Libra man lost interest out of nowhere.

Hi everyone,

I was just wondering if anyone could give me some advice on the situation I am in at the moment.

I met a Libra man last april. I am a virgo myself. We met on a night out and instantly hit it off. We never switched contact details, nevertheless he found me on facebook the next day and he started talking straight away saying he looked for me everywhere (he only knew my first name). Anyway, long story short we had a great four months after that. Occasionally we would have words, since he thought I could be quite stand off-ish at times, although I did open up to him a lot and told him things I've never told anyone else before, But apart from that, it was sincerely the best time I've ever had with a man. Then around middle July things started changing. he became the one who was being stand off-ish, which he never was before. At the same time we would still meet up as useal, go out as usual, etc. but something didnt feel right to me. We had words about it, which I sincerely regret since I think I might have been too aggressive/direct about it. Anyway, it all boiled down to the fact that one of my friends had referred to him as my boyfriend. We hadn't spoken about that yet, although we were both clear on the fact that we were exclusive. He used this as the excuse for why he was acting the way he was, he wasnt sure anymore etc. Anyway, the relationship lasted another two weeks, but we didnt see each other in that time. In the end I had to confront him. He said he would rather be alone and added the typical but you're an amazing girl bullshit at the end. He contacted me a few times after this (acting as nothing had happened and being his jolly old self. i was neutral towards him), liked some pictures on instagram, but now we havent spoken in quite a while.

I don't think the excuse he gave me was the actual reason for him breaking up with me. I just can't figure out what it is though. Although I'm trying to focus on myself right now and just do me, I still want him back. I miss the conversations, the laughing etc, I just don't know how to go about getting him back. I'm sure many people will feel that relationships end for a reason and people shouldn't get back together but I don't want to look back and regret not having tried it.

I've been reading up on libra males. Is it really almost impossible to win them back? Any tips on the situation and gettting him back (or not) are much appreciated

Lucy tango, do not listen to fucking "not so sure", that bitch is a slut... Just because he might not be interested in you now, doesn't mean he won't be interested in you ever again! Adios bitches ??

Posted by Koniuchaa
I would just move on and not contact him.

that's exactly what im doing right now. well at least the no contact part. we haven't spoken in almost a month. I saw him while going out once, but left before he spotted me as I got upset and didn't want him to see me like that. apart from that, no interaction from my side. The moving on part is more tricky

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Posted by theastrologybitch
Lucy tango, do not listen to fucking "not so sure", that bitch is a slut... Just because he might not be interested in you now, doesn't mean he won't be interested in you ever again! Adios bitches ??

Oh great.. a new one..

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At least I'm being fuckin helpful you twat

not to interrupt anything, but thank you for your feedback. Hypothetically though, how would you go about winning back a libra man? that is my main question

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Posted by lucytango
not to interrupt anything, but thank you for your feedback. Hypothetically though, how would you go about winning back a libra man? that is my main question

LOL.. This your thread, if anything we are interrupting 😛

Yes. Not my intention, but was weirded out by this new user calling me a slut.

Sorry but it just doesn´t look like there is something to win back. You cannot win somebody back who doesn´t have some interest in you. Winning back is for when you have hurt someone and can prove you have changed. With this it´s like he just simply lost interest, as you wrote, and you can not win that back. It has to just be there.

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OK, that sounds fair enough. can't promise I won't try though. But what would make a Libra man pull away in the first place?

You poor, silly girl.

The dude lost interest. He's no longer into you. Stop trying to force shit to happen.

It's shitty and what happens in dating sometimes. It's also VERY typical of Libras/immature dudes- give them 3-4 months and watch their true self come out/them flit away.

"Oh, she is not my fantasy girl after all. I'm going to dig lame, canned excuses out of my ass and sorta end it, but give her false hope due to my lack of directness on what I REALLY think/feel."

Move. On. You trying to "win" him back is a desperate hoe move. There's nothing to "win" back, dear.

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Posted by lucytango
not to interrupt anything, but thank you for your feedback. Hypothetically though, how would you go about winning back a libra man? that is my main question

LOL.. This your thread, if anything we are interrupting 😛

Yes. Not my intention, but was weirded out by this new user calling me a slut.

