LAID OFF...

This topic was created in the Libra forum by sloane on Monday, June 17, 2002 and has 69 replies.

What to Do After Being Laid Off

Being laid off can be challenging, but it is a chance to reassess your goals and skills. Focus on updating your resume, networking, and exploring new opportunities. Stay positive and proactive to improve your chances of finding a better fit in a tough job market.

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@sloane
21 Years1,000+ Posts

Yes folks, reality sucks again. I was laid off and now I have to hit the pavement again so to speak in a quest for another freakin' job! I absolutely can't stand looking for work. The market is bad out there...
Anyone else get laid off?

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Why are they lookin to hire there if they are cutting back?? Just a nice way to say your fired? At least you can get your unenjoyment benefits! Sorry to hear it!

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Sloane,

As much as you dislike getting a new job, you didn't deserve what they did to you, and you'll find a better one where they will appreciate and respect you. If I were you, I would get your benefits and as soon as they kicked in, I would set my revenge plot against those bastards. I don't mean go postal or anything, but there has to be something you can do. Like slander that b**** or whatever. I could never let someone get off that easy!!! That's the Scorp in me I guess!

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@sloane
21 Years1,000+ Posts

I am pretty relieved that I am leaving this company--it's not a good atmosphere and lately I haven't been enjoying the job, however, I am a bit hurt--I will admit. I just want something much better. The company is having financial problems so I'm not too surprized.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Sloane,
Sometimes these things happen for a reason, its natures way of looking after you. It sounds to me like the woman you were working for was a b.... so now she is left with her own venemous self, let her rot in hell...!
If you are skilled and qualified you shouldnt have any probs getting another job. My experience in the workplace is this:
NEVER reveal personal details, ALWAYS save for a rainy day and know more about them than they know about you.
Also, when you sense something is amiss, look elsewhere for work.

Most of all, dont take it to heart, its an opportunity for change... 🙂
ML.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Well said 203!! My pops always told me, since I was 15 and started working, don't hang around the water cooler and if you do get caught next to it, try to make the weather sound interesting.
Sloane sounds like she knows how to carry herself!

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@sloane
21 Years1,000+ Posts

ML, thankyou for your response and you're right, but I NEVER told her anything about me personally except for a medical condition that she insited that I tell her about. Believe me, I didn't want to go into it. I don't gossip at all, although she does quite frequently and I know she talks about me and others. I think I am a model employee: I come in on time EVEY DAY, I do what I'm told, I don't give any lip to anyone, I do a good job, am thorough. I will try to not take this to heart like you said. I just don't like being misunderstood by an employer.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Sloane,

You'll find something much better. I know it!!! That woman(your ex-boss) was a heartless bitch, and she needs to have someone more like herself in that position. I wouldn't take it personally. I have had people work for me before, and I would rather have someone who was dependable and showed up everyday than some 'cracker jack' employee.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Hey Sloane,

Do you know what? I think she is jealous of you, woah... she must have been SO threatened if you are such a good employee! Seriously!
Think about it... why else would she dismiss you like that? Forget about her, You have your answer...

Its good that you conducted yourself with the utmost of respect because now you know you did no wrong.
Sloane, walk away with your head held high, she is the one with her head in the mud.
Also, the best revenge is SUCCESS and HAPPINESS so now concentrate all your energies on these two things.
The thing is this; you are angry... I say, deal with the anger, feel it, seethe, fester, let it all out, and then MOVE ON LIKE YOU'VE NEVER MOVED ON BEFORE!!! And dont ever let anybody do this to you again... Go into you next job interview with a bit of 'attitude'. I know its hard, being a libran you think everybody else operates on the 'whats fair' basis but let me tell you (and you've just experienced this), they dont.

I wish there was something you 'had' on her... It would be so good if you could just rip the carpet out from under her feet before you left but then again, REVENGE is a meal best served cold...

