The Libra and Libra Connection?

I have been with a Libra male since last summer. I am a Libra also, and have found the connection a little unsettling to say the least at times.

What does anyone else think about this kind of paring, is it good or bad?

Looking for some feedback on the subject. Don't know if I want to stay with the relationship or not, seems to be certain aspect missing with it. Not much deep emotional connection, mostly just surface level it seems.

He feels uncomfortable with anything going to deep.

Sometimes it works perfectly well.. sometimes not... depends on rest of your planets in the chart.

and if it works, its the best. No frills, no tensions, no arguments... astrologers call it a libran nest. 😉

You dont have an emotional connection with the Libra male? That's strange...at least from where I'm standing. My Libra is very emotional with me...not crying, whining, but shares his thoughts with me without any qualms. It's very reassuring.

If you have doubts about the relationship, it may be that both of you have your walls up and you each can't see the real of each of you.

Time to take the wall down a bit and figure out what's missing and if it can be mended.

🙂

It isn't as rosy as it seems. The problem is because you have so much of a natural and comfortable connection both seem to hold each other to expectations htat are unfair and too high. You probably aren't emotionally supportive of each other as you are with other signs because Libras know how mentally tough each other are, and there tends to be a fair amount of tough love with each other because of it. Not supportive as you should be, more analytical and critical and assuming than you should.

The problem is that you mirror each other, and so a lot of the times what is frustrating and irritating about the other person, is subconciouly evidence of your own faults. I dunno, a lot of astrologers say this is a good match. In my opinion, it isn't really. The similarities are just too strong.

Neither has a really deep emotional drive, moreso the male so it is kind of nice to be with a sign when you are a libra who is. If you can't go toe to toe emotionally with your partner, you can at least understand, appreciate, respect and begin to learn how to.

In my experience a pair like this, has gone the wrong way. Its like looking into a mirror and wondering if you are the same way. The libras,unfortunately, that I've come across with seem really full of themselves and you can tell that their kindness seems superficial and insincere. My teacher is a libra.Lord help me. That witch is the devil! She gave my class all F's. I consider my self responsible and don't see anything wrong with my work. A former friend of mine, also a libra, always had this holier-than-thou attitude. A total ass. As phony as a three dollar bill. She slept with my ex because she was jealous of my looks. I couldn't take this typical libran immaturity and decietful ways. My bullies were libras in High School. These snotty rich snobs made my blood boil! They come off as the compensatory narcissistic type. I dated libra males. They are control freaks and manipulative as hell. I'm sorry if I offend anyone, but these were negative experiences that a more reserved unsociable libra had to deal with.

What does your dislike for Libras have to do with her situation?

He feels uncomfortable with anything going to deep.

I have found this to be true, my ex Libra cringed and shut completely down...

Message posted by: jessie05 on 4/26/2007 7:51:17 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.212
In my experience a pair like this, has gone the wrong way. Its like looking into a mirror and wondering if you are the same way. The libras,unfortunately, that I've come across with seem really full of themselves and you can tell that their kindness seems superficial and insincere. My teacher is a libra.Lord help me. That witch is the devil! She gave my class all F's. I consider my self responsible and don't see anything wrong with my work. A former friend of mine, also a libra, always had this holier-than-thou attitude. A total ass. As phony as a three dollar bill. She slept with my ex because she was jealous of my looks. I couldn't take this typical libran immaturity and decietful ways. My bullies were libras in High School. These snotty rich snobs made my blood boil! They come off as the compensatory narcissistic type. I dated libra males. They are control freaks and manipulative as hell. I'm sorry if I offend anyone, but these were negative experiences that a more reserved unsociable libra had to deal with.

I'm sorry but you had me laughing all thru this post

I don't condone bullying by the way but some of the stuff you said hit home, me being an Aqua have met some of the prototype libras you described. I still got so much love for libras (:

Woah Jessie05, and why are you on the Libra board? You seem to despise them all. Did you say you were one— Wow...

sounds like he/she is just out of high school...could be the ONLY experience they have with Libras or maybe they weren't really Libras...

