesn't want to talk to me anymore but is afraid to say it. He sais he was still battling demons and that he hasn't even talked to his mom. He said he will talk to me when he over whatever is bothering him. Story of my life, another guy that wants to put me on layaway lol.

Miimii, again, I do the exact same thing even when I am in love, and yes the pulling away is to deal with demons. But I could understand how someone would just leave us alone and not want to be bothered with the instability. If I could be another way, I would.

Posted by miimii
I really haven't talked to him in a week but he continues to like my post on fb. So I posted a meme that said "people are always too busy but have time for social media" something like that. So he commented "it's in the in between times". So I said it takes the same amount of time to drop a text. He then texted me good night and that he was tired and going to bed. I told him that he didn't have to get off fb because of me. I also told him that I think he doesn't want to talk to me anymore but is afraid to say it. He sais he was still battling demons and that he hasn't even talked to his mom. He said he will talk to me when he over whatever is bothering him. Story of my life, another guy that wants to put me on layaway lol.

Hi love, what is his moon sign? Honestly not only me being a Libra but my moon is in water and when emotionally down it hits me like a truck. I won't tell anyone how I feel until I am in snotty tears. Shutting myself out is the first reaction but I have done the same thing liking Facebook post kind of as a "I am still here, I just don't have the energy to give you the full attention I want because you deserve it." And even though he trust you, you still have to consider that he is a man if he is really hurting right now he may not want you to see how messed up he is right now. Further telling him that he just doesn't care is going to push him away if he feels you are being insensitivity but if at this point you don't really care that is understandable. You do have needs as well and you should always strive to have your needs met in a relationship, but I think abandonment is your issue not his. Our partners regardless of Sun sign deserve space in general but everyone handles pain differently and you have to decide what you can deal with, but my insecurities have be self sabotaging before. If you have no reason to take him at his word then maybe he has done something before that you deemed untrustworthy?

I am crazy about a Cap too and he reads the hell out of me and conversation is easy when we are together i can tell him anything but he knows how to put me under scrutiny as well about things in my life, but it is because he cares and although I feel I am being put under the microscope maybe he was sent for that reason to refocus me. You have to ask what value does he bring and is it worth waiting around for? Also, why are you waiting around do something's to refocuse yourself and heal that abandonment. Only saying so because I have some healing to do myself.

"So I posted a meme that said "people are always too busy but have time for social media" something like that."

Just a suggestion, these kind of sarcastic nagging do not always go well with a lot of people .

"I also told him that I think he doesn't want to talk to me anymore but is afraid to say it. He sais he was still battling demons and that he hasn't even talked to his mom. He said he will talk to me when he over whatever is bothering him. Story of my life, another guy that wants to put me on layaway lol."

Dont feel sorry for yourself. You may come across 100s of wrong guys but it only takes one right person to make it all right. Anyways here i feel he is not being wrong. You are not his wife that deserves his full attention, and u are not even in a committed relationship with him . He has his things and let him deal with it. And if he is doing that on purpose to avoid u then too u should do nothing. U will know the truth eventually but dont push him .

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Posted by miimii
I really haven't talked to him in a week but he continues to like my post on fb. So I posted a meme that said "people are always too busy but have time for social media" something like that. So he commented "it's in the in between times". So I said it takes the same amount of time to drop a text. He then texted me good night and that he was tired and going to bed. I told him that he didn't have to get off fb because of me. I also told him that I think he doesn't want to talk to me anymore but is afraid to say it. He sais he was still battling demons and that he hasn't even talked to his mom. He said he will talk to me when he over whatever is bothering him. Story of my life, another guy that wants to put me on layaway lol.

Hi love, what is his moon sign? Honestly not only me being a Libra but my moon is in water and when emotionally down it hits me like a truck. I won't tell anyone how I feel until I am in snotty tears. Shutting myself out is the first reaction but I have done the same thing liking Facebook post kind of as a "I am still here, I just don't have the energy to give you the full attention I want because you deserve it." And even though he trust you, you still have to consider that he is a man if he is really hurting right now he may not want you to see how messed up he is right now. Further telling him that he just doesn't care is going to push him away if he feels you are being insensitivity but if at this point you don't really care that is understandable. You do have needs as well and you should always strive to have your needs met in a relationship, but I think abandonment is your issue not his. Our partners regardless of Sun sign deserve space in general but everyone handles pain differently and you have to decide what you can deal with, but my insecurities have be self sabotaging before. If you have no reason to take him at his word then maybe he has done something before that you deemed untrustworthy?

I am crazy about a Cap too and he reads the hell out of me and conversation is easy when we are together i can tell him anything but he knows how to put me under scrutiny as well about things in my life, but it is because he cares and although I feel I am being put under the microscope maybe he was sent for that reason to refocus me. You have to ask what value does he bring and is it worth waiting around for? Also, why are you waiting around do something's to refocuse yourself and heal that abandonment. Only saying so because I have some healing to do myself.

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LadyLibra you look fucking amazing. Jeez WTF

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Posted by ladylibra21

Posted by miimii
I really haven't talked to him in a week but he continues to like my post on fb. So I posted a meme that said "people are always too busy but have time for social media" something like that. So he commented "it's in the in between times". So I said it takes the same amount of time to drop a text. He then texted me good night and that he was tired and going to bed. I told him that he didn't have to get off fb because of me. I also told him that I think he doesn't want to talk to me anymore but is afraid to say it. He sais he was still battling demons and that he hasn't even talked to his mom. He said he will talk to me when he over whatever is bothering him. Story of my life, another guy that wants to put me on layaway lol.

Hi love, what is his moon sign? Honestly not only me being a Libra but my moon is in water and when emotionally down it hits me like a truck. I won't tell anyone how I feel until I am in snotty tears. Shutting myself out is the first reaction but I have done the same thing liking Facebook post kind of as a "I am still here, I just don't have the energy to give you the full attention I want because you deserve it." And even though he trust you, you still have to consider that he is a man if he is really hurting right now he may not want you to see how messed up he is right now. Further telling him that he just doesn't care is going to push him away if he feels you are being insensitivity but if at this point you don't really care that is understandable. You do have needs as well and you should always strive to have your needs met in a relationship, but I think abandonment is your issue not his. Our partners regardless of Sun sign deserve space in general but everyone handles pain differently and you have to decide what you can deal with, but my insecurities have be self sabotaging before. If you have no reason to take him at his word then maybe he has done something before that you deemed untrustworthy?

I am crazy about a Cap too and he reads the hell out of me and conversation is easy when we are together i can tell him anything but he knows how to put me under scrutiny as well about things in my life, but it is because he cares and although I feel I am being put under the microscope maybe he was sent for that reason to refocus me. You have to ask what value does he bring and is it worth waiting around for? Also, why are you waiting around do something's to refocuse yourself and heal that abandonment. Only saying so because I have some healing to do myself.

LadyLibra you look fucking amazing. Jeez WTF

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*Blushes* Thank you love!

Hello, don't give up on him just yet. I'm speaking from experience. I went thru something almost like that with my Libra guy friend, however me being a Scorpio didn help the issue. Cause if you start off one way which gets your attention than you out the blue change, I see that as a problem. So I just let him do his thing after I told him my concerns. However I will tell you, I wasn't no saint cus my Scorp ways did come out. However he still hung in there which let me know he was still in. He will come back trust me. Just give him some space, find something else to do for the time being. I have never been involved with a Libra guy. Match his vibe, if you text him and he don't text back. Then you wait til he texts you and return the favor. Are you could send him a text msg showing your support and don't look for a response in return. Only if you feel the need to put in the work.