virgo guy needs help with libra girl

soooo i met a libra girl last weekend at a party. we had a lot of fun together and had plenty of chemistry. we exchanged numbers and she texted me the next day. weve been at it since then and all is going well.

she told me that she just got into a relationship a week before i met her(about 3 weeks ago) but wants to continue talking to me. she told me that on the first day we contacted eachother fyi...i have no problem with it and shes being honest and just feeling her options out i guess. she kept saying that our timing was bad, implying she wished she met me earlier...she also wants to hang out again but in a group setting.

i guess im just looking for some insight into what she may be thinking or what i can do to win this girl over....or even if she isnt worth my time. should i just wait and keep it casual or should i try to set something up?? anyyy help or opinions will be highly appreciated 😛

so in other words, libras girls like to chase? or atleast not have a guy begging at their feet?

Posted by TasteOfChaos

Posted by Virgo07
so in other words, libras girls like to chase? or atleast not have a guy begging at their feet?

Ew... even the word begging makes me cringe.

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got it haha...il just lay back for now then i guess

Posted by THEKingofLibra
Dude.. text her this and don't text her again:

"I enjoyed talking to you and I think you are very charming, and I'm interesting in more than just friendship with you. I'm gonna let you have your fun, but by the end of this week you will lose your other boyfriend and we are going on a date."

lolol if i was getting friendzoned i would send that. my post does make it sound that way, but theres no friendzoning going on here haah

Let me ask you this... say you and this awesome Libra chick hit it off, she's got way better chemistry/connection with you and chooses to break up with the other guy to start seeing you. (You with me so far?) Okay, so you "win her over" and the two of you make it official, you're in a relationship, HUZZAH... but then... you find out she's still got other guys as "options" that she's talking to and saying she wishes she met them sooner, like before she had a bf... she's still giving her number out to guys at parties and texting/calling them all the time, behind your back. But she's HONEST with these guys.. she TELLS them she has a bf (you).. she's just keeping her options, right? So then dates and gifts and intimate chats with other guys is okay, right?

Cuz that's the kinda girl you're dealing with here, Libra or not. Is that the kind of girl you'd want to invest your time and heart into?

Mind you, friends are one thing, doesn't bother me who you want to be friends with even while in a relationship with me.. but her comments to you are not "friendly".. they're inappropriate for a girl who is in a relationship. She's a cheater, waiting for the right opportunity. If she'll do it FOR you, she'll do it TO you.

At this point she doesn't have her hooks all the way into you. Yet. But let that Libra charm work its magic on you a little longer, and soon you might be back here making a thread about what to do about your cheating Libra girlfriend that you're SO in love with you can't let go.

It's all up to you.

Posted by Nefer
Let me ask you this... say you and this awesome Libra chick hit it off, she's got way better chemistry/connection with you and chooses to break up with the other guy to start seeing you. (You with me so far?) Okay, so you "win her over" and the two of you make it official, you're in a relationship, HUZZAH... but then... you find out she's still got other guys as "options" that she's talking to and saying she wishes she met them sooner, like before she had a bf... she's still giving her number out to guys at parties and texting/calling them all the time, behind your back. But she's HONEST with these guys.. she TELLS them she has a bf (you).. she's just keeping her options, right? So then dates and gifts and intimate chats with other guys is okay, right?

Cuz that's the kinda girl you're dealing with here, Libra or not. Is that the kind of girl you'd want to invest your time and heart into?

Mind you, friends are one thing, doesn't bother me who you want to be friends with even while in a relationship with me.. but her comments to you are not "friendly".. they're inappropriate for a girl who is in a relationship. She's a cheater, waiting for the right opportunity. If she'll do it FOR you, she'll do it TO you.

At this point she doesn't have her hooks all the way into you. Yet. But let that Libra charm work its magic on you a little longer, and soon you might be back here making a thread about what to do about your cheating Libra girlfriend that you're SO in love with you can't let go.

It's all up to you.

dont think this entire post hasnt run through my head multiple times because...it has. ive heard of her through friends of friends going back to over a year ago. she doesnt seem like a bad person but who knows, she can be a cheater. ive went through it all in my head many times and decided that i want to take the plunge. i know im no different from the next guy that may come along if we get together, but im willing to dive into the possible shitstorm ahead haah.

i really appreciate the time and thought you put into your post aswell...i need others' views on this shit so THANK YOUUU

I actually am a bit divided here.. I DO see what the rest of you are saying, esp about the "friendzone" stuff.. Leebs are sooo gooood at flirting.. plenty of people take their fun flirting to mean more than it does. It's entirely possible she's just looking to be your friend.

