the constant darkest hours

so how many of us feel the contsnt drag into Libra's moodiness and dark moments is the deepest dungeon of pain we have ever been dragged into!!!!

I am sick and tired!!!!!!!

I read this description of a libran partner from a website

sorry for any copyright infirngement none intended!

LIBRA (Sep 24 - Oct 23) An astrological guide to pleasing your partner

Your Libran partner has something to share with you. It may not though, be easy to accept their offering. The textbooks give a misleading impression of this sign. They paint a picture of generous people, even tempered, easy going and keen to ensure equal distribution of life's assets and advantages. There's nary a mention of the infamous Libran mood swing, the terrible tendency that Librans have to be too tough on themselves... and the fact that it isn't just 'good stuff' that Librans need to share. It is at least as, or even more, important that they share their uncertainties and anxieties.
This in turn, might not be so bad if there were a limited number of such worries. Librans though, even if they don't drink from the fountain of eternal youth or swim in the ocean of infinite wealth certainly have access to the quagmire of endless dread. Their partners need to understand this and, if only to keep their beloved company, must have a head for heights. Every so often, it will become necessary to accompany them to the edge of the cliff of doom, staring into the dark abyss. Your Libran loved one may want many things but oddly, one of their deepest desires is for a soulmate with whom to share this challenging experience with.

Please though, don't imagine it will ever be necessary to pull them back from the brink. Librans have a way of doing this all on their own. It may though, take great restraint on your part not to fall... or panic. Or, to put it all another way, it's never the light side of this airy and amenable sign that people find it hard to be with. It's the strangely unacknowledged dark, deep aspect of the Libran personality that produces compatibility problems.

If though, you can learn to tolerate, accept, handle and even love this occasional side of your Libran lover, you'll swing together, backwards and forwards forever, from agony to ecstasy enjoying the most exhilarating extremes of both!

I say, it's not worth it!!!

Well they're are the sign of the scales - the eternal quest will be to balance scales...will it ever be balanced? If it gets balanced, then they won't be Libra anymore...

Same goes for the fish swimming in different directions...

All signs just need people to understand and deal with them when it's challenging and not only when it's great...

what do you mean Virgo_Libra ?

are pisceans anything like Librans in this regard!! narcissistic even —

never!!!

Pisceans are complex creatures but one thing we do not do is harm others in search of our underwater complex! we are very much capable of emotional maturity and huge self sacrifice for the people we love... Librans are narcissists when they are down there is nothing else but the Libran scales that are constantly being weighed for no one else but themsleves at the expense of everyone else but themsleves... Im sorry I've just had enough!!!

sorry i'm venting!

again...sorry no offense is meant LOLOL

Well as much as I wont come onto this board to insult or damage the Libran ego, because I love them dearly, I have to agree with the unbelievably dark and dreary places they put themselves from time to time.

My libra ex is a wonderful example and now I truly know I'd have been miserable had things worked out with us because no matter how happy we may have been, he'd have turned to this dark place and Id have been scared out of my mind, ultimately destroying what we did have.

Yes when he got in those moods (well I wouldnt even say it was a mood, more a place), it would all be about him, nothing else mattered, the texts I still have of when he was in such a bad place when he should have been there for somebody else is beyond belief, more so now that Ive had distance, than it did back then. He made hardships he should have endured with another person ALL ABOUT HIM and he now lives with regret of such harsh, cold and cruel words...this I know....so at the end of the day, something that could have been avoided if he had done the "communicating" has given him so many months of pain down the road....all at his own hand. I refused to hold his hand and take that ride with him.

Regrets are very hard to live with sometimes. But again, he'll make it about him. He'll never admit he was wrong and just go on and pretend all is well when in fact, his hermit like ways prove what I already know.

Loved it when he was not in those "places" though.....it was so much fun. Unfortunately though, the bad times over-ruled the good ones and yeah, I know now what I'd have been in for had I stayed.

Its sad given the description of Librans...it truly is...hope they dont all suffer so badly from this gloom and doom 😢

How does one ride those storms? God only knows...a true saint I believe LOL

Your Libran loved one may want many things but oddly, one of their deepest desires is for a soulmate with whom to share this challenging experience with. "

Oddly enough I ultimately ended things with my Picses boyfried of 4 years because he couldn't supply this one thing for me...the emotional support I needed to venture down those darkened paths without fear of being alone when I returned.

I don't know which of us was more egotistical (I don't think narssistic is right) all I know is in the many years we were together -many of them joyful - he depended on me a great deal to pull him from the depths of his extreme and lonely sadness, a feat I was never capable of. When I needed him, he wasn't available for the same offering, he wasn't there at all, unaware of my circumstance even after I asked for help. I don't know if it is the Fish or the Scales, but that fish's sadness is tangible and impossible. I don't envy it at all.

* I say, it's not worth it!!!

Then stop whining about it, break-up with him, and get over it. Seriously.

thank you hun but this is from one of my favourite astrologers of all time

Jonathan Cainer... it's from a subscription section of his website... I thought it was interesting

this has been very enlightening and the responses have helped me understand even better what all this means

and no I can't leave him, I feel a bit of pain in my chest just confessing that... I want to make things work with him and I love him badly deeply

I do leave him now and then though to give him the space he occassionally needs and to avaluate what's good and healthy for me from time to time

but I love him 😢(((((((((((((

darn!

