Not ready to be friends yet??

lol

Caught my self !!! Dwelling in the past, better left alone...

Caught my self !!! Dwelling in the past, better left alone...

sorry didn't mean to post twice

Not reaaly much Lucky Libra...I Contacted Libra to see if he wanted to resume friendship..He called me back and said he didn't need the stress or drama of it..So I said Okay if thats the way U feel and we said goodbye..He called back a few hours later and said he thought about what we had talked about and could I call him that night..I called him we talked for about 5 min and he asked me to call him back in an hour, i did, he didn't answer..I left hima message to call me back he didn't..I called him a week later and asked him if having contact was too stressful for him, he said no but he was angry, u could hear it in his voice, and he told me he could'nt talk on his work phone..I got pissed off and said I was still a customer (he's a sales rep for my parents business)
and then he calmed down and talked to me for a few minutes..We got cut off, i called him back and said it was nice talking to him but iweould let him go, he said to call him that night..I didn't..He sounds really angry, I was just wondering if he is not ready to be friends yet??

Probably not.....I waited 8 months to hear from mine again....it was too painful to be friends after our history. I didnt believe everybodys advice that when they love somebody, even though they can't commit, they will come back in time. I wrote him off and then when I least expected it he popped back and wanted to resume a friendship.

Although Im a typical Leo who is so very loyal to those they love, I wanted this more than anything and here it was ready for the taking but 2 weeks after his contact he didnt bother again so I wrote to him and said I couldnt be that girl again, that when all else wasnt around, I'd be his fallback and then it was I who said it was too painful to just be an online friend every few weeks or months. My heart still belonged to him but I had to cut him off, I had to do it for my own sanity and at the end of the day, if he really wnated to be friends, he'd have done all the right things throughout the previous 8 months, not just left me in the lurch.

He doesnt want to be friends because he is protecting you more than anything, he doesnt want you to hurt because you see its YOU who is pushing for the friendship...are you sure you dont want more from him? Leave him be and stay true to your words that you'll do that.......give him the time to miss you, to dwell on things, to go through everything in his head over and over and over again. The more you push, the more you're going to alienate him...trust me LOL

In time, he'll most likely come back in some way. As Im sure my Libra will find a way back because I know he cares deeply for me but for whatever reason, he hasnt been able to commit to anybody since the breakup of his r/ship 3 odd years ago.

There's a reason your Libra doesnt want to be friends right now but that doesnt mean he has pushed you away forever.....He's just simply not ready to take it all onboard right now.

Patience my dear and dont forget to live your life, get on with things - easier said than done but if you start with one thing at a time you'll find it easier and easier.

Im flying to Europe in 4 weeks time for 3 weeks.....thats when I truly hope to get over my Libra.....a year later and Im just not LOL.....how pathetic is that? Sure Ive dated, sure Ive had some awesome changes in my life with work and stuff but he sure is missed from my end, and I know he hasnt moved on - I dont get it.....pretty much like you dont get whey yours cant be friends.........

good luck with it.

(( if you start with one thing at a time you'll find it easier and easier.))

I agree with Chatz. You need to let your Libra be. He knows that you want more then a friendship. And he isn't ready for that.

I am sure that he cares about you... But not like you care about him.With us Leo girls it is all or nothing.

I don't think that I could be friends with my ex-Libra.Because I know that I want "more" from him.It hurts and believe me I miss him. But I made a desion to move on and take it one day at a time.


And I really don't think that you should be friends with someone you still have feelings for. You are setting yourself up for a lot of hurt.e.g. Say you guys are friends and he tells you about some girl he is inlove with and he comes and introduces you to his new girlfriend.... I bet you that you will be hurt all over again. I don't know what the future holds for me and maybe libra will be back or maybe not..... But one thing is forsure I am not sitting around waiting on his coming -and -goings in my life.

Don't live your life on maybes, could have beens and in the pass and he will come around...eventually.

I am not some hateful cow. I really feel for you and I hope that you find someone great and wonderful. Because you deserve it...

The greastest gift a man\woman can give another person is their undivided attention.

meant to say

((Don't live your life on maybes, could have beens and in the past and he will come around...eventually.))

