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He is a libra man (with a libra moon, mars virgo and venus gemini), and he started pursuing me in 2010 and after pull and push we became good friends. He would take me out, i would find him staring at me but just as i looked he would blush and look away and was rather protective of me.

This went on till 2012 december and I confessed to him that I liked him as more than a friend and he just said "alright" and then he disappeared for 6 months, basically cold turkey. I was hurt, I tried to move on but after those 6 months he came back and with all his cards on the table. He started pursuing me again and it was as if his 6 month leave never happened We never discussed it.

I kept him at an arm's length i was ok with being friends I was still trying to heal and I definitely wanted to keep a distance. I kept on rejecting his advances, but he wouldn't give up. I did like him but I didn't want to be in the same situation as I was in 2012. This went on until 2015, then I had to move out of state for a little while and we lost touch. During this time our mutual friend became pissed at me for being so cold towards him and spilled the beans that he loves me. In 2011, he tried dating some girl but ended breaking up with her in 3 months . I had no knowledge of this because I was out of state at the time.

I came back this a week ago and it turns out he is with another girl who was his platonic bff for years but they made it official a few months ago. I'm keeping my distance I haven't contacted him at all (neither text/call nor in-person) and I won't bc he is a taken man regardless of what I feel for him. I do realize I am at fault but it still hurts seeing him with another. Have I lost him for good? Regardless of what I get as advice I won't interfere unless he is single again

I noticed you minimized his desertion of the 2-year friendship when you at your most were vulnerable and exposed your feelings. That behavior was cruel, deeply uncaring, disrespectful, and extremely hurtful.

He told you everything you need to know about his lack of character and genuine lack of interest when he disappeared. A real friend, or a man who genuinely loved you, would never desert you after you revealed your precious feelings. His profound disregard of your feelings warranted permanent deletion from your life or at least a demotion from so-called good friend to casual Instagram acquaintance.

Many women would not have allowed someone so disrespectful back into our lives irrespective of what cards he laid out on the table. That behavior couldn't be more blatant regarding his lack of genuine affections.

You said he pursued you? How many time did he visit you out-of-state? When a man loves you, he would be so busy showing you, you wouldn't need to hear it from the grapevine.

You like him more than he likes you, once you accept that you will hopefully love yourself enough to move on like he apparently did.

Instead of asking have you lost him, ask yourself,

"Is he really worth all that?"

Have you lost him? When did you have him? You two knew each other for 2 years and he disappeared. Wow! I had a guy from an online dating site do that and I felt some kind of way, but never a friend of 2 years? Wow! That was emotional violence girl. I would never let a man mistreat me twice.

Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice the shame lies with me.

You've wasted 6 years of your life. 6 years with nothing to show for all your pinning. That's the real tragedy of this story.

I did and after what he did I kept him at arm's length, no it wasn't in my head i understand that actions > talk. But he showed it through his actions he would drive 5 to and fro my place when I was out of state.

I never invited him in though I was salty and had our meet ups outside my home. To be honest I didn't pine after him...I came to realize that i like him and just confessed bc his actions did show that he likes me, if his actions didn't show that I wouldn't have confessed in the first place.

If he loved or cared about you, he would be with you and not with anyone else. It's time to move along and find someone who will make you their priority

Posted by librawomen7
I noticed you minimized his desertion of the 2-year friendship when you at your most were vulnerable and exposed your feelings. That behavior was cruel, deeply uncaring, disrespectful, and extremely hurtful.

He told you everything you need to know about his lack of character and genuine lack of interest when he disappeared. A real friend, or a man who genuinely loved you, would never desert you after you revealed your precious feelings. His profound disregard of your feelings warranted permanent deletion from your life or at least a demotion from so-called good friend to casual Instagram acquaintance.

Many women would not have allowed someone so disrespectful back into our lives irrespective of what cards he laid out on the table. That behavior couldn't be more blatant regarding his lack of genuine affections.

You said he pursued you? How many time did he visit you out-of-state? When a man loves you, he would be so busy showing you, you wouldn't need to hear it from the grapevine.

You like him more than he likes you, once you accept that you will hopefully love yourself enough to move on like he apparently did.

^5 (high five!). My current boyfriend (29 September 1966; I am 02 March 1965) is soooooooo intense! We VOWED to break the cycle and are not sleeping together until we talk things out, family, religion, exes, jobs, do's/dont's, we talk about zodiac signs (more me than him), etc. We are breaking the "cycle" and although he isn't "slow" like most Libras I have to pull the reins on him! The balance (Libra) and my "sensitivity" (Piscean) work hand-in-hand. He already informed me he doesn't want to do anything to hurt me since he knows it will DEVASATE him if I sever the relationship. You must have communication all the time with your Libra. I tell my Libra we are like "parrots"....we never shut up! He is VERY smitten with me and my heart is growing bigger and bigger! Just this week he came over on Sunday to watch a Dallas Cowboys game with me (we won! I told him he was MY lucky charm!) as his team are the Broncos...and he walks in my house wearing #88 (Dez Bryant)....needless to say by the end of the night he gave me said jersey! He met my son that Sunday, came over on Monday to help kiddo w/homework, and again Libra came over yesterday to help complete kiddos homework (they both worked on math). I've NEVER dated a Libra and I want to continue to have our communication lines OPEN all the time! Good luck to OP! And thanks for responding back to OP.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

PS: I already asked my Libra to find out what time he was born...I am DYING to know his birth chart placements! I understand the important ones are his/my Venus (duh! mine is Pisces) and his moon/mine (again, duh! mine is Pisces) 😆

This went on until 2015, then I had to move out of state for a little while and we lost touch.

You said nothing about him driving to visit you and I don't believe he Did

Posted by Lastglow
I did and after what he did I kept him at arm's length, no it wasn't in my head i understand that actions > talk. But he showed it through his actions he would drive 5 to and fro my place when I was out of state.

I never invited him in though I was salty and had our meet ups outside my home. To be honest I didn't pine after him...I came to realize that i like him and just confessed bc his actions did show that he likes me, if his actions didn't show that I wouldn't have confessed in the first place.

Quite frankly I don't care where he drove after six months of desertion.

Now you are changing your story I guess to save face.

Somebody who would drop your friendship after you shared your feelings will not visit you out of state.

You said when you moved out of state you lost touch, now all of sudden he visited you.

His behavior showed his was willing to risk losing you to another man... a man who loves you won't let more than a few weeks pass for fear he may lose you to another. This man didn't care - he was willing to risk losing you to another during a 6 month time span. In addition he was willing to lose the friendship. Girl, this man didn't want you when you were friends first, he didn't want you when he let six months pass, and he's with someone new so he don't want you now. What are you holding on to? Stop living in delusion get some self respect and move on with your life jeez.