My name is Gertrude.

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I'm confused - so are you sure he cheated or not, because you say he definitely did, but you are also implying that he is cheating simply because something "feels off" about a phone call he received.

So did you leave information out? Is there more information to back up your claim that he is cheating?

She asked a ouija board.

Lol I don't even know how to tackle this because the whole basis of the post might not even be true, so it's not even worth my time addressing hypotheticals.

LOL right? She titles it as if she knows definitively he is cheating. But the more you read the thread, the more you realize, she has no proof. A phone call, and not hanging out with her one night, and her perceived notion that he wasn't being affectionate enough equates to HE LIKES SOMEONE ELSE OMG HE DOES I KNOW IT.

It's like, wut?????????? HOWDIDYOUGETFROMPOINTATOTANGENTOFmANACUTETRIANGLE?!?!?

I know, I was ready for another good cheating thread because I hadn't seen one pop up in a minute. I cooked popcorn and I got all comfortable and ready to reply. But then I read it, and there was no her walking in on him treetrunking some hoe. There was no hair pulled. No clothes got burned. And I was like wtf, what a let down.

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We really haven't had a good cheating thread in awhile. We need school to start again, so that all the newbies start coming to DXP all over again. Meh. lol

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She has to PROVE her loyalty and her trustworthiness if she plans to be exclusive for long term...

Yes, but are you willing to do the same that you require for her as well? How do you prove loyalty as well?

Just picking your brain on this.

Yes.

That would be me being in a relationship.. Something I eventually decided that I want and that she's been asking for.

I'm already halfway there anyway.. What I just told Superman77.. All I have to do is get off DXP and I'm a only in the real world, baby.

But let's say if I didn't, so the treetrunk what... I don't have to be treetrunking fair.

cookiemonster, you either want me enough to do what I asked OR NOT.

I don't have to live up to anything other than myself. If it's unfair, there's the treetrunking door.. And I BET SHE WON'T LEAVE.

But I'm "fair"..

There isn't a right or wrong answer to my question. It's more or less, trying to figure out if she made demands on you, that weren't necessarily the same as you indicate, would you do it as well. If those are the things she requires to be exclusive, and to be happy. Would you make the choice or not to do so.

I think I answered your question.. I would just be repeating myself at this point.

No you did, I was just explaining why I asked the initial question. You would make the choice to do so. Not because you were forced either.

Exactly.. No forcing going on.

Everybody making me out to be oppressive, abusiveeee.. And all this crazy butter.

But they just suckers.

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That is why I phrased the question the way I did. So that people could pay attention to your answer, that it is a choice, not force.

I may not agree with some of the statements you have made, because we differ on those. But I get the context of what you are saying, and understand it a little more.

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It comes down to just " hope "

You have to hope your significant other respects you enough to not cheat emotionally or physically with a friend of the opposite sex.

Because the truth is most of the time attraction is there. And given the right circumstances or enough alcohol people would take the chance with the friend.

That's just real life.

If you think your boyfriend hasn't jerked off to his hot female friend or you haven't wanted to curl up and cry to your guy friend when you boyfriend is being a cookiemonster. You are lying to yourself.

I guess hope and trust are kinda similar in this context....And I agree with most of this, especially the bold part. But I would never "take the chance" or even have the desire to, no matter how drunk. I think emotional, mental, or even physical chemistry being present, can actually be kinda fun as long as there are boundaries. I think most people would even want to be surrounded by attractive people in their closest social circle. Ultimately this is why I think its better to bring opp. sex friends into the fold, and not have them as outliers that you or your SO always hang out with separately. Once that happens, that risk looks much less appealing. You don't just damage your own relationship, but the dynamic of the entire group if you decide to cheat - if the group works well as is, there's a certain respect for that, and desire to preserve it. If an opp. sex friend doesn't fit in there, probably less likely that I'd be hanging with them when in a committed relationship, just out of respect for my partner.

"I think most people would even want to be surrounded by attractive people in their closest social circle."

Yeah this is what I was saying to Nikki yesterday.

And we decided that I only keep attractive women around for their nudes.

#ItsNotCreepyCuzNikki

var sendnudes
var dxper
var Nikkistar


if dxper = Nikkistar

then sendnudes = 1


else sendnudes = 0

print "that's creepy!"

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I do like your widget you are developing right now. Think we can make this into a full on app, that allows you to take pictures and send them to me immediately.

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Posted by Emhendo

She has to PROVE her loyalty and her trustworthiness if she plans to be exclusive for long term...

Yes, but are you willing to do the same that you require for her as well? How do you prove loyalty as well?

Just picking your brain on this.

Yes.

That would be me being in a relationship.. Something I eventually decided that I want and that she's been asking for.

