Getting through hard times?

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Money situation at home is pretty bad,my Taurus dad is doing everything possible to take care of us, my sag mom is constantly complaining ,my cap sis shows no emotions at all, my scorp boyfriend is unemployed again,dreaming about the perfect life and I'm just sitting here, analyzing this shit, trying to take care of everybody,help or at least ease their minds, while looking for new and better paid job. And I'm pretty sure I need a therapist, but I cant afford it (yay) and ALSO when I try to talk to any of my friends about this stuff or how I feel like shit, they don't seem to take me seriously, because usually I'm the drunk fun gal/ or maybe they're just not that good of a friends. UGH

As you can see I'm kinda desperate so I'd appreciate every bit of advice

p.s. also 4 or 5 years ago around Christmas I got diagnosed with cancer and every following year I kinda go into depression when the time comes (WHICH IS NOW, help )

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Posted by Ravishing
I realized that no matter what you do, sometimes you literally have NO control over what goes down in life and you just have to wait it out. This was my case, anyway. Just wait it out. It could take years, one year, a few months - who knows. You just have to be strong and wait for the storm to pass and try to make the best of your circumstances right now.
years..how long did you wait?
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Posted by imnotvirgo
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First. What's with your cancer? How is it doing? Going away? 🙏
thank you, well, 6-7 months of chemo and doctors told me I was clean, never went to check again, I just try not to think about it now (impossible) 😄
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So let's pray and put cancer aside for now.

You need to get out of financial hole.

Trust me I understand as no one!

From riches to rags is ouch!

Are you strong and well enough to work full time and do as much as you can physically?

What is the problem finding a job in your area?

Are you in USA? Pm me
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Posted by Gemitati
Posted by imnotvirgo
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First. What's with your cancer? How is it doing? Going away? 🙏
thank you, well, 6-7 months of chemo and doctors told me I was clean, never went to check again, I just try not to think about it now (impossible) 😄
So let's pray and put cancer aside for now.

You need to get out of financial hole.

Trust me I understand as no one!

From riches to rags is ouch!

Are you strong and well enough to work full time and do as much as you can physically?

What is the problem finding a job in your area?

Are you in USA? Pm me
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Oh God, thank you,you're really sweet ! I'm in Europe tho , and I plan to bust my ass of work if this is going to make my parents just slightly more happy. Money is actually everything ,eh. Thank you again for being so kind 🙂
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Posted by Ravishing
Posted by imnotvirgo
Posted by Ravishing
I realized that no matter what you do, sometimes you literally have NO control over what goes down in life and you just have to wait it out. This was my case, anyway. Just wait it out. It could take years, one year, a few months - who knows. You just have to be strong and wait for the storm to pass and try to make the best of your circumstances right now.
years..how long did you wait?

2010 - 2016 for things to finally start getting better...

And I'm still going through it, just not as intense and bad. lol!
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You're a strong one, if you've made it till now ,you're gonna make it in the future 🙂
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Posted by imnotvirgo
Posted by Gemitati
First. What's with your cancer? How is it doing? Going away? 🙏
thank you, well, 6-7 months of chemo and doctors told me I was clean, never went to check again, I just try not to think about it now (impossible) 😄
So let's pray and put cancer aside for now.

You need to get out of financial hole.

Trust me I understand as no one!

From riches to rags is ouch!

Are you strong and well enough to work full time and do as much as you can physically?

What is the problem finding a job in your area?

Are you in USA? Pm me
Oh God, thank you,you're really sweet ! I'm in Europe tho , and I plan to bust my ass of work if this is going to make my parents just slightly more happy. Money is actually everything ,eh. Thank you again for being so kind 🙂

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Yes! Don't you love when they say money can't buy happiness? They can buy peace of mind and that's part of happiness!

Well. My friend is in Germany and I've heard you guys have pretty good social help out there. What's your country dealnon that? Usually natives don't

Know what immigrants do! And there are

Lots of resources available that you who are born there have NO idea about. Have you research on that?
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Posted by imnotvirgo
Posted by Gemitati
First. What's with your cancer? How is it doing? Going away? 🙏
thank you, well, 6-7 months of chemo and doctors told me I was clean, never went to check again, I just try not to think about it now (impossible) 😄
Were you supposed to go in for a check? I would think so periodically. Is there a reason you haven't?
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While I was in the hospital my dad was almost 24/7 in the library, reading every possible book on my diagnosis, how people tried to treat it,etc. He believed in alternative treatment and decided that after I'm done with chemo, we'll all start to eat healthy af, preventing it from coming back again, and advised me to try to forget the things I went through and just live. So we never went there again.