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At a Crossroads.........:(
Wow what a story.. you should really write this down.. how it all plays out and everything, would probably be a best seller. (I'm serious, why not make some money off your familys tragedy? I'm planning to write my family's story out someday and get the royalties)
That said, I probably wouldn't go.. they do have enough to deal with with a death in the family. I know its kind of your right, but there is probably a better time to drop that bomb on them than when they're greiving. I have a sort of similar situation in my family, I have NO contact with my bio father's side of the family because of the fucked up stuff he and his parents did to me, my siblings, and my mom when we were younger. But I would like to know my cousins, they didn't do anything. So I looked them up on facebook. Maybe that's a good way to go about it? Just an idea, it worked for me. Your grandfather may never be able to man up and take responsibility for what he did, but if you want to know the rest of them that might be a good way to get your foot in the door. Even if you only find one, maybe that one can introduce you to the rest.
That said, I probably wouldn't go.. they do have enough to deal with with a death in the family. I know its kind of your right, but there is probably a better time to drop that bomb on them than when they're greiving. I have a sort of similar situation in my family, I have NO contact with my bio father's side of the family because of the fucked up stuff he and his parents did to me, my siblings, and my mom when we were younger. But I would like to know my cousins, they didn't do anything. So I looked them up on facebook. Maybe that's a good way to go about it? Just an idea, it worked for me. Your grandfather may never be able to man up and take responsibility for what he did, but if you want to know the rest of them that might be a good way to get your foot in the door. Even if you only find one, maybe that one can introduce you to the rest.
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Wayyyyyy back years ago in my GRANDMOTHERS time (when she was just only 15 to be exact) she got pregnant by some man, a friend of her older brother. Now, my grandmother is fully black, this man was fully white, he was way older (ten years or so? Maybe a little more) AND he was already married with kids...... When he found out that my grandmother was pregnant, he dipped! Just left, never turned back. SHE never heard from him again but, she did have the baby which is my mother...
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See my mom may have ran into his brother (her uncle) years ago when she was in her twenties and I was still a toddler. She found out his name, where he lived, and his hone number. She called her dad, and his exact words were "Please don't ever call me again..." Well she did call him again, later on down the road but ......... to no avail.
A few years went by and 😢 She sees his name in the obituary.... She didnt have enough courage to got to his funeral. In fact, she may have went but my grandmother lied to her and said that was not him. My mom called her the day the obituary was released in the paper and my grandmothers first words ( before my mom could even ask) was "No Michelle, thats not him..) And thats all she would say on the matter... My mother stopped trying long ago.. But Im stubborn🙂. I asked my grandmother one day about two years ago to tell me about him.. Big mistake she got Nasty with me, then began to cry (not in front of me my mom told me later that week)..
Sigh... Now to the conclusionn of it all: There has Been another name in the obituary... My mothers grandfather, her fathers father. Just passed away as well. The funeral is tomorrow. What would you do in a situation like this? Would it be wrong for us to just SHOW up? And dropped the bomb on his kids and grandkids that their father was cheating on their mother and abandoned his babygirl 34 years ago?