Will this Libra guy give me another chance?

Okay. So I've mentioned this guy before. I'm 29 he's 31 (Libra Sun/Gemini Moon) and I know he had a major crush on me back in the day (10 years ago). Well it never went anywhere because at that time he thought too much and didn't have enough confidence (especially after I turned down a "date", I was pretty dense back then when it came to love/crush situations)I also was pretty type A curt, impatient and somewhat idealistic. Well for 3 years after, we would go back in forth. I try to start a conversation and he would ignore me. The next time he would approach me and I would be over it and be curt and walk away. He stopped trying so did I. I ran into him last summer and surprised that he was still interested. Well, it didn't turn out well because a grown 30 year old turned into a nervous 20 year old boy again only now he has a temper, bigger ego, and still sensitive.

What happened? the same push pull communication from when we were younger only I was the puppet master because I really like him but he caught me at a bad time in my life where I didn't want to be in a relationship at my worst. He didn't know that. He tried something new this time. He was assertive. He sought me out. He made sure to try to get me alone so we can talk and hangout. He touched me (a hug, that broke down the Taurus walls down quick and he picked up on it and became even more assertive), that's a big deal because before he wouldn't come within arms length of me. Libra's are intuitive and he noticed that I avoided him with everything I had. I know I hurt his feelings because it hurt me just as much to go against something that I've wanted for a long time. Anyway, I have not seen him since October (he gave me a tense hi and ignored me). I hope I'll see him next summer because everyone will be outside due to the good weather.

I hope he wont be angry if I explain what was going on. This might find crazy but I think that I was meant to be with him. He is supposed to be my husband. Last summer I was tempted to send him a long email about how I was feeling about him and why I didn't want to be in a relationship (whether I sounded stupid or not) but I was afraid that he would become even more aggressive and try harder to "change my mind". He seemed ready to go hard and I wanted to also with caution.

What he's like? He's kind. I love the way he treats his mom. Friendly, intuitive, ambitious, avid reader, very neat and perfectionist. Dress is very, very casual. (shorts and t-shirt, wrinkled), sensitive, sharp, big ego, gym rat, and he was an amateur boxer for a while. Now he's a corporate accountant.

10 years of this messiness from you. He's probably exhausted.

I'm sure he's still interested but who knows what will happen, well if the pattern remains the way it is now, nothing will happen.

From the way you make this sound I'm sure he's not your husband or this would have launched off the ground by now.

Posted by tiki33
10 years of this messiness from you. He's probably exhausted.

I'm sure he's still interested but who knows what will happen, well if the pattern remains the way it is now, nothing will happen.

From the way you make this sound I'm sure he's not your husband or this would have launched off the ground by now.

Husband is taking it too far. I admit that I was the problem but so was he. He knows that. If he's taken the next time I see him then I'll call it a wash and move on with my life.

Make it happen ! Live your life !
I like your idea ( the email , message ... ) and I respect you because , you want to take what you want !

Posted by muwik
Make it happen ! Live your life !
I like your idea ( the email , message ... ) and I respect you because , you want to take what you want !

Thank you, sweetie 🙂. Now I just have to find. You Libras sure do have a knack for hiding.

Posted by tiziani
I think if anyone thinks of it as "another chance" they are probably already approaching it with the mindset to fail/repeat history/take the whole thing for granted.


Just my experience.

I get that but I don't want this to continue for the next 10 years.

Write the email. Let him know what's up because?? I??ll tell you I'm exhausted just reading about this marry-go-round and Libra??s can get lazy and grow nonchalant and even begin to resent a person that makes them confused or sends too many mixed signals. Our life is confusing enough thanks to those darn scales, and we prefer a more direct, and take charge type of partner to balance us out. Taurus slow moving character in matter??s of love can often clash with the idealist Libra, especially if we've finally made up our minds about you and you go tampering with our decision by sending mixed signals, and not communicating where they are coming from. He's backed off and unless you give him a good reason on why he should continue to hang in there, he's most likely going to walk, or has grown lazy about that situation. It might be too late, but you??ll never know until you talk to him.

Posted by size zero superhero
The longer you deliberate with acting on this, the more you risk limiting your "window of opportunity".

I've had similar issues with Taurus in the past. Prolonged inactivity on their part, only to appear out of left field YEARS later, declaring their long-standing feelings, wondering if I felt the same & wanted to make something of it.
This had me confused, and somewhat suspicious--were they coming forth because other "prospects" fell through, or just holding out to show me who's boss & expected me to play along now that they're ready?

Be prepared for any response. At the very least, he'll probably be surprised & caught off-guard after you spill the beans. Even if he declines, look on the bright side--you won't have to wonder any longer and are free to move on & set your sights elsewhere.

I feel like he will be suspicious maybe because I want something he has or want someone with money to take care of me etc. you're right the soon I approach him and tell him how I feel the sooner I can move on with my life. I'd be happy if we went on one date and it was just okay or awful. At least now I know. (if he's still single)

Thanks . If only I could find him. You Libras are good at hiding and just as good as stalking.

lol... touche mr. balance. I'm well aware of the possibility. I actually saw him in passing tonight. I was preoccupied and he called me out. As soon as I raised my hand to return the greeting. He said "sorry, I have no time to talk" and walked away. that seems like a subtle dig to me especially considering I didn't slow down my pace, I was walking in the other direction, and he was coming from across the street. i'm taking this in stride. at least he's talking to me again.