Posted by starlover+1Posted by ExplicitTrue
The real Twin Flame comes into your life when you least expect it, and usually comes when your soul is ready for the lessons he/she is destined to teach you.
Although most Twin Flames never actually work out, it's not about the relationship working out. It's about the lessons that need to be learned to put you on the path you're meant to be on.
For anyone with misconceptions, it is normally a hellish experience ..... Pushes all your buttons and can leave you drained
I wouldnt look forward to it
Lolclick to expand
Posted by sultrykitty+2Posted by starlover+1Posted by ExplicitTrue
The real Twin Flame comes into your life when you least expect it, and usually comes when your soul is ready for the lessons he/she is destined to teach you.
Although most Twin Flames never actually work out, it's not about the relationship working out. It's about the lessons that need to be learned to put you on the path you're meant to be on.
For anyone with misconceptions, it is normally a hellish experience ..... Pushes all your buttons and can leave you drained
I wouldnt look forward to it
Lolclick to expand
Posted by PheonixBluezHuh. Mine is too. I haven't seen or spoken with him in a year. Had a very interesting lucid dream with him in it a couple months back and since then haven't had much thought or angst about him at all. I think we've let each other go finally. The whole thing was just strange from the beginning (an understatement).
Yes. It was a hellish experience that drained me and drove me crazy. I had never went through that before in my life. He's a Scorpio. He comes in and out of my life ever so often. I was very naive prior to meeting him. He's a Scorpio by the way.
Posted by ladyleo3There is no such thing as a "fake" or "counterfeit" Twin flame so for starters you have to know that, otherwise you will go down this constant path of believing you have met your twin, to fake twin, to twin, to fake twin, wash, rinse, repeat.
I know this person is indeed a false twin flame. I've accepted that, and am at complete peace with it. i know i needed the lesson. anyway I'm wondering if the real twin can come after the counterfeit twin, after the lesson is learned. any thoughts on this? (if i have met my twin, does that cause an immediate awakening?)
Posted by arose32I agree. I'm selfish with my feelings. I'm afraid he will hurt me so I run. I've struggled with the balance and even when I convince myself that if he reached out I would be there I can't help but keep moving on. I don't know how to explain it.
@aNEWday you sound selfish... Especially if he's reached out ... It's not about you all the time. But whatever makes you happy
Posted by ImpulsvI meant the disconnect of me trying to move on hurt deeply. I was stuck between really liking the guy, but a strong part of me knew something about him was off. I've always thought he was a ladies man. I mean; he is. I've had multiple dreams about him being a player. I don't know why. In real life I know a lot of women like him, but I don't know how far he takes that attention.
"Honestly I cannot say that this was a significant relationship in my life as we were never actually together. I am the runner. Something never felt right, so I would always run. He would always reach out. But it affected me deeply for some reason. Maybe it was a trigger to realize I was not completely ok deep down."
New day how did his reaching out affect u so deeply yet u rejected? Was it fear?
Posted by ImpulsvNo, his behaviour is always pure. I know he is kind hearted. I just don't know for sure his intentions as far as what he wants from me. To me, from his actions I take it he was looking for something more sexual and not serious.Posted by aNEWdayBut his behavior has never been such of hurting u ? Or has he? Is it based on past hurts that he triggers ? Are u afraid because u hurt him when he's reaching out is for revenge not because of him seeking out for good intentions.Posted by arose32I agree. I'm selfish with my feelings. I'm afraid he will hurt me so I run. I've struggled with the balance and even when I convince myself that if he reached out I would be there I can't help but keep moving on. I don't know how to explain it.
@aNEWday you sound selfish... Especially if he's reached out ... It's not about you all the time. But whatever makes you happy
I reached a few but hurting him was never the reason
I genuinely wanted to work things out
He reached out on e n I asked directly what he wanted but even then I sense he felt my words as harshclick to expand
Posted by arose32Yea if there's something I've learned from all of thisnisntgat I need to open my mouth - ask questions and speak up bc people are not psychic lol. Communication always scares me, but I've learned it needs to be done.