I'm already halfway there anyway.. What I just told Superman77.. All I have to do is get off DXP and I'm a only in the real world, baby.

But let's say if I didn't, so the treetrunk what... I don't have to be treetrunking fair.

cookiemonster, you either want me enough to do what I asked OR NOT.

I don't have to live up to anything other than myself. If it's unfair, there's the treetrunking door.. And I BET SHE WON'T LEAVE.

But I'm "fair"..

There isn't a right or wrong answer to my question. It's more or less, trying to figure out if she made demands on you, that weren't necessarily the same as you indicate, would you do it as well. If those are the things she requires to be exclusive, and to be happy. Would you make the choice or not to do so.

I think I answered your question.. I would just be repeating myself at this point.

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No you did, I was just explaining why I asked the initial question. You would make the choice to do so. Not because you were forced either.

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Posted by Metatron

Posted by Sag898
It comes down to just " hope "

You have to hope your significant other respects you enough to not cheat emotionally or physically with a friend of the opposite sex.

Because the truth is most of the time attraction is there. And given the right circumstances or enough alcohol people would take the chance with the friend.

That's just real life.

If you think your boyfriend hasn't jerked off to his hot female friend or you haven't wanted to curl up and cry to your guy friend when you boyfriend is being a cookiemonster. You are lying to yourself.

I guess hope and trust are kinda similar in this context....And I agree with most of this, especially the bold part. But I would never "take the chance" or even have the desire to, no matter how drunk. I think emotional, mental, or even physical chemistry being present, can actually be kinda fun as long as there are boundaries. I think most people would even want to be surrounded by attractive people in their closest social circle. Ultimately this is why I think its better to bring opp. sex friends into the fold, and not have them as outliers that you or your SO always hang out with separately. Once that happens, that risk looks much less appealing. You don't just damage your own relationship, but the dynamic of the entire group if you decide to cheat - if the group works well as is, there's a certain respect for that, and desire to preserve it. If an opp. sex friend doesn't fit in there, probably less likely that I'd be hanging with them when in a committed relationship, just out of respect for my partner.

"I think most people would even want to be surrounded by attractive people in their closest social circle."

Yeah this is what I was saying to Nikki yesterday.

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And we decided that I only keep attractive women around for their nudes.

#ItsNotCreepyCuzNikki

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Posted by nanobot
I'm confused - so are you sure he cheated or not, because you say he definitely did, but you are also implying that he is cheating simply because something "feels off" about a phone call he received.

So did you leave information out? Is there more information to back up your claim that he is cheating?

She asked a ouija board.

Lol I don't even know how to tackle this because the whole basis of the post might not even be true, so it's not even worth my time addressing hypotheticals.

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LOL right? She titles it as if she knows definitively he is cheating. But the more you read the thread, the more you realize, she has no proof. A phone call, and not hanging out with her one night, and her perceived notion that he wasn't being affectionate enough equates to HE LIKES SOMEONE ELSE OMG HE DOES I KNOW IT.

It's like, wut?????????? HOWDIDYOUGETFROMPOINTATOTANGENTOFANACUTETRIANGLE?!?!?

Posted by Emhendo

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Posted by Emhendo

She has to PROVE her loyalty and her trustworthiness if she plans to be exclusive for long term...

Yes, but are you willing to do the same that you require for her as well? How do you prove loyalty as well?

Just picking your brain on this.

Yes.

That would be me being in a relationship.. Something I eventually decided that I want and that she's been asking for.

I'm already halfway there anyway.. What I just told Superman77.. All I have to do is get off DXP and I'm a only in the real world, baby.

But let's say if I didn't, so the treetrunk what... I don't have to be treetrunking fair.

cookiemonster, you either want me enough to do what I asked OR NOT.

I don't have to live up to anything other than myself. If it's unfair, there's the treetrunking door.. And I BET SHE WON'T LEAVE.

But I'm "fair"..

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There isn't a right or wrong answer to my question. It's more or less, trying to figure out if she made demands on you, that weren't necessarily the same as you indicate, would you do it as well. If those are the things she requires to be exclusive, and to be happy. Would you make the choice or not to do so.

Posted by nanobot
I'm confused - so are you sure he cheated or not, because you say he definitely did, but you are also implying that he is cheating simply because something "feels off" about a phone call he received.

So did you leave information out? Is there more information to back up your claim that he is cheating?

She asked a ouija board.

Posted by tiziani

Posted by nikkistar

Posted by Sag898
It comes down to just " hope "

You have to hope your significant other respects you enough to not cheat emotionally or physically with a friend of the opposite sex.

