So should I have sex with this Libra guy?

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This is my first experience with a Libra. Two months ago we met on a dating app. It was 5am and we were messaging each other a bunch of funny things. We knew I was nearby him (less than 3 miles) so he invited me over and I went. We hung out for the rest of the night / morning? And talked. I don't remember much but I was talking more than him lol. Then we started cuddling, kissed a bit and I slept there but I went home after.

I had strep throat but didn't have symptoms at the time. So we both got sick and I appologized a bunch, I felt really bad about getting him sick. We texted off and on since then but he was sick, then busy with school and work so I just let him go for days at a time. At some point I told him I am into kinky sex, that I am submissive in bed and he really liked it. He asked me a bunch of questions on it over a few days. I basically told him we would have sex if we met again, but he didn't seem to want to meet. I figured he was just using me for entertainment when he was bored so I gave him a lot of space and didn't psuh anything. He stopped talking to me altogether.

Then a month later he messages me out of the blue on snapchat saying he lost my number. I sent him my number. The first thing I told him was that I didn't want to move so fast since we had already talked about sex a lot. It's almost like he took that as a challenge because suddenly he was super interested again asking a bunch of sex questions even though this time I held back more. He really seems to want to meet me but only if it's garunteed that we will have sex. When I tell him that we should just see where it goes, etc, he loses interest. The vibe I got from the questions was that he was trying to figure out what I like, so when we have sex he is comfortable trying it, since he hasn't done kinky stuff before. (I am 22 he is 25).

I don't know anymore lol. If we meet should I hold back and not have sex or just have sex with him if it feels right? I don't really want a serious relationship right now but I don't want him to lose all interest in me if I am too easy. Libra's say they lose interest after being given sex... but I also don't want him to feel rejected and I want to make him comfortable so we can try kinky together! I hear Libra's are good at kinky. I don't know what to do now! >_> Since meeting him I decided not to tell guys I am kinky until after we have had sex a few times to avoid this kind of thing. It's not that big of a deal! But I already did it with this guy, so I am trying to salavage it!
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Well I have been doing FWB with another guy for 6 months. We can never do a regular relationship because he has a kid and a religion. But we are best friends and I love him in a pretty chill way. He is moving next month and it's sad, but I know we will stay in touch and visit, so it's not breaking my heart or anything. I dunno. I know I can handle FWB after that experience. It actually works well for me. I'm looking for soemthing casual and easy I guess. It's just hard to find a decent guy into it and it's hard to get past the initial "dating" stages, without coming across as slutty but staying true to myself and what I want.
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You need to be upfront with him about it. There are certain red flags here that suggest he may want only a one night stand but who knows for sure. What does his profile on the dating app say he's looking for? Also, keep in mind that people are rarely fully honest upon meeting someone especially through a dating app, so take what he claims about his sex experience with a grain of salt. And please don't worry whether or not you're making him feel rejected, especially since he hasn't shown that same courtesy to you.
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I think the real question isn't - should I have sex with him. If it was that simple my answer would be a resounding. God Yes.
The real question is - do you want to have sex with him more than once. In which case, my answer would be start building slowly on what you've got so far.
And stop over thinking things with this guy and just be yourself, open and honest every time with a Libra will work wonders 🙂
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Posted by wagtail
I think the real question isn't - should I have sex with him. If it was that simple my answer would be a resounding. God Yes.
The real question is - do you want to have sex with him more than once. In which case, my answer would be start building slowly on what you've got so far.
And stop over thinking things with this guy and just be yourself, open and honest every time with a Libra will work wonders

Sounds about right.
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Posted by AriesinPain
lol so yeah. As soon as he THOUGHT he had convinced me to have sex he lost interest again. He was just trying to win the challenge. No biggie, I think I was too haha. Okay I am done with these games crap. I really see what they are about now. What a waste. It's not Libra's though, it's just younger guys in general. They seem to think of women as objects instead of people.
Yeah, pretty much.

It's that "what can I get from you?" mentality.