Do you know what? Go for it. I hope you get an amazing job and move forward in leaps and bounds.
Goodluck,
seeya,
ML.
PS. Let us know how you go.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

For the post above, I dont know why my number keeps changing, its still me. From now on Ill sign 'ML'. Also, another thing I wanted to say is always make sure you know your rights in the workplace, there are laws covering most types of discrimination etc...
Was this dismissal 'legitimate', what I mean is, was it above the law? Make sure you get the correct amount in your payout, make sure of everything. I was underpaid weekly in one job I had, kept all my payslips and then took them to 'wageline' when I was finished with them. Always excercise your rights.
Seeya,
ML.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

What pisses me off, is she lied.

You confronted the bitch,and she tried to make it seem like you were crazy for asking such a question. In my opinion, she gave you lay off status because she hired someone else and if they don't work out, she can call you back in, until she finds the next sucker!!

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@sloane
21 Years1,000+ Posts

Yyyeepppp, you pretty much summed it up! Geez, youre perceptions are right on! You're good. :-)

Sloane

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@sloane
21 Years1,000+ Posts

PS, ML, I know EXACTLY what you mean about making sure that my paycheck is correct and getting paid, etc. The ONLY reason I am working this week is to ensure that I get paid. They told me last Friday that I was being "laid off" and I will be paid for this week REGARDLESS of whether I work it or not. I asked for this in writing--I even typed up the agreement and asked my superior to sign it--he didn't want to so I thought , OK, they'll lie again so I'll have to work it to get paid. Can't trust 'em.

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@sloane
21 Years1,000+ Posts

I'm back and just want to share one thing that I have learned out of this bad experience:
Women aren't the only ones that gossip and back-stab you in the office--the guys are just the same.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Sloane,

She has some limp- wristed, cock- sucker doing her bidding for her. You may not have a job-- big deal-- you'll get another one. The backstabber has a job, and that's about it!!! Where is the integrity— I'll tell you something else too Sloane, she (your ex-boss) may use that guy (the office snitch), but she won't respect him nor will anyone. I have watched that same senario played out dozens of times. Someone thinks they can get job security by brown nosing. They not only don't get job security, they are hated by the boss and other employees. Yeah, the boss will use him, but they don't respect someone like that!

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

One other thing, keep your head up and a nice smile on your face and keep your cool...go out of there with grace and dignity and get your money you have coming, especially your UI benefits. Didn't you say she got severed with a subpoena? Sounds like she already has some problems. Someone eventually is gonna take the knife out of her hands and use on her! You follow me?

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@sloane
21 Years1,000+ Posts

She wasn't served the subpoena --it was for the company and by the way, how do you know her cohort does bidding?

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Sloane,
I was very sorry to hear of your situation. But, I agree with the others that something better is in store for you. Hang onto that positive vibration! My thoughts are with you!
Star

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Sloane,

This is your scope for today from Astro
Abby--

LIBRA:

For June 19: A gentle, subtle approach this morning creates confidence and closeness. Don't rock the boat or demand instant response. Easy does it. You'll get the cooperation and answers you desire by being polished and gracious. Make sure that facts are delivered truthfully midday, minus fluff and adornment. Be straight up with people. Let them know the bottom line so that they can either make other arrangements or compromise with you. This is not the time to mislead or pander to others' fantasies.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Sloane,

You just said "it's not just the women that gossip the men are backstabbers too." You also mentioned in another post that she has some henchman that works for her and you couldn't trust. I am on your side and you turn into a syour acting like a schizophrenic! No wonder you lost your job, your nuts!

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Just to make it clear that I didn't miss quote you this what I was going on!

"I DID approach her about the calls coming in about MY position and the resumes coming in the fax--not to mention the ad they placed in a magazine--they're not too bright!! She said "don't worry" "you're crazy-don't worry" I think she lied to me all three times--also her henchman sidekick who placed the ad--he lied to me also. I asked around the office--no ne knows what's going on unless they're lying too."

