When a libra gets pissed and demands space?

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So I want to know how to get things normal with a libra guy who appears to be pissed off at you? It's been a pain to understand his behavior. At first he got all close and became good friends.Then he got closer and started behaving as more than a friend.Then one day when I told him that some guy likes me but I would tell him that I like someone else and from then onward he got all weird and started avoiding me.Then 1 day I decided to tell him(libra guy) that I like him so I messaged him saying that I have something important to tell him.At first he showed interest and curiosity to know what it was but I didn't tell him because he wasn't in the right mood.He suddenly got distant few days later.After 2 weeks of no talk,on asking him,he said that he's unavailable because he needs more space.I was shocked hearing that response but I decided to give him his space.It's weird because it's not that we would hangout too much together.It would just be thursdays at times after class.He stopped replying my texts/calls.Then I started ignoring him too because he demanded space.But he got mad and would ask me "What happened?" and I would smile and say nothing.Then I decided to behave like he's nothing more than a friend.That got him mad too.Then one day,he said,"I have grown distant because I realized I need more friends and I can't just stick to you.We can be very good friends but i dont want you to wait for me after classes.I just wana focus on academics.Don't let it get to your heart" So he called me a stalker and desperate indirectly.I was hurt real bad.He came to me after our exam and planned for us to have lunch together because we always do that.Now again,he got pissed and too mad when I invited our mutual friend(guy)to join us.Why would you be so mad at me if you just see me as a friend? Then he came to me again the next day after our last exam but I ignored him.I wanted him to realize what he did so far was wrong but it backfired me.I agree I went extreme but he ignored me double the amount and didn't respond to texts/calls.Few days later,he came to me and asked me my summer plans and told me goodbye.Months ago,we decided to do maymester together so he stayed but I had to leave due to some last minute plan.I updated a status on fb stating that I was home and that's how he came to know.Any idea what's up with this guy and what I should do?? Thanks!!
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Also,I thought that it's been 3 weeks since we lost spoke and besides he did come to me and asked me my summer plans.So I messaged him on chat yesterday and asked him how was his maymester going.He said "Pretty good.Just few more days.How's home?" Then I replied saying,"Great.nice to hear.Home?Now look who calls me a stalker." He read it and he was still online but he didn't reply.End of convo! Then he uploaded a picture of him with two girls on his side.I figured that he's still probably mad at me and the dust hasn't settled.Or maybe he just lost interest and attraction? Well,I still don't know.Most of the guys say that he's hell of a confused person and some of my friends say that maybe he's confused about his feelings for me since he's never been in a relationship before. I still don't know what to do.
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Do not post here your pain story, this idiots will tell you that you are Aylin , an or a Aylin.. I have no idea who is that person and they will starting comment about you in a bad way because this is all what they know to do .
I just can tell you, let's the things be naturaly, you don't need to do anything . If he will be yours, will be. You don't need to write here because this peoples are really sick to comment that things and say to everybody here " you are Aylin" or other way. I relaly don't know who is that Aylin in their mind. But is weird. We come here to find support, not to be judged for other's story or name.
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Posted by Julya22
Do not post here your pain story, this idiots will tell you that you are Aylin , an or a Aylin.. I have no idea who is that person and they will starting comment about you in a bad way because this is all what they know to do .
I just can tell you, let's the things be naturaly, you don't need to do anything . If he will be yours, will be. You don't need to write here because this peoples are really sick to comment that things and say to everybody here " you are Aylin" or other way. I relaly don't know who is that Aylin in their mind. But is weird. We come here to find support, not to be judged for other's story or name.



Aylin..aah yeah I have read that name here a lot.
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Posted by tiziani
The thing is neither of you speaks honestly or directly to one another. You can both give each other all the space you want but if you both don't really say what's on your mind then the rhetoric begs - what are you actually taking space from?



When I asked him "Space? what do you mean by space? People who are in a relationship and when they spend too much time together they say that they need space.But when it's about you and me..We're not even in a relationship and we barely hangout together these days.So where is the space word coming from?" He said,"Yeah I agree with what you said but I don't know I just feel that I have been seeing you too much everywhere." I needed coffee so I went to starbucks that day and he even he was there.I obviously had no idea that he would be there too.So he said,"Be honest,you knew I was here,didn't you?" I totally got mad. It all started from the very moment when i told him "I like someone".
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Posted by Julya22
Do not post here your pain story, this idiots will tell you that you are Aylin , an or a Aylin.. I have no idea who is that person and they will starting comment about you in a bad way because this is all what they know to do .
I just can tell you, let's the things be naturaly, you don't need to do anything . If he will be yours, will be. You don't need to write here because this peoples are really sick to comment that things and say to everybody here " you are Aylin" or other way. I relaly don't know who is that Aylin in their mind. But is weird. We come here to find support, not to be judged for other's story or name.