One more thing. It really doesn't matter what sign a man or a woman is. The moment they realise that the grass is not so green on the other side(s) after all. They will be back!

Not interested in a relationship with him, friendship only...But maybe he is not or maybe your both right and he thinks I am interested in more..I have never been intimate with him since he asked me to have his baby and be his family in the middle of sex...He didn't mean it, he knows that and I know that, and he told me he was caught up in the moment..I will not ever forget this even though I have forgiven him..I can't explain how vulnerable and sad him saying that made me feel..I would never have said anything like this to someone who I know loves me, when the feelings are not returned..I understand that he is emotional and obviously cannot control his emotions but I found this to be cruel..And I will never be intimate with him again..

I have cried more in the last year that I think I have in my whole life..I will not be that person again and I will not allow him to hurt me ever again..I do believe he is a good person but I think he was so hurt that I believe he will never trust again, when I broke up with my last boyfriend he said, "see that's what U would have done to me, broke up with me after a month".

But maybe U guys are right and it would be better to leave it alone in the friendship department..I find myself quite annoyed anyways, that he is angry with me, I can hear it in his voice and by the way he speaks to me..He told me that he didn't want a relationship with me, so I moved on and now he is treating me like shit because I was intimate with someone else..He shouldn't have asked if he didn't want to hear the answer..

I'll take your advice and let him decide if our friendship is worth it to him..I have risen above a lot of pain and hurtful things he has done and I have forgiven him..But I think maybe deep down he knows that I am done with the realtionship part, he wanted me to stay over the last two times I was down to see him and I wouldn't..Maybe he's pissed because the games are over and I am not stroking his ego anymore..

lighthearted-leo , I really wish you well in whatever you decided.

Why is that we don't listen to what a guy is saying...
((He called me back and said he didn't need the stress or drama of it.))
And you called him a few times and he didn't pick up and still you are persisting.

lighthearted-leo, why is it so important for you to have a friendship with your Libra?? Yes, you miss talking to him and having him in your life. I can understand that. But sometimes in life is it better to let things go.
((he wanted me to stay over the last two times I was down to see him and I wouldn't..Maybe he's pissed because the games are over and I am not stroking his ego anymore.))
You called him so many times wanting and pursuing ?his friendship?. You are still stroking his ego.

You dated someone else but your Libra still had your heart. Same with me I am seeing someone, but there are times that I miss ex-Libra and the connection we had. Ex-Libra knows who he is and is also acting all pissed off that I am seeing\sleeping with someone else.
And just conveniently forgets that he is getting married.

Honey, you really need to let your Libra be? and forget about being his friend. Please forgive me if I am harsh.

Sorry me again.

lighthearted-leo,I wanted to share with you.A very good friend of mine said this to me 2 months ago.

After some ranting and raving to her yet again over ex-Libra and how he is stringing me along. She listened patiently. Then she said, you know I love you to death. I said yes,I know. Then she said ?Bella79?, I have been listening to you and how you are carrying on about this guy.

But you (Bella79) still talk about your 8 months ago like it happened yesterday.

I went home and it really made me think. Because my friend was right I talked about him and the things that he did. And what we had? like it had only happened yesterday. THAT WAS MY REALITY CHECK.

I had to make a lot of decisions that were not easy. But I decided that I don't want to be friends with Libra. There will always be that ?thing? between us. But I am not prepared to live my life in a circle and always end up facing in the same direction, because that what was happening with ex-Libra around.

He wants me?He wants me not.

You will find that "CONNECTION" that you had with Libra with someone else again. Someone that will appreciate you.

I did listen to what he said..He called me back and said he didn't need the drama and the stress and I said okay if that's the way you feel there is nothing I can do about it and we said goodbye..He called back later that day and said he thought about what we talked about and would I call him that night..

Anyways dosen't matter, even trying to be friends with him is so much effort..I don't have the time or energy to play games with him..

lighthearted-leo, I really did not mean to hurt you.

I really hope for your own sake that you will let Libra go.You have been on this path with your libra for a very long time now.

Lucky Libra your the reason I posted again..And that's the response I get—

Bella79..You did not hurt me, I am long past being hurt in regards to this situation..