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@sloane
21 Years1,000+ Posts

64, 12...

I'm not trying to be offensive, just had to ask, that's all. Trust me, I'm not nuts. I am quite sane.

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@sloane
21 Years1,000+ Posts

PS, are you also known as 162, 153 " "?? My question was for that person, unless you are the same person??

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

64,
I cant believe you went back and found Sloanes post! Havent you anything better to do?!!!
Sloane, try to look into legal rights regarding your payout, the fairness of your dismissal etc... In some countries, it is illegal to unfairly dismiss, infact, you sometimes need to get 3 written warnings first. In our country, there are rights covering these sorts of things and they are enforced. I only hope there is in yours.
Keep going, you're doing well. Dont let them get to you. Everytime they do simply visualise that guy with his nose up that womens arse (literally) and how funny it looks.
Seeya,
ML.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

As far as me going back and finding someone else's posts, it's really quite easy! It's called total recall, which I have, and which makes me great at research and discovery. 210, if you decide to go into law, you'll need to have more than just an opinion to argue a case you have to have facts too!

That's right your intrests are psychology not law, right.

She wasn't fired she was laid off, big difference. The company has covered their a**. Follow the story, jerkoff!

Anyway, in this country your only protected under EOE laws even if she was fired.

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@VOR
21 Years

Hi Sloane!
I am sorry to hear about what is going on with you....I know how excited you were about the position when you first got it!!! I do feel, in life, when one door closes-another door opens...so, chin up, my friend, it will all work out...I am sure of it!
Take Care!
VOR

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

64,
You are a nasty person with a big problem. You shouldnt kick people while they're down. If you know so much about the law why dont you go into it?
Jerkoff yourself, no class.
I responded to this post to support Sloane, not to be insulted by your dribble, go back to your own site and cause trouble there.
Seeya.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Oh yeah and if i was as pathetic as you i would go back and see all of your posts but i have better things to do. You obviously have no life if you've got to remember everybody's posts!!! Funny.
Also, yes, Im doing psych. Was that comment supposed to hurt me— Cos it didnt. At least Im off my arse doing something with myself instead of spending my time insulting people on the internet.
Good bye you tragic thing. I cant believe you took what i said so seriously when it was said in exasperation. You are truely oversensitive.
seeya,
ML.
Also, when you're talking about what somebody has done its "you're" not "your". Just thought Id tell you that seeing as though you think you're so smart.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

I wasn't kicking Sloane when she was down; I was trying to tell her she was acting crazy and she was! The job obviously is making her a little paranoid. Sloane, as far as your last week of work goes, if you work you will get paid for it, otherwise they are in deep shit! If you don't get any hours then you will receive pay through your benefits. No company would ever sign a document promising you what you wanted them to promise you. It just doesn't happen. 210, If you were paying attention to what she has to say, or anyone for that matter, you would be able to follow along. You don't have to search for my posts just pay attention to what people say. Also, try arguing your point with intellegence and reasoning instead of ignorance and name calling,ya stupid bush whacker!

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@sloane
21 Years1,000+ Posts

205, your initial comments came off hostile I will admit. You need to work on being more sensitive to others-perhaps more tact. Calling me crazy is a bit offensive--do I need to explain? I understand and appreciate ML's support and I have to agree with him/her. And thank you very much too VOR.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

I know you probably didn't like it...but just keep it in mind next time your on the job. We can be our own worst enemies sometimes!

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

There were no "enemies" involved in this situation. It was basically a lay-off due to financial struggle. Yes, I may have been played with but as the saying goes: "time to move on".
S.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

I sort of know what went down. And your right about it being time to go! What I was talking about, was your questioning me about knowing who was playing you and why and about the letter you drew up for them to sign. That's all. I know I have acted the same way when push came to shove, and sometimes it's best not to burn down the bridge; at least get something out of them...like a written recommendation.

