Aggression

i want to know your take on this:
can being raised in a predominantly male environment cause girls/women to be aggressive??

take me for example, i have 3 brothers. although my parents were divorced(i lived with my mom) i spent a lot of time at my dad's house. he had 4 of his brothers (my uncles) living there. i would hang out there, watch the games on tv (football, basketball, rugby, soccer, baseball) , play cards( poker, etc), horseshoes, craps, dominoes...well you get my point.

now (grown woman) i work in the engineering field. at my job there are 27 male engineers and 3 female engineers. of the 3 females its me(american),Sharon(UK) and Mable (canadian). although we are from different countries, we were all raised around mostly men. the guys at work call us aggressive.
but in the engineering field you have to be, some of the guys are real jerks. try to take credit for your work etc..

post please & thank you....

Posted by aliennation

Posted by TasteOfChaosss
Na I grew up with two brothers.... One talks about farts more than I care to hear but I still wear dresses and act like a lady in public.

Working with more men than women doesn't make you a Tom boy or anything!?

Neither does playing poker. The OP should correct me if I'm wrong, but I think she's referring more to gender role stereotypes, of which we all recognize (and dismiss) as such.

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yes, i am talking about gender role stereotypes. because this dick at work said for me to be the chief engineer and to only have my fellow fem_engins on the project with me. we must be the most aggressive women in the engineering field. i know that sounds like a compliment kind of..but in the engineering world he was calling us tomboys/sluts. i am far from being tomboyish and my days as a slut are over. i can chill with the guys yes but i also like to go shopping with the girls.

my friends/coworker and i was just wondering about this. because they are forever calling us that, 'aggressive'. and that is the reason that i didnt pick any of them to work on this project with me. but i have to hire one guy grrr...i'm already grinding my teeth about it.

so we (my coworkers and I) had a question and i posted it here. thanks for responding

so basically here if you are in what is supposedly a male dominated field. you didn't get there because you are as smart or smarter than them you got there because you are either, a lesbian, tomboy, slut, or your an a aggressive female.

which is bull well in our case. i cant speak for every women in this field.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Not completely, some women are just aggressive and crass, not saying chemengin is, I was thinking more the 'ladette' types that were popular late 90s onwards.
By all means try and act like a guy if you want, but you're not at the end of the day lol.

thats true, when i was an intern my boss was like that. she used to meet the guys at the bar, always bragging that she can drink them under the table. then come to work looking like a hot mess crying in the bathroom.

What is your mbti type?

asking the op of course.

Posted by Sizzurp
@ OP

If the men think you're aggressive, let them believe you're some tame kitty like they believe you should be. And then, bust their ass 🙂

will do, thanks 🙂

Posted by ReinDeer

Posted by chemengin
so basically here if you are in what is supposedly a male dominated field. you didn't get there because you are as smart or smarter than them you got there because you are either, a lesbian, tomboy, slut, or your an a aggressive female.

which is bull well in our case. i cant speak for every women in this field.

Weird. people are far more complex when it comes to reality.

Guess what, there were girls at my high school who were known by their aggressiveness,being good with basketball and sports stuff, changing their boyfriend like their panties, smoking, drinking alcohol, obsessed with flashy fashionable clothes and wearing lots of make up, skipping classes.....BUT they obviously never had interest in math or any academics....and few of them are pregnant now,so........

Should I call them feminine OR tomboy? *scratches head*

Aaaand OP, why did you/some people come to think that women who are in engineering fields must behave all like men?

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i didnt say we must behave like men. that is the stereotype. basically engineering is a dominated by men...still is these days. and women are not always welcomed. because if you are in this field and your female, then these stereotypes are placed upon you. and its stupid.

Posted by red_aries
What is your mbti type?

sorry i almost missed this, my mbti type is INTJ

Me mum was the sweetist loving woman who ever lived
me pa was a hard working man who never gave any on any greef

I would just as soon shoot most people as look at them

I don't want to hurt them I just want to shoot them in the head and be rid of them.

Posted by P-Angel

LMAO....WTH

just be who you are, stop stereotyping girls that are 'behaving' like guys and guys that are 'behaving' like girls, what a person behaves like isnt them themselves. Ppl need to realise that you must become who you are regardless of whether or not you have a penis or a vagina.

So stereotypical of people these days. Shakes head in dismay.

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Posted by aliennation
High five @chemengin for introvert power...

INTP right here. 😉

whoop whoop..*hands in the air*

Posted by ReinDeer

Posted by chemengin

Posted by ReinDeer

Posted by chemengin
so basically here if you are in what is supposedly a male dominated field. you didn't get there because you are as smart or smarter than them you got there because you are either, a lesbian, tomboy, slut, or your an a aggressive female.

which is bull well in our case. i cant speak for every women in this field.

Weird. people are far more complex when it comes to reality.

Guess what, there were girls at my high school who were known by their aggressiveness,being good with basketball and sports stuff, changing their boyfriend like their panties, smoking, drinking alcohol, obsessed with flashy fashionable clothes and wearing lots of make up, skipping classes.....BUT they obviously never had interest in math or any academics....and few of them are pregnant now,so........

Should I call them feminine OR tomboy? *scratches head*

Aaaand OP, why did you/some people come to think that women who are in engineering fields must behave all like men?

i didnt say we must behave like men. that is the stereotype. basically engineering is a dominated by men...still is these days. and women are not always welcomed. because if you are in this field and your female, then these stereotypes are placed upon you. and its stupid.

I hate that stereotype,too.
Now I`m a science student,so I will work in engineering field in the future. I haven`t heard that 'aggressive,slut' stereotype yet, but I`ll be prepared,lol.

I`m also INTJ 🙂

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INTJ....YAY!!! WHOOOP WHOOP!

on a serious note, its like there little secret amongst the men. its disgusting. but, i dont care..i love my job. and for you knowledge is power. us it wisely.

freaking typos....i meant" use it wisely"...grr

yay chem, intj here too

Posted by WaterCup
yay chem, intj here too

whoop! whoop!...*raising hands in the air*

Posted by aliennation

Posted by chemengin

Posted by aliennation
High five @chemengin for introvert power...

INTP right here. 😉

whoop whoop..*hands in the air*

I wish I had the J! 😭 My P means I'm messy.

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"They are strongly ingenious, and have unconventional thought patterns which allows them to analyze ideas in new ways. Consequently, a lot of scientific breakthroughs in the world have been made by the INTP."


so what, your messy...your type changes the world girl! whoop whoop!