Small development with Mr. Libra!!!

Hello World...T-G-I-F-F

So I went to the gym yesterday and figured that I would probably not see my guy.

Why? Because after about an hour, I was stretching...and he still hadn't gotten there which is unlike him.

But then about 3 minutes later, like an angel he appeared and funny enough walked towards the weight section and looked straight at the stretching area...at first our eyes met and then I looked away but then I thought it was non sense so I looked back and waved hello!

I stayed an extra 5 minutes and then I picked up my basket ball and went to see him to say bye!

We walked towards the stretching area and I made a faint...like as if I was going to throw the ball at him...and then he said...what you don't trust me...so then I did throw the ball...and he showed me some of his old tricks and then he asked me to show him what I knew...I showed him a few things...which he was impressed by...anyways...we talked and talked about random stuff..and then I picked up all the courage in me to ask him if he'd be willing to run with me this week-end...


So technically he has said yes...but his big concern is that it will be too hot out and that he doesn't want to push his self too much with this unbearable heat wave we're going through...we're at like 104 celsius including the humidity factor...so then I said...but at the mountain there is quite some shade...anyways...I could see that he was feeling bad not being 100% sure about the whole ordeal...and then as if he was feeling bad enough..I added that I would take it personal if he didn't go to the mountain...so then he looked at me very emotionally and said: No..please don't take it like that...it's the heat! And then I said..oh well...think about it...let me know tomorrow. LOL.

I felt so bad making him suffer...I hope he knows that I was kidding...I mean I was trying to be as playful as possible...I mean if he really can make it because of the weather I won't make a big fuss about it...I probably won't even go for the run...lol...

Anyways...I hope to see him tonight...unless he doesn't show up just to avoid me than I would seriously take it personal...He needs to at least man up and be able to hold it!!!

What do you guys think...does that seem a bit more positive!

Oh he is so cute..following the flow of compliments...He also added that I was in shape!! Because I said that I had to work harder and improve lots of things!

Sounds encouraging to me and I agree with amethyst about not running in that kind of heat! Yikes! That's really hot and can lead to dehydration with a quickness!
I hope it blossoms into what you are hoping for because it seems like he's interested in you. 🙂

So I did go for a run under the sun.

My Libran showed up on time as usual..so at least that one good thing..but then he almost begged me not to hold it against him for not going for the run...which I didn't but still thought was lame of him heat or no heat!

Why...because on Friday when I did try to confirm with him and he just couldn't bear the idea of running in the sun I asked another guy friend whom said "YES, SURE" right away...that other guy even went on saying send me ur # on FB in front of my Libran...

My Libran seemed to be fine with the whole thing...

Anyways point is I did go for a run with that other guy...it was freaking hot but after it felt amazing...not to mention that I have way too much energy...when we went to work out together the other guy and I...he was dead...and I was running around doing my weights!!! lol...quite funny...

So on Sunday my Libran said that he admired my competitiveness...he thought that he demonstrated discipline, drive and will...

Man this guy isn't afraid of sugar coating things...only thing is that I am starting to find him a bit boring (he said it himself...he isn't interesting)...not because I am any better...but simply because I just feel he isn't making any effort to be more interesting...or maybe I JUST DON'T KNOW how to appreciate him.

I have to say that when a guy flatters you or compliments you too often...I feel like you could end up feeling superior than him...like he is putting you on a pedestal...I mean that shows how bad his self perception is!

Yes, Libra men have a tendency to put women we like on a pedestal. Yes, if we pick the wrong person they will end up feeling superior and loosing interest/ taking advantage of it.

He still doesn't know what you want, and it sounds like you don't either. It is uncommon for a Libra to actively chase someone. He will show his interest and then wait for you to make a move. He got negative responses from you on your trip to the mountains so he backed off some. When you remained interested he started trying to figure you out. Now you ask him to go for a run and due to the temperature he declines (104 degrees is a good reason to pick a different activity). So rather than compromising with him, which is very important to us, you took the jealousy route and asked another guy to go with you... right in front of him! Frankly I am surprised he showed up wherever you where starting the run from. It shows he is VERY interested. If he wasn't he would have walked when you brought in competition like you did.