The thing is.. that leaves friendzone and you thinking it means more... or she's not only NOT the settling down type (history of cheating, you said?), she doesn't bother ending one situation before getting into the next...

Either way, this does not bode well for you.

But.. what exactly are you looking for or hoping for with her? Friendship? Dating? A relationship? Just sex or a FWB?

She must be hot as hell HAHAHA

Your fuzzies are blinding me, bitch 😛

Posted by Nefer
I actually am a bit divided here.. I DO see what the rest of you are saying, esp about the "friendzone" stuff.. Leebs are sooo gooood at flirting.. plenty of people take their fun flirting to mean more than it does. It's entirely possible she's just looking to be your friend.

The thing is.. that leaves friendzone and you thinking it means more... or she's not only NOT the settling down type (history of cheating, you said?), she doesn't bother ending one situation before getting into the next...

Either way, this does not bode well for you.

But.. what exactly are you looking for or hoping for with her? Friendship? Dating? A relationship? Just sex or a FWB?

well shes veryyy cute and completely my type. she DOESNT have a history of cheating to my knowledge which goes back a year. she seems like a genuinely good hearted girl...i think the boyfriend is more of a friend that turned into a boyfriend just for fun..kinda like a "why not" type thing....it doesnt seem like a serious relationship, but i could be wrong. im looking for some time to get to know her and possibly turning it into a relationship. so i guess the best way to do that is to wait and see if shes worth my time.

lol

I think you already know what's going on. She probably isn't super into the boyfriend (otherwise I dobt shed have exchanged numbers at al). However libras don't jump around. We want something to end on it's own merit before getting involved with someone else. But the guy is nice, and she's too young to know that chemistry is a good enough reason to end it. So she wants to stay in touch, for when it ends on it's own. I recommend staying friendly, but in a more acquaintance-y way. As in, don't go sharing souls just yet. It's probably what feels the most natural anyways. Libras are flirts, but we are evasive flirts, and she's been direct with you, so I wouldn't worry about the friendzone. And yes, if anything libra girls would rather do the chasing, but prefer for things to just fall into place. Prey that is ready and willing to be caught is the most satisfying. And don't play games. Most people who "hate games" just hate losing, but libras genuinely hate them. The easier and more natural it feels, the happier we are.

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if you ask her her birthday and where she was born, you could look up her chart. Astro.com us prob the best place. A look at her moon and mars should tell you how she approaches these things, if she's a cheater or serial dater. Set the time to noon for it, unless you have the nerve to ask he time of birth, and she actually know it. For example, mars in sag might worry me. Mars in scorpio would be a lot better. Moon in gemini would be bad, while in the next sign cancer it would be pretty good.

I think the virgo is going to do what he wants and trust his own instincts, rather than being swayed by message board trolls.

it seems like everyone who posts so much here about how bad libras are are just pissed off that the libra they wanted was immune to their "charm" and manipulation.

Posted by curious visitor
I think the virgo is going to do what he wants and trust his own instincts, rather than being swayed by message board trolls.

it seems like everyone who posts so much here about how bad libras are are just pissed off that the libra they wanted was immune to their "charm" and manipulation.

i AM going to follow my instincts...im taking all of these posts and considering every word but, im going to do what i want. as for me being a doormat...i guess i kinda am in sight of the big picture, but if you knew the actual situation and the type of people that are in it....im not getting walked on at all. no friendzone stuff is happening so no fear there KoL sorry lololol

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Posted by THEKingofLibra
Dude.. text her this and don't text her again:

"I enjoyed talking to you and I think you are very charming, and I'm interesting in more than just friendship with you. I'm gonna let you have your fun, but by the end of this week you will lose your other boyfriend and we are going on a date."

lolol if i was getting friendzoned i would send that. my post does make it sound that way, but theres no friendzoning going on here haah

Hey....do what KOL is suggesting..you have nothing real to lose. That's actually a little hot..it speaks confidence without being overally drab..you wouldn't get friend zoned and she wouldn't be beating around the bush...right now she's prolly mujlling through this decision since its hard for her...faking like you're making it "for her" will cause her to react.


That's pretty smooth, KOL I'm impressed.

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i could do something like that if the scenario was going towards friendzone shit....im still considering being blunt with her in this type of way....if necessary

bump. still need somethinggg

how much would that run me?