lol but YOU are Aylin. Your words give you away, Aylin. Funny you're telling this girl to let things progress naturally & if its meant to be then it'll be..yet you're going around seeking psychics & want to relocate to where the guy is staying. How about *you* take your own advice & let things unfold..on their own.
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Posted by Julya22
Space=leave him alone for a while, do not contact him. Libra need this. They are the most strange peoples.. you will see if you really want to get into something serious with him in time, it will be your choice, but you will have also many regrets... anyway I hope everything will be ok for you. 🙂


Yeah.I guess I don't have any other option anyway. Thanks Julya 🙂
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Posted by tiziani
As for the original question though, when a Libra asks for space and gets angry... Trust me, give the guy space. I'm sure you haven't been stalking the guy or anything and yeah it sucks for him to be throwing out octopus ink like that but hey. It's on him to do him for now.


I actually did give him space.We only spoke a little when we would accidentally bump into each other and we spoke nothing during May except when he tried to spend time with me but I shut him down.I know it's probably a result of huge misunderstand therefor I thought I should just slowly try talking to him(hoping things would get back to normal) But seeing the way he's still behaving I guess the dust is no where close to settling down yet.
To be very very honest, I fear if he just moves on,you know.One of my guy friends told me that "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" applies just for a certain period of time.After that,it's always "Out of sight Out of mind".I'm afraid of the latter situation.
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OP, I think what he meant by space is, dont contact him. You stated that you sent him whatever it is that you sent him & he didnt reply..that to me means he needs mental space to process things.


Watercup,I guess you're right about that. I mean, I wouldn't really contact him of my own most of the times anyway.He would call me only when he needed help with homework. The texts and calls that I'm referring to are the one's I had sent during early May and one which I messaged during mid april.I told him that I had to tell him something important(I decided to confess my feelings then) and he was curious to know what I had to say but I figured that he wasn't really in the right mood since he was already messed up with some monetory issue so I decided to keep it for later. Then we had our physics exam a week later and I decided to tell him after the exam since we always spend time together and get dinner.However,he left the exam hall without informing me. I called him 4 times.I called him twice but my friend called him twice again(using my phone) because she thought I didn't call him earlier. His phone was off then and he called me later and I told him that I had to finish the talk with him that night and so I waited for him for half an hour outside the exam hall.He apologized and said "I would have texted you had I wanted you to wait for me." and he said he would meet me but that didn't happen. Since then he started with the "i need space" thing.The other texts were early april when after exam,he tried to spend time with me but I went too extreme with ignoring him in front of everyone.So,I later realized that I was wrong so I texted him asking how did his exam go but no response.Then I got mad at him and I saw him online on chat that night so I messaged him saying,"Why does it feel like you're being pissed with me?I'm the one suppose to be pissed not you." I know..it sounded too silly and I probably shouldn't have said that. Then I called him 3 days later because I had a doubt with something but his phone was off.Then again,3.5 weeks later,I saw him online on facebook yesterday and so I messaged him to test the water and I realize that the dust hasn't settled yet.
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Gia, do not worry about the space and keep in mind this signs : if he keep you in his messenger list ( is good). If he don't block your phone number to call him (is good !) , if he don't change his phone number ( also good ! 🙂 ) , then just breathing dear, he will come back ! I promise to you. Mine did this several times , the most bad was when he deleted me from messenger , but this was just for 2 weeks like. After this, he started text me again and added me again in his messenger .
Now, recently, I told him my plans with him and told him I want to know his real life and all his family , etc. Of course, he need sgain space.... as is too fast or scared him what I want 🙂 This is Libra.. Now he keep silent , but he did not deleted me from his messenger , hehe , so there are hopes dear ! I know he will be back and even if here some peoples say I am Aylin or I am crazy, well, I am Julya, not Aylin, not crazy also and I feel he will be mine . You know what mean this feeling when you meet your fate, maybe you hear about this. I have this feeling and every time he need this "space", something just make me wait and I know is the fate maybe. So trust yourself and let him now for a while . He wil be back and not only one time, he will go and back several tiems to you until he will be tired of this "running" and if he is to be yours, he will be, be sure. 🙂
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Gia, you did your best to open up the lines of communication between you two & that didnt help. The ball now is on his court, do nothing more. If he cares, he'll get over it & resume your friendship. The issue between you two is too miniscule & if he drags it any longer then maybe he's not worth to be your friend. You have a right to be upset if he upsets you & if he cant stomach that then screw him. Never be apologetic about your feelings just to make another person happy when you're obviously not happy. Friendship = acceptance.
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When will u get that the libra is not into u, how on earth can u give advice when u haven't even admit that ur a revolving door for your libra.....are u serious.....that libra has already made up his mind that ur NOT THE ONE, HELLO...libras are logical in nature, and u still fail his testes, everytime he came back to ur azz, save yourself STOP SWITCHING YOUR USER NAME AND GET A DAM LIFE....I hate to say this but I know that libra is glad az hell to be far away from u, ur not sane at all.....his scale will never tip in ur favor, u fail way too many times.....u really should stop giving any form of advice.
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Gia, you did your best to open up the lines of communication between you two & that didnt help. The ball now is on his court, do nothing more. If he cares, he'll get over it & resume your friendship. The issue between you two is too miniscule & if he drags it any longer then maybe he's not worth to be your friend. You have a right to be upset if he upsets you & if he cant stomach that then screw him. Never be apologetic about your feelings just to make another person happy when you're obviously not happy. Friendship = acceptance.


