Friends...

Do you feel that a guys or a girls closest friends are a direct reflection of who they are? Like the old saying "you are who you hangout with"..

What are your opinions and experiences?

I don't think they're a direct reflection. Some friendships started early on in life and people still are in those friendships despite being fundamentally different when they grew up. After all, we change a little with every life experience. You can have 2 completely different individuals as far as values go and they are friends because they've been there for each other through thick and thin.

Not necessarily looking for, but I like to see variety. It tells me that person embraces different mindsets, probably has good compromising skills, high level of tolerance etc. Well rounded imo.

With me I can only say that if you try to get a grasp on me by who my friends are..it will change completely from one friend to the next. They are very very different. We are all kind people, as a common ground. And from what I know, none of us are cheaters. Other than that we are as different as night and day.

I'm more concerned with people who have no friends. And not the loner introverted types, I can understand that. Just..not being able to be friends with anyone. I met this guy once and he had no friends so I assumed he was introverted. Later, I found out he did have friends at some point but screwed all of them over in different ways. I wrongly assumed introversion, just to realize he was in the habit of using people.