What can a Virguy do to please a Libra female?

As a Virguy I would like to know how to find common ground with a Libra female with a view to a happy relationship. Over the past few years I have made a couple of major gaffes with Libra women, and I suppose it is that we Virguys tend to be a bit shy and therefore awkward romantically whereas I think that Libra females prefer the "smooth, relaxed and humorous" approach(?) It is not that there is any particular individual Libra female that I am thinking of at the moment, but I would just like some general but if possible please some genuinely helpful advice from Libra females as to how a Virguy can get on best with a Libra female - and not just as a friend! However, having said that I would very much value the companionship side as well, as like most people I suppose I admire your generally bright and breezy natures and feel that it would be very good for me in general to have a positive relationship with a Libra female.

Actually one of them was at an astrology meeting! This Libra lady was new at the astrology club and she and I and a couple of other people were sitting around a table and asking her questions about herself and looking at her chart etc. and the atmosphere was positive and relaxed. Then one of us asked her if she was attached and she said in an amiable way that she didn't have a boyfriend at the moment. As a Virgo I am not usually impulsive, but on this occasion I heard myself rushing in with "Well, I'm interested!" or words to that effect, and I'm afraid that that was an absolute gaffe and the atmosphere suddenly went awkward and quiet. Perhaps I had been encouraged by the fact that this lady had the Moon, Mercury and Mars in Virgo and Capricorn rising. Anyway I know where she lives and even know her telephone numbers as she runs a bride and groom shop business a few miles up the road from me and though I would still be interested she has never given me any encouragement and I don't want to be a stalker.

The other one also had several planets in Virgo and was acting as an employment consultant to me. During the time that I knew her she went away on vacation and while she was away I missed her enough to write to her (at her place of work): I did NOT write anything dirty or threatening (at least I did not mean to) but she reacted very badly and because of this she was no longer willing to act as my consultant. I did manage to find out her address but I never called there (again because she gave me no encouragement and I did not want to seem like as stalker): I understand that she has moved house now but still lives locally. Even if I did find her new address though I suppose that if I tried to contact her without her encouragement she might still feel like I was a stalker.

With regard to the first lady, I guess I kind of jumped in as I seldom come across an attractive female who is NOT already in a relationship, so I suppose I thought that I had better seize the moment and strike while the iron was hot! I suppose I thought that if she was not interested she would just have laughed it off, but unfortunately she seemed quite stunned and obviously embarrassed by my uncharacteristically impetuous action 😢

Posted by Theultra79
Yea. For both, they were probably just caught off guard. Of course I can't speak for all libra women but, I like to have a clue that a person likes me before they make a major move. That way I have a chance to DECIDE if I like them back first. And I can get use to the idea and feel comfortable with any further advances they may make

Yes. Predominately Libra here 🙂 I can agree with this statement. In my head I like to assess the situation 1st. Then, once I decide I'm interested THEN you can take the gloves off. I can watch someone for a year before I decide to make a move-even if they're actively going after me. I was with a virgo for a while-didn't work as there was no intellectual stimulus. Conversation is a biggie. Libras most influential sex organ is their mind 😉

It seems to me as though "protocol" in relationships is very important to Libra females: is that right? That you must be approached in the right way at the right time and in the right circumstances, and that anything else is "bad form" and inappropriate and unacceptable? If so I need to understand this "protocol"!

Be interesting to talk to..

I have only met 2 virgo guys and they really didn't have much to say...at all. They complimented me and were interested but I found them both dull to talk to.

I'm a Libra with Virgo in Venus. IMO if she likes you, she's not going to tell you. And I doubt she's a flirt. I'm clueless. Every relationship I've ever had I was pursued. So that coukd be why she's single. So, save yourself some grief stop staring at her or somehow being in the neighborhood (Virgo males tend to do that alot) and go talk to her. Conversation, especially stimulating conversation is our kryptonite. You can approach her that way or go the Alpha route. Maybe I'm the anomaly or maybe I'm the typical venus looking for her Mars but I like men to be men and take charge.

Do you encourage them to take charge or do you put up some resistance for show? The trouble with "men being men" is that these days (and for many years) the mainstream media have been undermining and destroying masculinity.