***I don't condone bullying by the way but some of the stuff you said hit home, me being an Aqua have met some of the prototype libras you described. I still got so much love for libras (:***


Wow, seriously where do you guys find these type of Libras? I have never in my life met a Libra that was any of what Jessie05 described, but complete opposite on most points. Seriously, out of the 5 I have been involved with, not one. I also have a brother and a grandfather who are Libras.

Wow I am shocked.

Yeah, HP I could totally see that.

There is an emotional sharing that is not there. But, as a Libra, if all you've known in your life is Libra/Libra then you cannot realise this. Both feel a lot but there is no verbal expression of this and so there is the risk of becoming two islands. They can probably make excellent friends though.

I'm speaking from experience. It was just that they all happened to be libras. wierd huh? I was curious as to why this was happening. Maybe some people are just plain rude and it depends on how they're raised.

Thanks for everyone's input. I guess I should have been a little more expansive in my statement about the emotional thing. There is plenty of emotional exchange when we are close in an adult way. I can clearly feel the emotions he has for me at that particular time. But he does have a wall around himself the rest of the time, due to being afraid of being hurt.

What he does not feel ok with is any deep verbal exchange regarding my feelings for him. One time when I did venture into that area, he asked why I felt the need to tell him such things. He is ex military also, maybe that has something to do with his comfort level with exchanges that are so personal. I don't know! Maybe he has never had conversations like that with anyone and doesn't quite know what to do with it.

Do you think I may have a point? He has been hurt terribly in a past marriage. You would not believe the things he has experienced, it's truly awful.

And one more thing, he has made it clear to me that he wants me in his life on a permanent basis. That this is not just a temporary situation for him. So I don't know just what to make of some of his other fears that surface as time goes on. I keep telling him that I am not the people who hurt him, and I don't wish to pay for their deeds.

He has trust issues regarding money, but I can see why given what has been done to him. Still I should be judged on my own worth, not someone else's, right!

Yes, I think so.

The only thing I would say is that as a result of the past, the military side of things and perhaps his nature - you may never hear the sweet stuff. And if this is important to you...

* I'm sorry if I offend anyone

BWAHHHH!!!!

Allow me to say hateful things about every Libra I ever met, but, you know, you can't get upset with me because I didn't mean to offend you.

Well, actually... I guess Libras are very influenced by their lives.

If Libra gets spoiled, Libra becomes a douchebag, vain and an ass.

If Libra gets hurt all the time, Libra becomes broken, and starts acting like a hungry wolf.

If Libra has a normal life, Libra becomes... well the stereotypical Libra.

I've met completely arse-holish Libras - from childhood on, they got everything they wanted, had rich parents and became corrupted (geez, that sounds so dramatic).
They were very charming, as long as you don't see their "real face". Party-goer, extroverted, rich but also egoistical jerks, nice to talk to, they make you feel wanted.
Many did drugs for fun and enjoyed manipulating people into fighting each other.

I've met Libras that didn't act like Libras at all, they always had very bad lives, always getting beaten up as a kid for being "the pretty boy/girl", always getting used in very bad relationships, had bad parents, etc.
They were very cold, introverted, cynical and easy to anger and also became physical quickly.
Most of them said something like "I tried being nice, it doesn't work. Ever."
Not very elegant individuals (still charming in a rugged, dangerous way, though).
Many did drugs to forget and to delete their sense of being nice.

My 2 cents, for what it's worth.

Glad I dodged that bullet, I was the pretty boy that could do the asswhoopin if need be. And sometimes the need was there. Of your two descriptions my past is more similar to the latter, but my life is a lot more even keeled now and I am not nearly as agressive as I once was.

Yishen, and which Libra are you?

@Queenscorpio:
Hey, a boy has got to keep some secrets 😉

My twin brother is pretty much the "hungry wolf", though.

I dont think she is a libra. Seems like a virgo.

We always have this wall around us twinflame, tats our primary defense mechanism. we are way scared to get hurt. Easiest way to make him speak will be to reflect him. You become emotional, he will also be emotional. You break the wall around you and allow him in, he will also break it. When you do something, we feel the need to do the same to balance it back.

Now you may think there is nothing around you. May be his friends can tell you better that he feel you have built a wall around you.

//just deducted back from other libra-libra cases including my own.