Because the truth is most of the time attraction is there. And given the right circumstances or enough alcohol people would take the chance with the friend.

That's just real life.

If you think your boyfriend hasn't jerked off to his hot female friend or you haven't wanted to curl up and cry to your guy friend when you boyfriend is being a cookiemonster. You are lying to yourself.

LOL Wut

Not everyone lives in a realm of ulterior motives.

You just wouldn't curl up and cry on a guy friend, that's the real beef here!

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That's what I have my semi truck for. The DPF Filter on it, is super cuddly!

Posted by Emhendo

he's has to PROVE her loyalty and her trustworthiness if she plans to be exclusive for long term...

Yes, but are you willing to do the same that you require for her as well? How do you prove loyalty as well?

Just picking your brain on this.

Posted by Sag898
It comes down to just " hope "

You have to hope your significant other respects you enough to not cheat emotionally or physically with a friend of the opposite sex.

Because the truth is most of the time attraction is there. And given the right circumstances or enough alcohol people would take the chance with the friend.

That's just real life.

If you think your boyfriend hasn't jerked off to his hot female friend or you haven't wanted to curl up and cry to your guy friend when you boyfriend is being a cookiemonster. You are lying to yourself.

LOL Wut

Not everyone lives in a realm of ulterior motives.

Ok, so let me get this straight, you've been with this guy for 4 months, but he is your "world". You guys have already got into a physical fight. You don't know if he cheated, but state it as a matter of fact because he took a call from a girl that he did while in your presence. And you have basically made him your focal point in your life, simply because you have become hugely co-dependent on him solely for human interaction now.

You have become overly clingy, and needy. He is acting differently, not because he is cheating, but in all likelihood, you have become overly dramatic. You aquas have this weird tendency to almost need far too much attention emotionally, when attached. He can, and is more than likely re-evaluating the relationship. That fight, at 4 months, is ridiculous. Especially over a call, when he has done nothing but make you a priority almost everyday for the last 4 months. But you're throwing a fit about a single call, and a single day where he didn't hang out with you. JFC. And you keep painting him the villain with NO proof. He's a cheater now right? Except he took you out on another date, and your proof is, he wasn't up your ass 24/7.

Maybe, just maybe, he has some reservations now that he has to work through.

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Been married once, really don't need to be married to the Cancer. However, HE wants to be married, and he likes the ring, so I will abide by what he wants. That piece of paper isn't the end all be all for me. I can be with him for life, without it. Marriage doesn't equate to longevity of a relationship.

And to be honest, I really don't see a need for an extravagant wedding. The wasting of money, to essentially entertain a bunch of folks, seems economically stupid. I'd be fine going to Vegas, putting on a nice little eggshell dress, and then just having fun the remaining time like a vacation. Hell, I wouldn't mind a justice of the peace doing it, and then spending money on a honeymoon instead.

I just don't see a purpose in NEEDING to be married.

What is the biggest thing from your first marriage that you don't feel concerned over for this next life partner of yours?

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Honestly, I have never really cared about marriage at all. I was never a girl, growing up, that fantasized about a wedding. Sure, I thought about it, but marriage wasn't my "ideal", so to speak. I purely married the first time around, to appease my mother. She nagged me to death about wanting me married because of my son. Lots of her pushing her religious beliefs onto me, about marriage. So we got married by a Justice of the Peace. No big wedding, just did it.

I get the appeal of marriage, and because it's not a big deal to me, I don't mind getting married. But if I wasn't, I would be fine as well.

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I'm just here for the triggerings.

Says the Romance Novel cover model.

Not even. My beer gut is a tough son of a cookiemonster and isn't going down without a fight.

Not to mention nearly all my clothes are at least 1 if not 2 sizes too big right now. So I look schlubby af.

#humblebrag

I don't think so... it depends on how he lost it. Are there stretch marks, "soccer mom" arms, hanging fupa. Not that I mind. It's like the best of both worlds for a bi female.

LMAO!!!

I like big guys in drag. Way more attractive than skinny ones.

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lol I just like giving rabbit butter. He's doing good work for himself right now.

Been married once, really don't need to be married to the Cancer. However, HE wants to be married, and he likes the ring, so I will abide by what he wants. That piece of paper isn't the end all be all for me. I can be with him for life, without it. Marriage doesn't equate to longevity of a relationship.

And to be honest, I really don't see a need for an extravagant wedding. The wasting of money, to essentially entertain a bunch of folks, seems economically stupid. I'd be fine going to Vegas, putting on a nice little eggshell dress, and then just having fun the remaining time like a vacation. Hell, I wouldn't mind a justice of the peace doing it, and then spending money on a honeymoon instead.

I just don't see a purpose in NEEDING to be married.