Teenagers: Gods Revenge!

One of lifes biggest joys, and frustrations is having a child with an extremely high IQ. I mean just try to impliment anything resembling discipline for overt acts of non compliance for the boundries that have been set.

And you dont get a child pleading with you to please let him bend the rule just this once, oh no! You get a whole lithany of reasons and explanations as to why it would be the right thing to let them do. And that it would be in your best interest to allow the one time compromise.

Its disconcerting to have a conversation with a fourteen year old where you feel that your losing ground not gaining it. Now throw in an extremely stubborn mind set behind the request, and you wind up at a complete stand off (or a mini power struggle, if you will).

This young person has the capability to match wits with, and then out manover you if you are not careful. Simple reasoning just doesn't work here this much I have already discovered. Please dont missunderstand me this is a very good kid I am refering to. There has not been any of the usual list of problems that most teenagers today can fall prey to involved. Like smoking, or experimenting with drugs/alcohol etc. He does not purposely lie or stay out late at night past curfew. Thats a substantial statement concidering I am a divorced mom that has raised him alone from the age of eighteen months.

Here's what I am trying to get at, just what may be the best course of action for a parent to take in dealing with this young person that may have a positive effect. And can produce the desired acceptance or reaction from them? I was Just hoping for some creative suggestioins regarding this issue, as it has become more difficult to interact with him as he gets older. He feels he is worldly wise beyond his years, and he could not be more mistaken. His apparent nievety eludes him I am affraid, and his cognitive reasoning abilities have not developed yet as bright as he is. He of course can not see this as a truth or fact, and feels he should be delt with in an adult like manor pertaning to relevent issues.

Any suggestions, or ideas would be welcome and appreciated.
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TW2

Sorry for any typo's like Litany. and any others I may have missed. I understand the meaning most times but sometimes miss the correct spelling a little. And lets not even go into how much I can massacere the english/grammar issue, as it has never been one of my strong points, lol! 🙂 :*

Funny, I had a professor (leo sun and mercury, aquarius moon, vensu, mars, and jupiter in cancer). This guy used to tell us stories about how he could argue his way out of anything using common sense/logic. Now his parents were not as educated, but we are college student and couldn't kee up with him.

As long as your son isn't doing the wrong thing, let him live a little. All parents had to go through it- I'm not as logical, but still broke them down, lol. You are still the parent and make the rules. However, if you dont let him do what he wants (within reasonable limits) once in a while, he will find ways to rebel: trust me. He'll ened up lying and getting into worse trouble.

I'm not a parent yet. but, I just turned 24 so it wasn't that long ao i was a teen. As much as adults try to protect kids, you can only do so much. Alot of it is out of your control. You just have to believe in the good out there and know that yu instilled values nto your son. He will do the right thing in the end. Good luck🙂

Oh I know what you say is so true and right on target. Its just that if I do say no to something he will challenge me in his true stubborn Leo type way. He can be fairly relentless in his conquest for getting is way thats all, as he is a very strong willed young man.

As I guess all teenagers can do, its just so exasperating sometimes thats all. He uses such advanced logic in his argument that I find myself having to defend my position at times, lol. Even when I can provide examples of past failures to follow through with a similar situation or request.

And I am also refering to him wanting to do something that will ultimately lead to an undesirable end result, like wanting to stay up real late on a school night. And knowing full well he will not be willing to get up in the morning and go to school because of fatigue.

I guess what I am trying to convey is that it is very difficult for him to accept my positon as he feels he knows whats best, and that he is not always right in what he is requesting to do. He thinks he will be able to follow through with what he promisses he will if I say ok, but that is not the reality of the end result sometimes, and I have to make a judgement call while deciding what to do. I do try to be flexable as I do understand that I can not make him feel like he is always under my thumb, but its my job to lead him in the right direction at the same time.

Its a difficult feat to find balance sometimes. Pluss I am the only parent he has to count on as his father is not active in his life at all. Being a female with a male son I sometimes feel it is more difficult to keep an upper hand on any situation as the male female issue comes into play, thats all.

Thanks for your post it gave me some things to think about, I appreciate the imput.

TW2

I also am basing my stance on the fact that I have given him what he wants before and have seen the following result. Most times it winds up just as I have already stated it will in the end. (and it's not favorable)

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Sorry TW2...I wish I could help you but I don't have any children. Your topic name was so funny that I had to read it. Good luck!

Cancerlady

At this age any human is beginning to relise themselves and what they are, want, and need. Please give him this. When he does wrong if he knows what he did and does not want it to happen again, he learned somthing he would take years more if you lock him in his room till he is 18.

Give him some room,he proabably wants to figure stuff out,and he's probably going to do it with or without your permission anyways.Not saying that he's a bad kid or anything but does he have teachers complain that he acts up or anything?I know some one who was like that too and the leeway is actually thier suggestion thier sitting in the same room I am at the moment.The person in particular has been hooked up to brainwave machines and catscans to show that he has an overactive brain to the point that he can be listening to the radio,watching a movie,playing game boy and working on math in his head and be accurate and completely aware of whats happening in all of those things at once.This person would get in trouble alot at school because he already knew everthing they were trying to teach him,he'd taught himself a couple of years earlier and was bored.His mom and dad also had those similar complaints about him when he was a child.He thinks the only way to do this one is to let him do it,except of course something that might kill him,lock in bedroom,nail windows shut situations.If he messes up time to treat him like an adult,he didn't hold up his part of the bargain he takes the responsablity of the punishment.Responsability is part of being an adult.