So confused. Help!

Ok I have a question. Well a few. I'm totally infatuated with a Libra man. Long story short, he used to have a girlfriend, I used to hit on him all the time. They broke up, not cuz of me LoL, they broke up two months ago. He hurts, but doesn't hurt that much obviously, cuz he sleeps with me. Anyway, I'm crazy about him. He knows this. He tells me to give him some time to be single and free so to speak. I understand. I don't expect him to jump into a relationship with me right after that. I got it. Anyway, he seems to play with my mind quite often. Flirting with me, giving me mixed signals. When I give in and ask to see him, he has been rejecting me lately. But he will continue to flirt with me and string me along. But then rejects me when i give in?! Why does he do this? Does he enjoy the attention? Does he like torturing me!? Anyway, I kind of said some things to him last night that was a bit of a guilt trip. I in a way feel I shouldn't have cuz I gave him all the power in the world in what I said to him. But on the other hand- I basically told him I'm throwing the towel in. I have chased him for almost two years now. He's finally single, and he keeps me his dirty little secret and I'm just tired of it. I want to know now that I'm backing off, I know eventually he will be back! This sorta thing has happened between us before. I guess I wanna know why does he keep coming back? Does he actually like me at all? Or does he just want to keep me around? He's an extremely private person, and doesn't like mixing business with pleasure and I think it reallybugs him that we work together. But still, it's killing me thatwe can't even be "friends" at work cuz people may"find out". I'm justtired of it. Any insight from the Libras?? 😢

whenever i see some thread with a title confused from a non libra, i just wonder if they have no idea how confused we ourselves are. lol...

LMAO...aint that the truth!!!!

Being a veteran in relationshiips/marriage with Librans. If there wasn't something about you he didn't like, he wouldn't keep coming back. However that doesn't mean he thinks you are RELATIONSHIP material. Meaning he can care for you and even love you, but not be "in love" with you. Librans are kind and considerate to all those who they care for. This can be confusing if you don't know how they think.

Yeah he used to be really into me! But I think since I'm so "available" to him, he is getting bored with me :-/ This has happened before where I don't talk to him for like a month, then all of a sudden he's back asking me to hang out again. So I assume this will happen again..But yes it's VERY one sided for the time being..I just thought Libra guys liked to be chased? All the reading I have done on them says they love attention! See me- on the other hand hate being chased. I guess that's where we are "opposites" huh? lol I'm going to leave him be for now, nothing else I can do. I think I pissed him off last time we were together lol I know it takes a lot to piss off a Libra- but if anyone can do it- an Aries can! lol I think I've pissed him off in the past too- he gets over it. And Virgo_Libra- it's so funny you say "has he put a spell on me" cuz sometimes I really think he has! lol He's on my mind day and night! I once told him that I think he may have put a spell on me, and he replied with "Oh yeah? I think your crazy!" lol

So you guys are basically saying to me he very well COULD come back to me? And if not- let it go..I understand..He just keeps coming back when we fight, I'm too persistant, he's not..I want him 24/7, he wants space, I'm pushy, he's not. I can make up my mind in a heartbeat, he takes forever. I trulyhave met my most frustrating match EVER! Everything he does, I do the opposite..Sometimes I can't understand how on Earth Libra's and Aries make a relationship work? I read a lot about the two together and it's supposed to be a wonderful relationship, IF there is balance there. So far all we balance is sexually lol

Aries are WAY too persistent compared to Libra. And we love the chase; HATE waiting for someone to pursue, but that's what Libra do.

CasperAries,

I am sorry that you are going through such a frustrating time with your male Libra. I am a female Libra and have only had one experience with an Aries. He was persistent while trying to get my attention until he eventually got it. Then it seemed he became restless after awhile and was with an ex lover during our relationship.

The last thing I remember was being at a party and trying to find him as he had slipped away. I started t walk around the side of the house to look for him, well I certainly found him. His friend tried to stop me before I turned the corner but I went ahead anyway. What I found was my boyfriend in the arms of another woman and they were engaging in a long series of kisses. I closed the distance between us and stood there for a moment watching. When I asked him what the hell he thought he was doing, and if he was having a good time, he was speechless for a minute. I then stated that I was leaving and he could find his own way home as I had driven us there. He followed me stumbling all over himself trying to apologize for his actions. He did get in my car and I drove him home realizing that he was pretty drunk. Anyway he passed out in my car by the time I got him home, and did not respond to my requests for him to exit my car. I was so upset at the time I simply opened his door and planted my feet against him. It took me a little bit but I pulled him out of my car and he landed in the gutter after trying to stand for a moment. I am not proud to say this but I left him there and called his room mates to come outside and get him. Why am I sharing this story with you, only because it seems that there is a very real possibility that you may find yourself in a similar situation with this man you are so crazy for.

Please don't misunderstand my intention as I am not trying to imply anything in particular about Aries men. I just wanted to share my experience in a situation where I was allot more invested than he was in our relationship. The first betrayal was hard enough, but the second one up close and personal like that was simply to much to dismiss.

The advise you have received is pretty sound I would have to say about letting go and waiting. I only caution you with the fact that you may find yourself in a similar situation as mine. And that will cause allot of pain for you believe me given the time you have already invested.

Try to open your mind to the very real possibility that he may pursue someone else la

Twinflame- thanks for sharing :-) I understand what you are saying. It's just that I think in reality sometimes, it's not just cuz of what sign you are but what gender lol Nothing against men or anything but they are more prone to screwing things by cheating. They possess hormones we don't lol Anybody that cheats I have no tolerance for. I have never cheated on someone I loved, or even dated. If I ever felt I was going to or wanted to, I would end the relationship, cuz that says to me- this guy is NOT the one if my eyes are wandering. But I get what your saying. If I had this guy, I would never cheat on him. I just don't believe in it. I have decided to back off, even though today- he seems to be all smiles again with me- so I guess he's over it.

and leokitten- i know what your saying- you and everybody else in my life has said the same thing to me! I am too available for him, it's just hard to say no to someone who you find so irresistable. I should be a stronger person, I know this. It's amazing, I have NO problems with telling every other guy in the world NO, but with him it's like I'm under some spell. I plan on leaving my job soon- so this should come way easier for me. Btw I'm not leaving cuz of him lol I'm leaving to finally persue my dream career :-) But I guess I'm just hoping to get some strength up to deal with this. I really like the guy and just wish I could start over. I think I can, just need some time apart, and second time around I gotta not be so "available"

They do come back and if he does, he will expect the same situation that have been betweent the two of you up until now: Casual. It is up to you to be serious about wanting more with him and if he doesn't move on.

yep what QS said....problem is, once the sex is removed, they're gone in a flash....you dont want him coming back just for sex....you want more and you DESERVE more....as QS said, he will be back, but he'll expect what he's been getting. You'll have to be very strong to resist. good luck with that coming from somebody (yup me) who invested a year in a Libra guy who wouldn't/couldn't commit....WTF?? LOL