the msg my ex libra sent

I really dont think any one gets my question


Will my ex libra ever file?

He keeps telling me to move on and I have we have been separated for a year. I just recently started to fine closure by examining myself. I noticed I was full of faults and flaws in this relationship. so I did admit this to him. after a whole year of just accussing him and making him feel bad for leaving me with the 3 kids. I felt it was a good thing it was a part of me letting go.. this is what he sends back in return.

"Stop sending stuff. whatever you tryna accomplish is a waste and u need to move on. Let go of the thought. And let me be."

now I didnt send him the msg because I want to be with him it was because it was part of my closure. we have went back and fourth about divorce and he will not file. he keeps saying he is going to but he is not ready. He will do it when he thinks its best. I told him the best time was now I encourage him to file.I told him there will be no hard felings.he got angry when I told him I was going to file He told me"if you rush things bad things could happen."
so my questoin is thru all the fighting and going back and fourth this year Y will he not file. when he says he wants the divorce. He tells me to focus on something else.then he always says I am to dumb to see that thru all the fighting he has not yet filed. its just so many things he says that confuses me.

I will not file because I have 3 small kids ,I dont have the money to file.. and I want him to be the one who really let goes of the marriage sounds crazy I know. I know i dont want to be with him But I feel funny about actually making the moves to get the divorce.. pls some insight.

well as a new post and more info ...I will state that you absolutely cannot TELL a Libra what to do. Being married to the guy you should know that by now. So let him in his own time. I have a son w. a Libra who has never met my son. I could never "make" him be anything to my son that he didnt want to be... I still dont.

If he says he will than trust him that he will and let it go. The more you push the more he is not going to act right. For example, your current sitch.

if you dont have the money to file- which really is not that much...so what if you have (3) small kids...there is social services to assist you in finding an atty., filing for child support w/o going to court, filing for divorce and requiring your ex to pay the attorneys fees, etc.

sounds to me like you havent done a whole lot of research and your pushing him to do something you arent even willing to do yourself.

so my questoin is thru all the fighting and going back and fourth this year Y will he not file. when he says he wants the divorce.


because he's all talk. he obviously has you hung by the balls and knows you are playing the game just like he is. you're making excuses for both of your behaviors and how this is being handled, but be fair to your kids...they probably see, hear, and know more than you realize.

i agree with leokitten. that is weak excuse. you still want to hold on. i used that same excuse with my ex husband for years then i finally said to hell with this and i got child support and the divorce. every state has a legal helper agency for low income families. you might have to pay very little if anything at all to file the divorce papers. shake it off and move on. you will feel better in the end.

usually divorces are expensive when there's a lot of collateral, investments, properties, general assets. When there are little to no amount of wealth involved, divorces are fairly cheap these days and you can even file yourself. That's the beauty of America; you don't need a lawyer to represent - you can represent yourself.

I know this sounds weird, but I think its you who really doesnt want to let go.....you seem to want to nag him into doing the "filing" but what for? what will it change in your life right now? What is the hurry? is there an immediate drama that makes it impossible for you to be legally married? Is there another man?

The one thing I have found is you truly cannot push these guys...the more you push, the more distant they become...give him space, stop texting him, stop communicating with unless he wants to see/talk to the kids....he will come around when he is ready - from what I gather, Libras take relationship breakdowns very hard, he is coming to grips with it himself, let him. Unless there is some dire reason as to you being legall married, let him go on and work himself out 🙂