LibraAlex
@LibraAlex
14 YearsLibra
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Questions about a Libra Male
I notice when a Libra man is hiding something they use all kinds of excuse.....Remember u don't know him that well.....& don't what to a rebound chick
I might be wrong abt him but b careful GOOD LUCK
I might be wrong abt him but b careful GOOD LUCK
Well, I guess I feel better in what I did today. After I sent the email, I start wondering whether I should have done it, felt bad. But, truth is, it's been one-sided the whole time with me being the understanding one. So, I guess I needed to seek some sort of closure by sending that email. Like I said, I didn't attack him, didn't act mad, if anything I just said calmly that he obviously has a lot on his mind, and I am backing off. So, at least I feel I kept my dignity intact instead of getting sucked into his indecision (which is what it was starting to feel like).
As I said, not ever having dating a Libra, I had no clue. I'm in my early 40's and just not into dragging things out, so I figured I needed to cut my losses. But, I guess knowing myself, and how faithful I am and how I work when I like someone, I guess I held out hope that maybe he was going through a rough patch! Ah well, better to get out now while it's less painful I guess!
As I said, not ever having dating a Libra, I had no clue. I'm in my early 40's and just not into dragging things out, so I figured I needed to cut my losses. But, I guess knowing myself, and how faithful I am and how I work when I like someone, I guess I held out hope that maybe he was going through a rough patch! Ah well, better to get out now while it's less painful I guess!
Well, I can't make any textbook claims regarding signs...but it is rather textbook for a male or female who isn't interested to do what he's doing (regardless of age). I think I was hoping that maybe something in him being a Libra might offer more insight, and maybe to a degree a little hope (I know that I become withdrawn without intentionally meaning to). But, when someone isn't interested (regardless of sign) the signals are pretty clear. Maybe being a Libra myself, I have hidden behind "I'm busy" excuses to not let someone down, but regardless I guess I knew in my heart that he was re-thinking us. Ultimately, as I've done myself, if you are interested in someone, you make the effort and by backing off, I'll see what happens. If he did care, or thinks he made a mistake, he'll be back and I will have to think whether I want him back, or he won't and that's the end of it.
I agree amethyst2002
Well, there have been a couple of interesting things. He apologized, said it was the stress of everything blah blah blah. Now, I should point out...we are not anything yet. We only had a short while before he left, so all I was pretty much expecting when he got back was for us to actually attempt to date(I'm not sitting here picking out wedding venues). Anyway, I start thinking, well...maybe I'll give him the benefit of the doubt and at least wait until he does get back, have one drink, sit across from him, see if there is anything there. After all, 99.9% of all of this has been online and in a highly volatile environment (him where he was). Ok fine.
He's in Germany, waiting for his flight to leave (he comes back tomorrow) and he sends me an email. Then another, and each one is getting more perverse. Again, I'm not a little kid or being a prude, but that isn't a line we have crossed (in person or otherwise). It's just not something I'm into, I know it's common nowadays, but I prefer to keep communication at the innuendo level, and don't really like vulgarity from someone I'm not familiar with. Then he proceeds to send me a picture of his privates!!! I'm wondering if he was drunk, because he's talking in ways he'd never talked like before, and pretty much acting like a player and talking to me like a booty call of sorts! So, I finally email him and politely say that all I really want is to maybe have a drink with him, and that the tone of his emails is awfully suggestive considering we haven't even had a chance to "re-meet" each other and get to know each other. His response (written very badly with a lot of wrong words which makes me really think he's drunk) is that I really know how to over think everything and that I need to lighten up and that he's traveling and to stop analyzing, he's going to be (his words) home soon.
I'm stunned, and am pretty sure I'm going to email him that I didn't word my first email right, and that I don't appreciate being talked to like a whore by someone who (obviously) has no respect for me, and not to even bother when he gets home.
I'm willing to listen to honest guys input, I know people in general when drunk and stressed can say stupid things, but it seems to me, this has crossed a line and is unforgivable? I'd be an idiot to even see this guy, right? I'm so mad, because it really seemed like we had a lot going for us, and I'm mad that I couldn't even get that one date to at least TRY in person!