Communication is key... But, I've noticed people so worried about getting hurt.. They hurt the other person in the scenario... Maybe try to embrace it for once? Especially if he keeps popping up. Unless he's an ex, etc and you know he's a player... Or you feel it would never end well... I understand.
But he's on your mind, because you wrote about him...
Question though: what makes you run?
Posted by ImpulsvI don't know how much I believe the source, but I've been told we were married in a past life - arranged marriage- but I didn't really love him and loved someone else. He ultimately messed up my relationship with another guy.
Lol distracted by u lol
N how is focus on work bad rather than all these other women.
Interesting on The liking n disliking . Also there is karma still between tf that might need to be cleared.
Maybe in a past life he was but loved u n u have that cell memory making run. Doesn't mean he betrayed u in past?
My tf just said he feared hurting me
Could not understand why what was the big deal you hurt n that's all. at least it was tried n no regrets. But turns out past life I hurt my self , maybe has cell memory of it?
But I'd never do it in this life although it felt like death( seperation)
Posted by ImpulsvAre you separated from your tf? How is or was your relationship?
Lol distracted by u lol
N how is focus on work bad rather than all these other women.
Interesting on The liking n disliking . Also there is karma still between tf that might need to be cleared.
Maybe in a past life he was but loved u n u have that cell memory making run. Doesn't mean he betrayed u in past?
My tf just said he feared hurting me
Could not understand why what was the big deal you hurt n that's all. at least it was tried n no regrets. But turns out past life I hurt my self , maybe has cell memory of it?
But I'd never do it in this life although it felt like death( seperation)
Posted by ImpulsvThis makes me kind of sad and confused. As he probably feels! I think like another poster stated communication could have helped with alleviating all of this confusion, but here we are. And forward, whatever that means, is the best way for me.Posted by aNEWdayI always showed pure intention n hoped he can based his judgement of me on my behavior as I was always like u describedPosted by ImpulsvNo, his behaviour is always pure. I know he is kind hearted. I just don't know for sure his intentions as far as what he wants from me. To me, from his actions I take it he was looking for something more sexual and not serious.Posted by aNEWdayBut his behavior has never been such of hurting u ? Or has he? Is it based on past hurts that he triggers ? Are u afraid because u hurt him when he's reaching out is for revenge not because of him seeking out for good intentions.Posted by arose32I agree. I'm selfish with my feelings. I'm afraid he will hurt me so I run. I've struggled with the balance and even when I convince myself that if he reached out I would be there I can't help but keep moving on. I don't know how to explain it.
@aNEWday you sound selfish... Especially if he's reached out ... It's not about you all the time. But whatever makes you happy
I reached a few but hurting him was never the reason
I genuinely wanted to work things out
He reached out on e n I asked directly what he wanted but even then I sense he felt my words as harsh
I don't think he wants revenge. Between the both of us, I seem to be more revengeful but I don't even know why! It is the weirdest thing. Like I'm angry at him but I am not sure why.
I suspect he distrusted me n I had given no reason
But we push each other's triggers
Day he broke up I had returned from Cabo had saw bruise on inner thigh. Asked n I could not answer because I had t notice
N didn't know how. Later yeah ATV. Something came up n broke up. I triggered him yet I'm farthest from what he imagined.
I also sensed his anger on me.
Is it because u blame him for all the chaos tf brings? Just curious
So if u think he wants to use u for sex address that false belief system n heal that . It's ur belief not what he showedclick to expand
Posted by ImpulsvOk, I see.. He is the runner. It's not easy.. It's torturous for us too bc it's like we feel we are pulled in 2 different ways.Posted by aNEWdayYes , turbulent he kept pushing me but would return then runPosted by ImpulsvAre you separated from your tf? How is or was your relationship?
Lol distracted by u lol
N how is focus on work bad rather than all these other women.
Interesting on The liking n disliking . Also there is karma still between tf that might need to be cleared.