Sorry but it just doesn´t look like there is something to win back. You cannot win somebody back who doesn´t have some interest in you. Winning back is for when you have hurt someone and can prove you have changed. With this it´s like he just simply lost interest, as you wrote, and you can not win that back. It has to just be there.

OK, that sounds fair enough. can't promise I won't try though. But what would make a Libra man pull away in the first place?

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Their fickle, retarded fuck nature. They live in the land of delusion.

When you first met, it's this crazy, honeymoon shit that women get easily swept up into. Then reality hits and he's like "oh... do I really want this? This shit is getting real and not the fantasy I made up."

I doubt you did anything seriously wrong and he's just being a fucktard as per usual.

I had experience with a Libra guy...it was not good

Sure they are handsome charming people

I dont wanna generalise but they are fickle minded, they cant stick to a decision...so by reading your thread "he lost interest" is not really a shocker!!!

Move on with your life is my advice

for a man to change his mind about who he wants to be with, doesn't make him an asshole.

In fact, we all have the right as individuals to decide who we want to be with.

so, every women who came in here to call him names simply because he has his own mind .. are just projecting because they weren't able to actually get their man, and so are flinging their bitterness off onto you. Make sure you realize that.

Also, make sure you realize that your description doesn't match the title of the thread. He didn't lose interest out of nowhere ... he lost interest after experiencing you for a couple months.

You're not a keeper to him, and you need to come to terms with that. Just as, some men aren't keepers for you, and you toss them aside.

You're not a queen, nor a prize ... you're just a person who he decided to take a pass on.

Get the proper perspective, because so long as you believe it was out of nowhere .. you will also believe that you have no responsibility in the demise of a relationship that had two participants.

That was weeks ago .. shit.

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Posted by P-Angel

for a man to change his mind about who he wants to be with, doesn't make him an asshole.

In fact, we all have the right as individuals to decide who we want to be with.

so, every women who came in here to call him names simply because he has his own mind .. are just projecting because they weren't able to actually get their man, and so are flinging their bitterness off onto you. Make sure you realize that.

Also, make sure you realize that your description doesn't match the title of the thread. He didn't lose interest out of nowhere ... he lost interest after experiencing you for a couple months.

You're not a keeper to him, and you need to come to terms with that. Just as, some men aren't keepers for you, and you toss them aside.

You're not a queen, nor a prize ... you're just a person who he decided to take a pass on.

Get the proper perspective, because so long as you believe it was out of nowhere .. you will also believe that you have no responsibility in the demise of a relationship that had two participants.

Although a little on the harsh side, this is very well said. Very well and applicable for many many topics here.

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Not harsh at all. On point 100% . When you enter a relationship or are dating someone even exclusively it doesn't mean it will last forever. It takes months, years to see how you go together, if it's a match, if it's something for the long term etc. Whatever his reasons are, they are his reasons. OP, why would you want someone who doesn't want you? As a Virgo I'd think that question should resonate with your logical nature.

Posted by lucytango
Hi everyone,

I was just wondering if anyone could give me some advice on the situation I am in at the moment.

I met a Libra man last april....Occasionally we would have words, since he thought I could be quite stand off-ish at times...

Then around middle July things started changing. he became the one who was being stand off-ish, which he never was before....He used this as the excuse for why he was acting the way he was, he wasnt sure anymore etc.

Hmmm, it doesn't sound like it was out of nowhere, it simply ran its course as some encounters do. Three months tends to be more than enough time to determine if you want to move forward with a person, and it looks like he decided he didn't. For whatever reason (given you don't believe his explaination).

I think the way he went about it (e.g. passively pulling away) seems to be contributing to the confusion making it seem like it's out of nowhere, but sadly that's how some people deal with ending things. They waffle.

Anyway, I'd move on because despite the waffling, once Leebs make up their minds it's pretty much set. Even if his mind wasn't set, why hold onto someone that isn't interested for whatever reason they've come up with? Too many other people in the world....