That's okay..I appreciate your response..

I know that he was confused about his feelings for me, well maybe not his feelings but his ability to have a relationship at this point in his life..Which I understood completley and said maybe now is not the time to date..But he kept pulling me back in and pushing me away..He said he dosen't want to deal with the kids and the ex and having a new relationship...That's okay I accepted that..

But what I don't understand is that if I can rise above all the hurt he has caused me by his confused emotions, why can't he just forget that we were together in that way and just be friends..I love him dearly and i don't want to lose him from my life, I feel like I have lost my best friend..I wish him the best for his life and I hope he does find someone that he can love and that will love him...Why does he not wish the same for me ?? Why is he angry that I moved on when he told me repeatdly to do so??

I guess i just don't understand the friendship part..I would give anything to go back and do it over again and just have a friendship with no intimacy..

I can't be intimate with him ever again..After him asking me to have a baby with him and being his family in the middle of sex..It made me to vulnerable..And it hurt me because I knew he didn't mean it and I didn't understand why he would hurt me when he knew that I loved him..I will not put myself in that position again..

sorry posted twice

He does not know what??

Maybe not..But I think he has an idea, he wanted me to stay the last two times I was down to visit him and I wouldn't..I was going to saty the last time and sleep in his son's room, but he proceeded to tell me his house was haunted..I felt like he was manipulating me, trying to get me scared so I would want to sleep in the room with him, and we would sleep together and then he would say well u wanted to sleep in my room..So i left..

lighthearted-leo, How are you doing?

I was thinking of you today and this is the first time that I am in front of my laptop and not running up and down...my feet are killing me.
Have been waking up 04:12 every morning for the last week with the thought of ex-libra. And now the need to pickup the phone is getting so overwhelming.... No, I won't call. My pride won't allow me.

Don't know how this has happened ... how did I allow thoughts of him to creep up on me like that. It is not like I miss him or thinking about him.


have to run.. going away for the weekend.my soul needs the ocean.

Hi Bella79..

Hope U have a good weekend..I have to work all weekend, but i am enjoying my new job...

Sorry your thinking about your Libra...they can be shitheads..

I've done alot of thinking this week and I'm packing this shit in...I am sick of wondering what I did wrong when he is ignoring me and treating me badly..Because deep down I already know the answer, I did nothing wrong, these are his issues to deal with, not mine..Issues he should have dealt with prior to trying to date someone..

I can no longer excuse his behaviour like i did in the start, because I knew he was hurt from wife cheating on him..He has been separated for almost 2 years now, and we met a year ago..

Cleaning house and he just got swept out the door..

I am good. Just had a moment of weakness.Got home early this morning. The ocean always calms me. I can just sit there and look at it for hours. Even saw some dolphines.


Good for you.Wish you all the best!!!!!

Must be that time for Leos who loved Libras....the overwhelming thing - I was the same this weekend.....its been a long time since I got that overwhelmed with it....must be in the stars or something but they also tell me that I'll either end a past relationship for good or it will rekindle....watch out Leos who love/loved a Libra....run!!!!

LOL

((must be in the stars or something but they also tell me that I'll either end a past relationship for good or it will rekindle.... ))

Thats crazy same here. I had a reading done ( I kept dreaming about himand it was driving me crazy)and then I did a tarot reading yesterday(long story). Both readings implied that I will rekindle or start a new relationship.

read libra's horoscope this morning.And it said that someone from his past will be back.can't remeber the rest.

I am so anxious, my younger sister is having a c-section wednesday morning.Can't wait to be an aunt!!!!

(( read libra's horoscope this morning.And it said that someone from his past will be back.can't remeber the rest. ))

what craziness— can't believe what I am doing or saying.

He dated me, left me for someone, left her for another girl, left her... now he is marrying the girl he date before me.

It took me a long time to get here, but for the first time I can really say that I don't want him back.Maybe, I will always have a soft spot for him, but thats it.No friendship or being in eachothers lives.

This is just one of those things in life. No matter how much I love and care about the other person. For my own sake I had to let him go, COMPLETELY.I don't like loose ends .Because they will always come around and bit you in the "behind".When you least expect it.

amen LOL