🙂

wow that was a nice compatibility reading, thanks once again 2 sides

You see - I could never understand this - you can't leave him because you love him but are you happy—

It isn't love. It is an emotional discomfort because ego need and ego fear are wrapped up in it. We, as a collective society, (uhoh feel a high-horse coming up. hee hee!) have a very distorted notion of love. We believe love is suffering. It isn't. I blame the musicians.

I don't know. It isn't THAT bad of a description, but it is a bit of an extreme exaggeration. In fact, it sounds like it was written by a water sign. lol!

My mood swings don't last very long. MAYBE an hour or two. And it isn't a depressive thing generally, more of an impatience or frustration. I usually do it with a pretty smile and a sense of humour so it really isn't THAT big of a deal.

The only time I have ever TRULY been depressed has been when I was heartbroken. It can take YEARS and YEARS to get over it. It has nothing to do with being evolved or not evolved. It has to do with being heartbroken.


? Every so often, it will become necessary to accompany them to the edge of the cliff of doom, staring into the dark abyss.

This is the only thing I REALLY disagree with. The one thing that REALLY throws me off and unsettles me is talk about my darker feelings. I do NOT want a partner to go to the edge with me. If they do, they might as well push me off the cliff because I will lose all equilibrium and spend a VERY, VERY long time climbing back up. We are talking years. I much prefer my partner to make light of the situation and make me laugh. If they can do that, they lead me back into the light where I belong. That is why I stand by my earlier claims that Fire and Air signs are the best matches for Libra. The lighter optimistic signs tend to help Libra play out of it; water and earth take everything too serious and want to dwell in the dark places. This unsettles Libra will keep Libra's scales swinging instead of bringing them into balance.

I also have no desire to explore my emotional feces so I find it really weird that in the article above they say we like to do that. We really don't. That is more of a water/earth sign thing.

Perhaps I am alone in thinking this, but we would rather have fun and be happy.

We, as a collective society, (uhoh feel a high-horse coming up. hee hee!) have a very distorted notion of love. We believe love is suffering. It isn't. I blame the musicians.

lol - it's a conspiracy !

I much prefer my partner to make light of the situation and make me laugh. If they can do that, they lead me back into the light where I belong.

Exactly - I find this with my Libra friends too - when they swing both ways, they don't last long but they don't want you to go to the extremes with them...even when we have the most serious conversations, the playful tone's constant

For anyone to suspect i have a dark side, i'd have to be married to her.

haha - or you can just be friends?

and .... your point is?

BTW, I really like that site you suggested earlier. 😄

I don't know about you guys but sorry this describes my Libra to a T! Boy has dragged me to the edge of a cliff many a time and stupid me I panic every time!! But I am learning to accept him for who he is and not to be panic stricken anymore

I have known and seen his dark side since the first moment I laid my eyes on him, I saw it through his distant, penetrating and pain stricken gaze I Just didn't know it would be my destiny to get to know this side of him as well... at the same time I just can't deny that it's part of the package deal I get with him

Whereas I would take my pain and burden silently onto my meditation cushion, he throws it all out there at me for me to see, to feel to experience as he goes through it and it's kind of hard and painful at first

But you learn and grown wiser with age I guess!! LOLOLOL

sorry that was a bit of a rambling

and 2 sides, interesting info about Mr Cainer... I'm all for the controversial types! LOLOLOL ... the more unorthodox, the more original and trust worthy to me... but then that's just me!

again.. sorry to drag this on

but my Libra always always comes back from the dungeon and he apologises in the most healing of ways!

Is it just love blinding me or is it on purpose maybe he does this so he can get back to that place again where he seems so sincere and then I'm smitten with him all over again! LOLOLOL

hmmm complex creatures these Librans .... lol

zenalchemy : happiness is over rated hun! LOL

You know that is the most descriptive things said by a Libra of a LIbra....you truly do all seem much happier in your own company so you can think, think, think....LOL

I love people too much to be a hermit 😛

libras shouldn't read ayn rand books. the btch's philosophy backfired on her ass and she died lonely and bitter.

zenalchemy : happiness is over rated hun! LOL

LOL ! Ha - I think we all have our definitions of happy in that case cos I really like happy ! 😛 I kinda agree with Arianl and LL...Honestly though, I think some people are not happy drama-free ! 😕

Happiness is inner peace.

good definition but yours

can you be happy without inner peace? unless you are demented...

i am fken pain right now. left in the fken dark. my dude has a great job, doing what he loves, he has me... yet, he is fken depressed. no one can get through to him. he is just keeping to himself. not even his friends know what is up with him. i don't bitch to him. he wants his space, so he has it. i come here to vent bc i need an outlet.

Oh my god thinktank1979. Thats intense sweetie. When are these guys gonna learn. You sound like you were amazing girlfriend and just what a libra would need. Whats your sign?

I'm sorry thinktank I know the last thing you need is pity right now

damn hun I hope you can still walk away with something good for yourself you sure sound like a darn good person!

Um okay?

um okay? indeed - lol


can you be happy without inner peace? unless you are demented... since I have no idea what inner peace is - I'll stick to my dementia, thank you very much 😛

Oh no lol. It was @ thinktank1979

lol arianla...mine was at S89...keeping the 'um okay' alive !!! whoohoo

LOL

Good discription