Makes sense. There is nothing left for me to do. We have our summer holidays going now anyway. College reopens on the aug19th. Besides, he's shifting to an apartment whereas I am staying in the dorm. He is a mechanical engineer whereas I am a computer engineer from next semester onward so we don't even share any common classes except maybe one. Hence, I don't even really know if I'd get to see him anymore and if yes,then when. Suddenly it feels like this was the end,you know. Eeee..it feels horrible to fall for someone >_
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Gia, you did your best to open up the lines of communication between you two & that didnt help. The ball now is on his court, do nothing more. If he cares, he'll get over it & resume your friendship. The issue between you two is too miniscule & if he drags it any longer then maybe he's not worth to be your friend. You have a right to be upset if he upsets you & if he cant stomach that then screw him. Never be apologetic about your feelings just to make another person happy when you're obviously not happy. Friendship = acceptance.
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Makes sense. There is nothing left for me to do. We have our summer holidays going now anyway. College reopens on the aug19th. Besides, he's shifting to an apartment whereas I am staying in the dorm. He is a mechanical engineer whereas I am a computer engineer from next semester onward so we don't even share any common classes except maybe one. Hence, I don't even really know if I'd get to see him anymore and if yes,then when. Suddenly it feels like this was the end,you know. Eeee..it feels horrible to fall for someone >_

you'll get stronger, love. Who needs a sissy little boy that pouts over dumb things? Never hang around somebody that makes you feel like you need to censor yourself, its not worth it. You're not his mama, nor are you responsible for a grown man's feelings..thats his problem. Tough tit.
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you'll get stronger, love. Who needs a sissy little boy that pouts over dumb things? Never hang around somebody that makes you feel like you need to censor yourself, its not worth it. You're not his mama, nor are you responsible for a grown man's feelings..thats his problem. Tough tit.
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Needed to hear those words. Thank you waterCup. 🙂
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"I fear if he moves on"

That's the most direct thing you've said and, fair enough, I respect the honesty.



haha believe me tiziani,I'm actually a very straightforward person in real. It's just that this situation has messed up my brain and it's been annoying me bad. It's like, I don't want to really ignore him if he approaches me of his own AND at the same time my self esteem kicks up and compels me to ignore him because of whatever he said and did. So,I don't really know which path to chose. Keep ignoring hoping he "gets" it or gulp my ego and be normal and friendly and respond to him.
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Gia, I dont think you should ignore him if he returns, but his behaviour shouldnt be a habit either & he needs to know that. He must learn to voice his feelings & talk it out. It annoys me too when people do that, shut down. Like they're the prince of the universe & you must now wait until they're ready. It pisses me off & makes me defiant too like you just described. But at the same time, people deserve at least one more chance to mess it up again, unless you're dealing with cheating lol.
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Thanks much for the input guys.Been pretty enlightening. I was wondering something though. Considering that you have a fair understanding of the way he's behaving right now..when does a libra guy behave like this? As in suddenly all ignorant and distant and pissed off? I'm asking this because the biggest question (which answers most of situations and his behavior) is that why is he behaving this way? Is it because he thought that I was hinting him that I like him and I'm looking for a relationship OR because he likes me and was expecting something out of us but he got angry since he thought I like someone else and not him."
He took me on dates and we got super close in a way that all our friends would be shocked when I'd say that we'rnt in a relationship.I know this is all individual based but any slight perspective would help.