Maybe in a past life he was but loved u n u have that cell memory making run. Doesn't mean he betrayed u in past?
My tf just said he feared hurting me
Could not understand why what was the big deal you hurt n that's all. at least it was tried n no regrets. But turns out past life I hurt my self , maybe has cell memory of it?
But I'd never do it in this life although it felt like death( seperation)
I'd reach out n he was always happy to hear from me n actually noted on thing he healed n vs but it would not last n he'd disappear n then he'd call n again catch up! Sometimes sex involved sometimes catching up. Called me his yoda n best Freind but he kept rejecting pushing me away. Didn't know what he was so afraid of.
He married another two years ago his eyes don't look joyful.
You should try your own past life regression
Through u tube n find ur own answers
I never trust what others say
I did it n saw it in my own eyes in meditation with a hypnotist.
Not sure why u think it's easier or best to move forward n away from him though?click to expand
Posted by ImpulsvWhat do you mean by go deep inside?
@anewday
Why fight it ! "Go deep inside"
Seems like fighting it hasn't made u forget
Just saying I'll post my tf eyes
Posted by ImpulsvThank you, I will try this. Part of my fear maybe of going deeper is that - it gets too emotional and scary for me.
@anewday I posted my tf eyes
Ok I use this to get me in that meditative spot but then at somepoint I guide myself asking to enter the door in which u n ur tf shared one life time. Once u open observe ur surrounding n hopefully the memory will play back
At end I ask what was the lesson needed to learn in this life time. N ask to be sorrounded by my angels in support.
If it gets to emotional u can tell urself u are detaching from that body n observe. If furnished u tell tell higher self to observe behind that dresser ect. Just to detach from scary feelings or traumatic incident u may happen to come across .
I suggest u try the video first to familiarize but later u can self guide to lives having to do with tf.
Posted by ImpulsvIm a scorpio too.. we both are so I know too well 🙂Posted by aNEWdayPosted by ImpulsvWhat do you mean by go deep inside?
@anewday
Why fight it ! "Go deep inside"
Seems like fighting it hasn't made u forget
Just saying I'll post my tf eyes
How? I've tried to get answers to all this but it's become to much work so I move on
Song to me is double meaning yes go deep inside of self but also only deep in there under all that crap n fear like song say " I am yours" .
Instead of moving forward stand still , just be in the now n I guess being a Scorpio I understand going inside.
How can I explain
You don't turn away on the issues you've pushed off this far
U look at them . U look at every angle, where does it come from , why do I do this why do I react to it ect.
Go for the truth of the matter. Example you think he is a player. Truth is actions in real life have shown he's not
Where does the idea come from
Unworthiness, not good enough cuz he's too good to be true must be a player cuz every one wants him.
But he chose u? Why do u doubt his intentions are real? When he's shown others wise. Belief someone like him would not or could not love u?
Does it come from childhood belief of male role models?
N this is one issue!
U say you don't want to do the work ? How can you not want to be better n freer? How can u not chose you?
These meeting is to reminds us this is the time ! Time to chose us n heal , bring down barriers n belief systems that hold us back from our truth and joy!click to expand
Posted by ImpulsvUltimately aren't we not supposed to be with our twin flame?
"But don't you think you are better off with different people?"
No how could it! I walk this earth without meaning with a whole in my being . Trying to find new meaning
I haven't dated since him n I can't fake it. I've met no one that I've felt like I did with him n doubt I will.
I walk this earth like a vagabond
He thought it was better n look still not happy
He screwed us both.
Posted by ImpulsvReally? That's interesting but it makes sense. I've grown a lot since I started to "run". I can definitely say that I feel more healed and not so obsessive and stuck as I was. For that I am thankful
I've read that the feeling of something is off is way to establish seperation for healing in our paths
Posted by ImpulsvI know this wasn't for me, but mental fortitude. Allow him into your thoughts for a brief moment, to acknowledge and appreciate his presence, then push him out. I have to actively visualize that happening. I feel him much less now.
@anewday
How do u move ?
It's hard when at time u feel them
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