Virgo-Libra Cusper..what can he have in mind?

I just posted this on the Virgo forum too since he's kind both in spirit I feel as well as chart wise..

I was seeing a Vir-Libra, Virgo moon for a few months. We hit it off from the start when we first met two months later we started dating. We could talk for hours non-stop about anything. He would always tell me he loved how we could talk about so many things and how even on the worst day I made him happy just speaking to him. He always brought me little thoughtful gifts and just was always communicating. Chemistry was wonderful between us and so was our sex life. He met my family and said he loved them and stayed talking late into the night with my cousins..so this is why this shocked me after 3 months.

One day he told me couldn't come over, said he had a lot on his mind. He had revealed the last time I saw him that he isn't good at staying in touch w/friends sometimes or staying interested in a job too long. He said to me he's afraid of committing to anything cuase he never knows where he'll be in next years ahead to commit. 3 days later he came over and just broke up with me out of nowhere. He was talking like he was making a speech & just said to me, that years ago he loved someone and he doesn't feel like he loves me the same way. He said he's been thinking for days over it not getting why he's so attracted to me mentally and physically but that feeling isn't there he once knew. I tried to talk to him to understand his reasons. He stopped in thought and said, may be he went wrong then started blaming himself for going fast into things. He said though he was sorry but I could call him, got up and left. Before he left he just said to me he hadn't been with anyone in a few years after his bad break up, he kept saying that over and over I was his first since. He left his hat on my table I found later and the rest of his stuff he left at my house..(is this a virgo thing why do they leave everything at my house?) ..anyway.. so after speaking with him I felt the worst that he used me, half of me also thought he just really was overthinking everything since he was it seemed for days from just knowing me 3 months to say he could never love me.. After I told him how I felt later that night, he had replied to me just that he was sorry he has hurt me and was upset. I never said another word to him for 2 months almost then ran into him. We just talked like no time past and were laughing.

I let him lead conversation and remained aloof mostly but it was like nothing was lost, that spark was there, but he looked sad in his eyes...He seemed very nervous and kept looking down and then when I started talking he was just staring at me so much it was making me nervous. He then looked down and said he was sorry how things ended so badly. He said despite how that ended, he asked if I wanted to get some food one night..I looked at him and remained aloof wondering what he wanted out of the meeting..so I just said okay casually..I started walking away and he started talking again, it was kinda like I didn't want to leave and he didn't want me to leave. So he kept creating conversation. I felt bad inside, I missed him but wouldn't show it, cause I would cry if I did..but he looked terrible so I just out out my arms and walked up to him and hugged him and I felt him relax into me. I knew he would get what I meant by that...i smiled at him and as I walked away he said, I'm serious we should get something to eat sometime I nodded and then he said your hair still smells great!...I laughed and he did too and said ok bye....few days later valentines day he sent me a happy vday text at night...3 days after that he asked how I was doing. I finally gave in and talked to him for 2 hours texting just a silly story we were joking about on..then he randomly said..He still thought about the time we spent together and asked if I still thought about it? I said yes..but apparently his phone lost mintues cause the text came back to me..he sent me an IM saying he's leaving for work and he didn't get my last "reply" (where I said I did think of the past) then said he just wanted to thank me for smiling and hugging him when I saw him after everything before went so badly. I Im'd him back that I replied, yes I still think of things, but it said he signed off already but he'd get the message.

We had such bad cellphone mishaps with the texting, I called him the next day since I didn't know if he got my reply. He was happy to hear from me and were great like usual. I told him though I didn't get his text he sent the day before he said he never got my reply about whether I thought of the past..however it doesn't matter..he said he just wanted to say thank you. Then asked if that was ok? I said yes kinda perplexed..firgured it was for forgiving him he meant...I was speechless though..mainly because I had thought may be he missed me but he said it didn't matter my reply so..

I was speechless though..mainly because I had thought may be he missed me but he said it didn't matter my reply so...why was he so nervous about it and pushed it aside when he didn't get my reply then?.....I didn't get that if he was just insecure doing that like it didn't matter or he really just was like thank you for not yelling at me.

Then after talking a while he went to go and he just said, feel free to call him, he was happy to hear from me, and thank you. I was a little confused again by the abrupt good bye and words he said..(while im analyzing this in seconds he then picked up my pause with may be we should go out to dinner..lunch, lunch may be sometime? He sounded nervous or almost like he was reading it from a card...I said...lunch..ok..he said alright then started telling me about this other story to where we were laughing again then said he really had to go.....3 days later..he texts me again, just how am I doing? I talk about it etc..he tells me he's having a bad day at work...then thats it.

He's pretty much a low key kinda guy..only had 2 relationships his whole life and I know his father is pretty ill all this time. So when all this happened. I took an undersatnding that there is a lot of loss up in the air for him in his head that may be he isn't playing games. And he had a really bad dramatic xgf and the break up was equally horrifying to him apparently 2 years ago. So I don't know what he wants really a this point. I don't really assert myself at all since he called it quits and I want to respect his wishes. But what does it sound like he wants. I do miss him. Does he seem like he regrets what he decided or is this just the way this sign has a friendship after a break up by being like this? He's always been very direct with his thoughts with me and emotions...so this behavior and seeing him so nervous lately when he speaks with me is very unusual to me.

I appreciate anyones input, thank you for reading=)

22DIDDY02

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my son and father are on the libra virgo cusp (9/22).... it sounds to me that he knows that you are right, but he's stuck in the middle (where many libra men tend to lie) this is hard because he himself is trying to find a balance. that is why his behavior is such that he is unable to tell you how he feels. he is still trying to figure it out.

It's so unhealthy to not get over people............

I'll save you diddy🙂 with my sweet lovin LOL