He's in Germany, waiting for his flight to leave (he comes back tomorrow) and he sends me an email. Then another, and each one is getting more perverse. Again, I'm not a little kid or being a prude, but that isn't a line we have crossed (in person or otherwise). It's just not something I'm into, I know it's common nowadays, but I prefer to keep communication at the innuendo level, and don't really like vulgarity from someone I'm not familiar with. Then he proceeds to send me a picture of his privates!!! I'm wondering if he was drunk, because he's talking in ways he'd never talked like before, and pretty much acting like a player and talking to me like a booty call of sorts! So, I finally email him and politely say that all I really want is to maybe have a drink with him, and that the tone of his emails is awfully suggestive considering we haven't even had a chance to "re-meet" each other and get to know each other. His response (written very badly with a lot of wrong words which makes me really think he's drunk) is that I really know how to over think everything and that I need to lighten up and that he's traveling and to stop analyzing, he's going to be (his words) home soon.
I'm stunned, and am pretty sure I'm going to email him that I didn't word my first email right, and that I don't appreciate being talked to like a whore by someone who (obviously) has no respect for me, and not to even bother when he gets home.
I'm willing to listen to honest guys input, I know people in general when drunk and stressed can say stupid things, but it seems to me, this has crossed a line and is unforgivable? I'd be an idiot to even see this guy, right? I'm so mad, because it really seemed like we had a lot going for us, and I'm mad that I couldn't even get that one date to at least TRY in person!
Posted by amethyst2002
Dude's lost interest. I went through the same bs with my ex.
Step 1- They're interested and come on STRONG. Talk of relationships and future stuff. Kinda blows you away.
Step 2- They settle down and you guys sort of hit that neutral, comfort level. Things seem fine.
Step 3- They do a 180 and you're wondering wtf is going on. Something is up and it's usually their scales tipping and they're trying to balance and reevaluate things. Like you said, they're seeing how you fit into their life at this point. Is it a stay or a go?
Step 4- If they realize that you're something that they want to keep, they'll go back to normal. If not, it's over. You're just going to get strung along at this point. They don't want to be the bad guy in the situation, so they string you along for all the wrong reasons. Mostly to save face value.
Your situation is textbook. You were right in giving him space. It'll do YOU some good because it's not fair that you get sucked into the indecisive, confusing bs. There are times I wish I'd been the one to break things off first because maybe I wouldn't have been left without any closure and so much confusion. If you leave the decision making up to a Libra like this, it's just... a pain in the ass.
There is a chance he may come back around after this, but you might want to stay objective in order to clearly see how things are. Sometimes Libras have no effing idea what they want and if you get sucked in, then the situation just turns into a confusing clusterfuck. It makes it harder to do the right thing in the long run.
How long had you guys been dating before he did the 180?
i can only say...................
libras should never be near violence
not good warriors..
let other signs kill each other
it will drive any true libra bonkers
libras should never be near violence
not good warriors..
let other signs kill each other
it will drive any true libra bonkers
Posted by Liberal777Libra
i can only say...................
libras should never be near violence
not good warriors..
let other signs kill each other
it will drive any true libra bonkers
======libras can be soldiers, if the cause is justified..
Posted by amethyst2002
Dude's lost interest. I went through the same bs with my ex.
Step 1- They're interested and come on STRONG. Talk of relationships and future stuff. Kinda blows you away.
Step 2- They settle down and you guys sort of hit that neutral, comfort level. Things seem fine.
Step 3- They do a 180 and you're wondering wtf is going on. Something is up and it's usually their scales tipping and they're trying to balance and reevaluate things. Like you said, they're seeing how you fit into their life at this point. Is it a stay or a go?
Step 4- If they realize that you're something that they want to keep, they'll go back to normal. If not, it's over. You're just going to get strung along at this point. They don't want to be the bad guy in the situation, so they string you along for all the wrong reasons. Mostly to save face value.
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Right on the dot chica. You have this sign locked down!!
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