Libra Women, Help!

Hi, I'm new to this board but have enjoyed reading it for awhile. I'm an Aries guy, so you make of that what you will. Anyway, I am very close to a Libra woman I adore. We're both in the real estate business and have worked together on several projects; shared dinners, gone to a few events together. The relationship started about 6 months ago. Well, when we're together she acts close to me. We don't hold hands or anything, but are always close in proximity. Talk all the time. Share everything about our lives. Believe the same kind of things, religious wise. She is very beautiful physically and I love her personality. I've hugged her several times and kissed her on the cheek a few times; she rebuffs attempts on the lips, but doesn't say anything after that. My problem is, even though we seem to thoroughly enjoy each other's company and like going out together, she says she doesn't want to "date" me. I ask her what she means by "date" (because in my mind going out to events and lunch and dinner, etc., with a woman means "date".) So she says she doesn't want to be "serious." Hey, I'm crazy about her! So then I feel bad that we've spent this time together and maybe she doesn't really have feelings for me. Then I wonder whether to just break it off completely or see if she wants to be serious later---is it worth investing my time? I have many women friends anyway. So my Libra girl to me is exclusive of them. And the really weird thing for me is usually women, including beautiful woman of all kinds, are more aggressive toward me and want to be serious right away. Could you please let me know your thoughts? Thanks in advance!

Thank you for answering me! You're probably right. And I don't know what I would need to assure her or make her more sure of things. Out least from your answer, it doesn't sound like outright rejection. Yeah, we Aries are pretty adamant about decisions---that's for sure.

Hey, PP24, Thanks for the note. Yeah, I've hung out with Leo's and Sag's---LOVE Leo's, find Sag's too much into their own way of life (double standard stuff). So I went on a "date" that wasn't a date with Libra lady today (to a museum!). Being my subtlest. We had coffee, etc. Visited some at her house, then I just left---not making any future plans on my part whatsoever. I'm in a "wait and see" mode to see if she calls / writes in the next few days. I usually like to plan, but felt like this would be best for now. We'll see! She IS awesome. And your comments are right on (NOT pushing in any way!).

** she rebuffs attempts on the lips,

** she says she doesn't want to "date" me. I ask her what she means by "date" (because in my mind going out to events and lunch and dinner, etc., with a woman means "date".) So she says she doesn't want to be "serious."

She is not attracted to you but likes you as a friend/person.

** because in my mind going out to events and lunch and dinner, etc., with a woman means "date".)

this is not dating and you know this.

Little Sparrow, Thanks for the comments you've given me. It's intriguing that they seem the opposite of some of your fellow Libra females. Since I'm a "bottom line" guy, I guess the bottom line you're telling me is that I just accept her as a friend who is not attracted to me; continue the friendship if I choose. (Do Libras EVER move from friendship to something more intimate once they've made up their minds?). And, sorry to disagree, maybe it's a guy thing, but as a guy if I'm investing my time and money to take her out to lunch, dinner, etc., HOW could any woman think those AREN'T dates? Would a woman REALLY think a guy just doesn't have anything else to do? OR he needs another woman in his life that's just a friend? Sorry. I don't buy it. What do you call it if not "date?" Otherwise, it just appears the woman is a gold digger. (Which I would even hate to think for a moment). Hmmmm. I would like to know your answers because I've noticed from some of your other postings that you seem to get rather firey at times!