I've had plenty of jobs that made me nuts too!

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

210,

what do you care if my life is soooo tragic—!!, and I am such a f*** up; it's none of your businessabout what I do. I am not bothering you. So why do you want to bother me—

Why don't you just worry about your own life and let me do the same. Ok!

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Both of those idiotic statements were from me!!! I am out of here. My family is flying in for the holiday...so go FUCK YOURSELF GOOD DUNKEN BUTT REMERS!!!

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

In addition, WorldCom which owns MCI just laid off 17,000 people. More and more people are losing thier jobs this year so if you DO have a job, count your blessings!

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Is that who you were working for?...there in deep doo doo! Massive fraud. These companies are going like dominos! The old saying about the 'love of money' is totally appropriate here! I heard Worldcom held back information to the tune of 4 billion worth of debt!! How about all the Arthur Anderson employees...not only did they lose their jobs, they got indicted for fraud too! The whole damn company! Something needs to be done and fast! don't think I would work for a big company these days. Oh, and now Wal-Mart has a class action suit for not paying their employees over time. I say good--stick it to them! All the Martha Stewarts in the world need a wake up call; maybe a little jail time would help! Greedy pigs!!!!!!

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@sloane
21 Years1,000+ Posts

In addition to what I have stated that I have gone through, I'll tell you all this: I will never work for a scorpio ever again. This is the third time I have worked for a female scorp and they are absolutely sheer misery to work for. I don't care what anyone says and I don't care who comes running to thier defense--I know what I know and this is the third time around--third time is the charm as the saying goes...I was treated quite badly--like a f*** second class citizen, a doormat and was "looked down upon". Need I say more? I guess perhaps if you're a cancer or a virgo, you can deal with a scorp, but I'm a libra and I've had nothing but trouble with this type. There's always always some b******* they give and what big f*** egos!!! The women I have worked with were suspicious for no good reason, vindictive, cold, egotistical, shallow, very judgemental, overly critical, MANIPULATIVE to the core! (like my last boss)....I could go on.....I don't mean to lash out ant anyone in general people, it's just that I have been REALLY hurt by this last employer and I need to vent. This is how I feel about them and I'm not going to change my mind. My brother is a scorp and I wouldn't want to even work for him. Next time, hopefully my next employer will be male and....not a scorpio.

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@romeclone
21 Years

Sloane, why do you want your next employer to be male? What if he picks his nose a lot and reads porn mags? lol j/k. Anyway, sloane good luck finding a new job, I hope the best for you. And especially good luck at finding a boss that Isn't a Scorpio. Most of my bosses have been Scorps too. They are EVERYWHERE!

romeclone

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@sloane
21 Years1,000+ Posts

Thank you romeclone. The reason I want to work for or with a man is because of reasons that I know or have experienced from past jobs. Men don't fly off the handle about little things on the job and they don't think with thier feelings as woemn tend to do. Also, most men don't get personal with you--like asking you personal questions--especially medical ones like my last nosy, manipulative employer did. And I can't forget this one--this REALLY gets me pissed off about women--sometimes women will play with your emotions--try to get you to answer to thier nosy questions. There are some things that should not be brought up and discussed with employees--my last boss crossed that boundry. In general, I just get along really well with men. Even friends have told me this. It's all good to me so I want my next job to be with someone of my opposite gender. There's no bull and no trouble.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Sloane,

I agree! Not only would I prefer a male boss, I prefer to work with males!
Men do not gossip or criticize others all the time! They stick to the task at hand and do not complain about every little thing! When it is a mixed crew (males and females), it goes best.

Also about Scorpio....I find them to be difficult to understand and (in general) at odds with me...

Best to you in your new quest!
Star

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Thank YOU Star...I'm glad I'm not alone in my beliefs. I will prevail in my job hunt and as for my former boss...if she lost HER job or became infected by some untreatable virus, I wouldn't care. That's how evil she is!

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