Libras typically need to KNOW we are liked. No subtle hints, we won't get it. If you play games with us we will generally take it as a solid negative statement.

As for the comments that "I just feel he isn't making any effort to be more interesting..." Why should he try to impress you? I am not asking this to be mean, but seriously? He has no idea that you think about him as often as you do. He has no idea any of the things you have said he about how great he is. Even if he did, why should he change? Either you like him for who he is, faults and all, or you don't. Theses are habits or personality traits that you would be foolish to try and change.

Lets look at this from his point of view... what does he know?

- A girl talks to me at the gym a lot. (people talk to us everywhere)
- I like her but doubt she likes me. (low self-esteem)
- She asked me to go to the mountains with her, maybe she does like me. (Good sign!)
- While there she recoils from my touch and said I am silly for putting an arm around her waist. (BAD sign!)
- I need to slow down and figure this out. (I told you we have to KNOW what is going on and we will debate it internally forever)
- She still talks to me. Maybe it isn't all bad. (Hot and cold games aren't good to use on us)
- She wants to go for a run but its way too hot this weekend, I can't. (He is too shy/indecisive to suggest and alternative)
- What! I said it's too hot and instead of suggesting something else she asked someone else!

@LibraSid

1. First of all I want to thank you for reading this post! It's always great to get feedback from a Libran!!!
2. Second...I love love love your insight...very true and very smart...why because you try to understand both sides of the situation...
3. Third...I love how you envisionned the one he could be perceiving my actions...I was laughing on my own...because I am probably just as insecure as he is!!! It would probably make it easier for me would he come across this post and read it to realize how crazy I am over him!!!! lol

Ok so I agree...that I didn't act the best way possible...but let's face it it's very hard for me to know what he really wants or is looking for unless I ask him in a direct manner.

What makes it even harder is that when I proposed for the run, he didn't propose something else...why not...I mean...I really needed to work-out and honestly thought that it would be the best excuse to see each other...When I asked him what he would prefer doing he went on saying I usually do stairs..but I know that you don't like doing them and then I said well I could...I don't really mind...to which he said...I really don't want to force you, I know it's not your thing...
but he said it in a way that he basically didn't want me to just be around him...

I GUESS THIS UPCOMING WEEK END....I'll give it one last chance. I will ask him to go for Ice Cream...and I really mean that would be it...if he doesn't want to then I'll know for a fact that he isn't interested unless he tells me he is busy and post-pones it to a given date...I mean if he doesn't try to follow up on the invitation...I will be forced to admit that he really isn't interested...and probably just wants to be friends at this point...although he has a very funny way of showing his friendship!

Don't you agree with me LibraSid?? I agree that I haven't been the easiest person to deal with...I must have confused him with my back and forth...don't get me wrong...when I said that he wasn't that interesting...I didn't mean to bash him...it's just by constantly reminding me that he isn't as great as me or as interesting I will end up believing that!

Ok hun,you must be the most toned woman in your town/city/village. Wow alot of gym session.🙂
In regards to you asking someone to go running with you,even if your libra was going green with envy,he would not show it.
This always fustrates me and i guess it fustrates you too.
Water signs tend to associate jealousy with love/deep connection.
From my understanding of libra men: they will show interest in you,but then back away and expect you to seal the deal.
They definetly dont want you to flirt or have eyes for anyone else. So if you are interested in him,keep it neutral with your other gym buddy,because you will push him away (definetely speaking from experience here)
They can be so indecisive-so please start making the decision. With librans at times you just have to make the decision.
Example: Hey there is this show on at the theatre,as a treat for been a consistent gym buddy have got us tickets. So shall we meet at 8pm on friday?
Less open question. Libras are flirts/charmers,but as a scorp am sure you can tell if his compliments are genuine.🙂
And finally stop pushing him to go running,he's not up to it and its only higlighting differences that will possibly drive a wedge between both of you.
There is definetly something there,it just need moving from lukewarm to hottt!!

