Too early, Too soon?

So I went on a date with this Libra guy whom I met online. We messaged back and forth and decided to meet up. Our first date we met for shisha and tea, then we went to grab something to eat and later ended up at his place for coffee and more shisha. We kissed that was about it and I left. We/He had decided that we should see each other again and arranged to meet up the following few days. Unfortunately that day, he ended up calling me to cancel due to 'work' and would be back in a couple days, he apologized and asked me how the rest of my week looked. I told him to just give me a call when he returns and didn't make a big deal out of it.

Anyway, he ended up calling and asked when I was free over the weekend and I said Sat. afternoon and later said if monday was good for me and that we can do a cooking party! This basically consists with groceries on him, and me making supper whilst he watches.

Now I'm thinking perhaps this cooking session at his place may be too soon...as this will be our second date. I sense he is testing me. I feel comfortable enough to be at his place and I LOVE to cook. It was also something that was brought up the first time we met and we both had agreed to do a cooking dinner thing. I guess I wasn't expecting it to happen so soon.

I'm taking things by stride and everyone has a different opinion about having a supper at home as a second date. I reckon he may want more than just supper and he already knows I'm not one to sleep around. Or seeing if I'm girlfriend material...

anyway, I'd like to get insight on this situation and his mind frame. I've never done the dating thing where I went over and cooked for someone. That's something I've ONLY done when in a relationship.

If he would describe himself: I am most passionate about cooking! ...would his request look strange?...I think not! The problem with us women is that we tend to over-analyze things...men r simple. Just take it as it comes, one step at a time and see where it leads. Go 4 it!...but, but, but, REMEMBER! no drama, less passion, don't fall 4 him ...don't show too much...they r hunters...and if the fox will run in front of them and lay down they will search another fox hiding in that big forest. Good luck!

"too soon" doesn't really exist to libras. i doubt he'll think anything of it. if a libra says something is "too soon" it really means they aren't interested.

if you don't want to get physical so soon, that's fine. just have something to do. maybe a dvd or something. make sure it's something you want to see. even if he wants to do more, he'll be respectful of your desire to watch a good movie. if it's kinda arty and snobby, he'll be a good boy and watch. even if he isn't into it, the libra desire to look sophisticated will win out.

I dont think its too soon as long as you know want you want and have self control 🙂. I do however try and avoid these sort of situations early on though as I am one of those people who tend to accidently fall into bed with people lol. But I think it sounds good, infact I am going to steal this one and add it to my date ideas list!

Thanks for the insights! Dinner went well! Great conversation, food, wine. We cuddled and watched a movie later and he said later that if it was getting to be too late to return home, I could spend the night...I declined and said, '...for another time as I had work in the morning'.

Anyway, he texted me 2 days later saying hi and that was it. We haven't chatted much on the phone as he's busy with work so occasionaly random texts is all we've managed to communicate. So yesterday I texted him asking if he wanted to see eachother again (in other words, if he was interested enough to continue getting to know eachother)as he hasn't made any arrangements to see me at a later date or anything yet. He said 'of course! Why are you even asking??'

I told him I know he's a busy guy and I don't want to intrude on his time, but to let me know when he's up for it; as dinner was great last time.'

yup! and the end!

what happened that it's the end? libras don't like to impose (because then you might reject us, which is basically the end of the world), so we just wait for you to tell us you want to hang out again. very passive people like that.

did he end up being a jerk, or are you writing him off just because he's not chasing you down?

Libs can take the longest time because they want to be sure you're the one for them. Boxing them up in anything isn't going to work.. or giving them ultimatums, or wanting things NOW, FAST or IMMEDIATELY. Or playing on their guilt. It will work for the short run.. but long run... no.

The end... I ended up finding out he's got quite a delicious lust for women...he's just looking to have fun etc. etc. it was too bad but no big deal! Thanks for the insight..and I agree with Amethyst...a guy WOULD put some effort or at least be slightly available in some way whether it was responding to a text in a fashionable time, opening up a schedule for you...something... 🙂