we dated but now I just miss our friendship

how can I show my ex libra that I want to be his friend? Hes either incredibly distant or hes OK with me...I'm kinda scareed to talk to him about it in case he goes distant and disappears on me. i'm never rude to him, and I don't ignore him... I'm always really casual and even friendly. I have no intentions on getting back with him and neither does he it seems... from the way he is acting...

So i just want to know if theres anything I can do that will help kinda close this distance...

thank you guys!

ps- what would be a good non-over the top b-day present for a libra ex?? Just to show I care.

How close were you two? Not much of friends before the relationship I assume... just straight to dating? If it was just a few casual dates or a fling, I have no problem being friends... I find for myself that if the relationship progressed to a pretty serious level, I have a bit of a hard time being friends after the break up. Especially if I wasn't the one being the relationship ender. These feelings are def. not with a spiteful sentiment either. Not even a grudge. Just needs time IMO.


What kinda personality does he have? Lighthearted or serious? I think you're on the right track with a slick birthday present to bridge the gap.

I personally love to stay friends with all my ex's as long as the person isnt still into me and only being my friend because they hope we will get back together. Libra's in general tend to like to stay friends with there ex's so give it time and he will probably be more then happy to hang out with you.

to answer some questions... i was the one persuing. and I was the one that broke up with him... why? because were better friends and really bad at communicating with each other. I gave him chances and chances before i ended it, but he really didn't put in any effort into our relationship. I felt like a fool for even wanting more with him. I just want to be his friend now, we were better as friends and I know I may never get that back but i think its worth a shot. I still care about him in that way.

I want to get rid of this horrible tension that I still feel between us. i'm trying. and as mentioned, I know I should talk to him about it but how can I in a way that won't scare him off even worse? serious talks have never EVER worked out for us 😢

am I doing the right thing? maybe more time is needed? I don't know... ughh... :/ we went out in feb... ended in late may.

They say people come and go. But the truth is, no one really disappears from your life. People never really leave, their roles just change. ( i got this quotes from my pisces best friend , we don't talk anymore either... ) i feel like she post this on facebook for me. One of you have pick up the dayme phone and call... my situation a little different so i lost my pisces...

Posted by dreamingpisces
how can I show my ex libra that I want to be his friend? Hes either incredibly distant or hes OK with me...I'm kinda scareed to talk to him about it in case he goes distant and disappears on me. i'm never rude to him, and I don't ignore him... I'm always really casual and even friendly. I have no intentions on getting back with him and neither does he it seems... from the way he is acting...

So i just want to know if theres anything I can do that will help kinda close this distance...

thank you guys!

ps- what would be a good non-over the top b-day present for a libra ex?? Just to show I care.

I feel the same way as you. Very similar situation, you could have written my post had I thought of posting what was on my mind. I too ended it with the libra I was going out with. We were friends prior. He is ignoring me. We haven't talked. I miss our friendship BUT if he were a true friend he'd be there no matter what and he isn't. Libra or not, he's just not there so on I go. I miss him but part of me does regret ending it and then again as I look back I wasn't completely happy with what we had too since I, like you gave him several times to get there.

I agree with you jsharck , i stop talking to my pisces because she told me its hard to be friends with me and so from there on i jus completly shut her out of my life jus for her to feel better... i do miss our friendship but there our things we both can't accept... sometime things you say to a libra male could really get to them .

Not sure how other libras are but I have a hard time letting go of relationships. A girl who broke up with me and then wants to be friends... well it seems like a bit of an insult to my manhood. For me at least time and distance from them is a good thing. If he is anything like me it just takes a longer time than most to get over people. After all we fal in love HARD 🙂

thank you guys for the replies and advice...

I just wanna clear up, I know it sounds wrong that I broke up with him. and now I'm kinda expecting this friendship from him... I know I can't just automatically expect things to be OK between us but I'm just hoping that they will in time. I do not know how he felt about me the whole time we were together... he was shy about his feelings towards me, never really voiced them and that was ok I guess.. I just heard stuff through his friends. I hope that if I do or did mean something to him that the breakup didn't hurt him too bad. He seems ok though. Very ok. If he didn't I will probably never hear about it because thats just how he is... but for right now things seem to be ok. Things are almost how they were before. I feel that even our communication is improving little by little which I'm really happy about. I know the both of us made mistakes, i have learned from mine, and I wonder if he learned from his too but thats just another thing I'll probably never know... maybe in time though.

He must know I care though and that i'm sorry that things happened the way they did. I have voiced it. I have shown him through actions... today I brought him his favorite snack and some songs for him to listen to.

I will just keep doing what I'm doing and have patience.

Yeah I hear you and actually agree Size. What I was getting at though is that personally im definitely slower to let go of relationships than most. If someone were to break up with me and want to be friends right away it would seem a little disrespectful. I tend to put a lot of effort into them. It would be like if someone broke up with you and then wanted to hang out the next day... Since it takes me longer to get over it he may just need a bit more time to reorganize his feelings. Its basically the next day for a while.

I figure I'll post a little update...

He invited me to go to his birthday party a couple of weeks ago, and I was confused on whether I should go or not. Trying to figure out where I stand with him is impossible. But I ended up being the first one to arrive. and he came up behind me and hugged me, it surprised me because he is never like that. EVER. not even when we were together Then idk, the way he was looking at me... and the tone of voice he used with me, it was shocking. It was gentle, and soft, and caring. I just thought "Who was that??" ....... Then everyone else started showing up and I went back to being nothing to him..... who understands that. I am so confused. But it was weird for most of the night we kept saying all the same things at the same time. Like we were on the same page with each other in some strange way. Then the way he said bye to me was so... cold and emotionless...

since then though, nothings really been going on... oh, he bought me lunch one day because I forgot my money but thats probably just him being nice.

we don't get a chance anymore to talk at work because I got put in a different place, but that kind of makes me sad since I don't really hear from him much anymore.


I'm being patient, I'm giving him space, and I'm being myself. So I don't know what else to do but what I'm already doing. I hope he knows how much I still do care, despite everything...

Posted by KingofLibras
Well now.. I'm a 10/22 libra.. and I've borrowed quite a lot of tricks from the Scorpio's bag. I have a dominant personality (bitch, I AM the king), brewing anger to a point of plotting multiple revenges on multitude of levels, with patsies involved and spectacular explosions and whatnot, um.. lets see. i guess the rest im going to have to leave a secret

so now then. affection is sweet.. if its with a sweet sign like pisces or cancer, but if you doing it with a fire sign you might end up stimulating them and it sort of turns into sex in public which is just not classy. if you doing it with scorpio they will take you someplace private cause they dont do it in public

my libra is a 10/21 libra and FAR from dominant... I have to do most of the initiating.
and hes never really affectionate in general. thats why it came as a surprise when he was being affectionate like that the other day.

Posted by KingofLibras
Well.. are you attractive?

yes... I hope that doesn't make me sound vain but I have been told that I am lol