I wasn't saying any of it to make it seem like you are hard to deal with. Just pointing out that WE are hard to deal with for most women. Most guys are much more forward than we are and it can be tough to understand us sometimes. We can take any small negative sign as a big one. Our indecisiveness is often viewed as us being weak or disinterested, it is very different. If he wasn't interested he would let you know, very clearly.

As for your comment,

"When I asked him what he would prefer doing he went on saying I usually do stairs..but I know that you don't like doing them and then I said well I could...I don't really mind...to which he said...I really don't want to force you, I know it's not your thing..."

He is a Libra... that's what we do. He had ideas of things you guys could have done but he is afraid to suggest them because you not liking one of his ideas is a form of rejection. The only interactions you guys have had is exercise related. You meet at the gym, the one time you went out was a mountain hike, then you wanted to run with him. Your idea of going for ice cream is good, anything to get out of the exercise environment. Once he gets more comfortable he will start making small suggestions.


FemmeScorpion is correct in this: Make a decision for him. Tell him what you are going to do. A movie is good, an art museum, a dinner theater, anything but exercise/running/hiking/tennis... relax with him some.

She is right on the money here as well,
"In regards to you asking someone to go running with you,even if your libra was going green with envy,he would not show it... From my understanding of libra men: they will show interest in you,but then back away and expect you to seal the deal.They definetly dont want you to flirt or have eyes for anyone else. So if you are interested in him,keep it neutral with your other gym buddy,because you will push him away"

He has shown interest in you. Now he wants to know if you are interested. And no, we don't typically show jealousy, if the relationship is just forming like your is we'd generally walk away if we don't feel "safe". Remember we like to avoid conflict.

Oh and "...but let's face it it's very hard for me to know what he really wants or is looking for unless I ask him in a direct manner."

Then ask him directly. Say, "Hey, I like you and want to get to know you better. How about I take you to lunch Saturday". He has shown interest, your turn.

Bahahahaha!!! You guys are killing me...I mean seriously...lol

I will try to pick myself up and manage to at least accomplish asking him to go for ice cream this week-end!!!

I'll wait until we hit friday and then I will see if he is free to go!

I'll surely keep you posted!!! Thanks a bunch guys for your feedback! VERY MUCH NEEDED AND APPRECIATED!!!


xox to both of you! 🙂

Touche @ Librasid,it took trial and error but its not that hard to understand the libra male once you've dealt with him.
I can see scorpsage situation clearer because i am not in it,but i tend to get all tied up/confuse/intense when its me.
Scorpsage suggest a venue away from the gym....and allow the sparks to fly.🙂

touche?

We are really easy to understand once you know how to read us we are just very different from most others so it takes some getting used to. It is actually kind of sad how easy it can be for someone to control us too. Display the behavior you want from him, he WILL mirror it unconsciously.

I think everyone has the same problem (at least to some extent) when it is them in the middle of it. I can tell people how to respond to things or what someones action may mean... until it is me wondering. Then I am lost.

Mmmmm i should follow my own advice more often.
I really want scorpsage n the libra to hit it off. The libra guy can be quite a puzzle,one momemt he is really hot for you. The next he acts as though you dont exist. Its just the way of a libra man...they need space at times to do their thing.lol

Thanks for the positive vibes guys!

I totally hear ya! I am the exact same way...I can give pretty good advice if I am not implicated in the situation...but once I'm in it...I become blind...I lose touch with reality.

I feel you FemmeScorpion...because I know how passionated we can be and how hard it can be for us to understand space, distance without associating it with lack of interest...

But I am also fortunate to have both my moon and my rising as fire signs...I guess it helps tone down the passion to a tolerable level...I can stand distance and independence because I need it as well.

@Librasid...yes interpreting one's body language or verbal language can become grewsome especially when we are caught in the midst of it.

So jealous,i hate my moon in pisces,too much intensity.
Scorpsage am happy to provide insight or any advice i can give.
Will it be easy with your libra:No
But if you take it slow,when its getting too intense step back,then it will be fine.
🙂